"WHY DIDN’T MY DAD TELL ME HE LOVED ME?"

I still remember sitting next to her at the funeral home. She was in her 50’s and her dad had just passed away. She wasn’t crying, instead she was weeping uncontrollably. I asked her if she was okay, and she repeated the same question to me over and over, “Why didn’t my dad ever tell me he loved me. I know he did, but why didn’t he ever just say it? Would it have been that hard just to say it?” I didn’t really have an answer.

Thankfully I was raised around a dad that was always willing to tell me, “I love you son.” Even after he’d just disciplined me for something I’d done wrong, he’d always let me know, “I love you son.” That was his way of saying, “I’ll never stop loving you. No matter what you do.” This past weekend I got to spend some time with my dad and at least twice he told me how much he loved me. I am SO thankful for a dad who was man enough to tell me he loved me.

Dads, you cannot tell your children “I love you” enough. Trust me, one of the biggest fears that they have is messing up so bad that their parents eventually stop loving them! We need to ALWAYS communicate to our kids that there is NOTHING they can do to make us stop loving them!

I am sick and tired of the men who refuse to tell their kids they love them because “their daddy didn’t do this for them.” BE A MAN … tell your kids you love them … A LOT!!!

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I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast. Read 1182 articles by
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  1. Russell Hawkins says:

    AMEN!

  2. preacherman says:

    Trey,
    Excellent post.
    I tell my 3 boys all the time. I want them to know it even when they disobey just how much I love them. When I tuck them in bed at night I ask them the question that I know many parents ask “You know how much I love you?” And with arms out stretched they’ll say it with me, “More than the whole wide world.”
    Trey I believe this is the best post you have done. God bless you brother!

  3. The Preacher's Household: says:

    My Dad not only told me but showed me with his actions and demeaner towards me. James does the same with the kids.

    If someone doesn’t start showing the love then you pass that on for generations.
    Kathy

  4. Greg says:

    So very true. I didn’t hear those words from my dad more than a few times in a life time, but I am very intentional about saying them to my grown children. I work with my son, but we end the day telling each other, “I love you.” Of course, in California we have to be careful not to say that very loud just anywhere!!

  5. Brandon says:

    Amen. Most definitely agree. That goes to the wife as well. She not only needs to hear it, she wants to, and why would deny that little smile on her face when you tell her?

  6. That Girl says:

    Although my daddy doesn’t always say the words, he ALWAYS shows me and that is MUCH more important to me.

  7. jel says:

    I’m dad , never to me he loved me,
    but i knew he did, by all the things he did for me!

    when I told him I, loved him, he would say , ( that’s what they all say) then I would say yell but I mean it!

    a good post Trey,

  8. Anonymous says:

    My life would have been so different if my dad could have said these words and been a positive part of my life.

    But, learning from my experience, I try my hardest to make sure my own children hear me say the words “I love you” and know that I mean it.

    Great post!

  9. Matt says:

    I was blessed with a father who showed me real masculinity, and How sometimes the most masculine thing to do is not to criticize, because any fool with emotions can do that. A real man says I love you not because of a fuzzy feeling in the pit of his bowels but as a reassuring statement to those whom he is molding whether that be his children, wife, or friends. Great post!

    I also remember when I was graduating an elder saying, that the one thing he regretted in life was not telling people that he loved them more often.
    love ya Trey,
    FMtWR

  10. David says:

    I lived through two generations (grandfather and father) that just couldn’t say it and therefore there WAS something lacking in the relationship. I’m trying to erase that with my three grown boys and let them know every chance I can that I love them and appreciate them. I started with my first grand child well before she was born. That sounds silly but it’s too important and it’s one reason the family unit is breaking down. Fathers need to “stand in the gap”! I’ll be e:mailing or calling my boys again today just because of this post. Great post Trey!

  11. Bob Bliss says:

    Trey, I left a comment on this post the other day. I don’t see it here. Did it end up in your spam list? I seem have had some troubling leaving comments in several blogs the other day but today everyone’s blog seems to be accepting my comments. Thanks.

  12. TREY MORGAN says:

    David …. what a blessing you’re giving to your children. Thanks for sharing your heart with us.

    Bob … I didn’t even know I had a spam list. Sorry… I sure didn’t delete it. Love the new picture.

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