Comments on: WHAT ARE YOUR SPOUSE’S NEEDS http://treymorgan.net/what-are-your-spouses-needs/ Thu, 24 May 2012 22:02:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Peter P http://treymorgan.net/what-are-your-spouses-needs/comment-page-1/#comment-10377 Peter P Thu, 15 Jan 2009 19:24:44 +0000 http://day3hosts.com/treymorgan/2009/01/what-are-your-spouses-needs/#comment-10377 Ooo, I didn't know I had had a 'comment of the day'. ooo, I feel special.<br/><br/>Thanks Trey. Ooo, I didn’t know I had had a ‘comment of the day’. ooo, I feel special.

Thanks Trey.

]]> By: TREY MORGAN http://treymorgan.net/what-are-your-spouses-needs/comment-page-1/#comment-10309 TREY MORGAN Mon, 12 Jan 2009 04:09:07 +0000 http://day3hosts.com/treymorgan/2009/01/what-are-your-spouses-needs/#comment-10309 Anon - That's not completely uncommon, but it's why you communicate with your spouse your needs. So they will know. Anon – That’s not completely uncommon, but it’s why you communicate with your spouse your needs. So they will know.

]]> By: anon http://treymorgan.net/what-are-your-spouses-needs/comment-page-1/#comment-10306 anon Sun, 11 Jan 2009 22:53:01 +0000 http://day3hosts.com/treymorgan/2009/01/what-are-your-spouses-needs/#comment-10306 Interesting lists. What about the wife who sexual desire is number one. That does not seem to be on there. Interesting lists. What about the wife who sexual desire is number one. That does not seem to be on there.

]]> By: nick http://treymorgan.net/what-are-your-spouses-needs/comment-page-1/#comment-10265 nick Thu, 08 Jan 2009 18:16:07 +0000 http://day3hosts.com/treymorgan/2009/01/what-are-your-spouses-needs/#comment-10265 Carly is from a very conservative CoC background, so her issues with praying together are more wrapped up in issues of silence and gender roles, etc.<br/><br/>I'm the one REALLY looking forward to it, but I don't want to force it on her. That's why I'm looking forward to you giving us some coaching :) Carly is from a very conservative CoC background, so her issues with praying together are more wrapped up in issues of silence and gender roles, etc.

I’m the one REALLY looking forward to it, but I don’t want to force it on her. That’s why I’m looking forward to you giving us some coaching :)

]]> By: Liss and MOMMY http://treymorgan.net/what-are-your-spouses-needs/comment-page-1/#comment-10256 Liss and MOMMY Thu, 08 Jan 2009 03:58:39 +0000 http://day3hosts.com/treymorgan/2009/01/what-are-your-spouses-needs/#comment-10256 Is letting your wife take the fall for your comment part of His needs her needs? ;) Is letting your wife take the fall for your comment part of His needs her needs? ;)

]]> By: Jen http://treymorgan.net/what-are-your-spouses-needs/comment-page-1/#comment-10255 Jen Thu, 08 Jan 2009 01:20:45 +0000 http://day3hosts.com/treymorgan/2009/01/what-are-your-spouses-needs/#comment-10255 Thanks Trey! I think I am going to order that book tonight. Thanks Trey! I think I am going to order that book tonight.

]]> By: freetolive http://treymorgan.net/what-are-your-spouses-needs/comment-page-1/#comment-10254 freetolive Wed, 07 Jan 2009 22:23:17 +0000 http://day3hosts.com/treymorgan/2009/01/what-are-your-spouses-needs/#comment-10254 Thanks Trey. I am going to bookmark this. Thanks Trey. I am going to bookmark this.

]]> By: Evan Williams http://treymorgan.net/what-are-your-spouses-needs/comment-page-1/#comment-10253 Evan Williams Wed, 07 Jan 2009 21:23:23 +0000 http://day3hosts.com/treymorgan/2009/01/what-are-your-spouses-needs/#comment-10253 ummmmm..... well im not married yet.... and probably wont be for several years.. but i could see that in my parents life ummmmm….. well im not married yet…. and probably wont be for several years.. but i could see that in my parents life

]]> By: cwinwc http://treymorgan.net/what-are-your-spouses-needs/comment-page-1/#comment-10252 cwinwc Wed, 07 Jan 2009 20:59:34 +0000 http://day3hosts.com/treymorgan/2009/01/what-are-your-spouses-needs/#comment-10252 A accurate list with the omission of weekly round of golf for husband or better known as the "Kitchen Pass." A accurate list with the omission of weekly round of golf for husband or better known as the “Kitchen Pass.”

]]> By: One Observationist http://treymorgan.net/what-are-your-spouses-needs/comment-page-1/#comment-10251 One Observationist Wed, 07 Jan 2009 20:48:16 +0000 http://day3hosts.com/treymorgan/2009/01/what-are-your-spouses-needs/#comment-10251 My wife and I went through a "His Needs Her Needs" class at Southwest COC in Omaha, NE a few years ago.<br/><br/>It was a good book/class/discussion. We have always done a decent job of communicating, but it was good for both of us to hear that other spouses struggled with some of the same issues; i.e. sex and affection.<br/><br/>I would recommend the book/class if for no other reason that to keep emphasizing communication in the marriage. I agree with you Trey, needs do change with the times and then change back. Sometimes things just aren't as important as they once were. It is hard for a spouse to take care of the other member if they don't know what's up in the other person's head.<br/><br/>Good thoughts.<br/>Jeremy My wife and I went through a “His Needs Her Needs” class at Southwest COC in Omaha, NE a few years ago.

It was a good book/class/discussion. We have always done a decent job of communicating, but it was good for both of us to hear that other spouses struggled with some of the same issues; i.e. sex and affection.

I would recommend the book/class if for no other reason that to keep emphasizing communication in the marriage. I agree with you Trey, needs do change with the times and then change back. Sometimes things just aren’t as important as they once were. It is hard for a spouse to take care of the other member if they don’t know what’s up in the other person’s head.

Good thoughts.
Jeremy

]]> By: That Girl http://treymorgan.net/what-are-your-spouses-needs/comment-page-1/#comment-10250 That Girl Wed, 07 Jan 2009 19:31:29 +0000 http://day3hosts.com/treymorgan/2009/01/what-are-your-spouses-needs/#comment-10250 You very graciously sent a copy to me after my recent wedding and after 4 months of marriage, I will say that initially, I didn't like reading the book because I can't stand that the physical is so important to men. Soon after reading the book, I began to feel that the running I was doing was to be thin and to be a recreational companion for my new husband... then I started hating running because I felt like I was doing it for him rather than for me. Eventually, I forced myself to explain that to him and he hated that I felt that way. He enjoyed me running but he wanted me to enjoy it, too. Truth was, he wasn't enjoying running as much because if he were to run like he wanted to, he would be WAY ahead of me. Now, he runs alone and we find other recreational activities to enjoy together (like going to football and basketball games together)<br/>I've bought Love and Respect and will make some horribly long comment such as this when you ask about that book.<br/>I'm not a good communicator right now so the Mr. is having to guess a lot. I'm trying, just not there, yet! :) You very graciously sent a copy to me after my recent wedding and after 4 months of marriage, I will say that initially, I didn’t like reading the book because I can’t stand that the physical is so important to men. Soon after reading the book, I began to feel that the running I was doing was to be thin and to be a recreational companion for my new husband… then I started hating running because I felt like I was doing it for him rather than for me. Eventually, I forced myself to explain that to him and he hated that I felt that way. He enjoyed me running but he wanted me to enjoy it, too. Truth was, he wasn’t enjoying running as much because if he were to run like he wanted to, he would be WAY ahead of me. Now, he runs alone and we find other recreational activities to enjoy together (like going to football and basketball games together)
I’ve bought Love and Respect and will make some horribly long comment such as this when you ask about that book.
I’m not a good communicator right now so the Mr. is having to guess a lot. I’m trying, just not there, yet! :)

]]> By: blogprophet http://treymorgan.net/what-are-your-spouses-needs/comment-page-1/#comment-10249 blogprophet Wed, 07 Jan 2009 19:18:10 +0000 http://day3hosts.com/treymorgan/2009/01/what-are-your-spouses-needs/#comment-10249 that cartoon is good.<br/><br/>marisa likes me to help around the house, I like spending time together that cartoon is good.

marisa likes me to help around the house, I like spending time together

]]> By: Peter P http://treymorgan.net/what-are-your-spouses-needs/comment-page-1/#comment-10248 Peter P Wed, 07 Jan 2009 17:37:18 +0000 http://day3hosts.com/treymorgan/2009/01/what-are-your-spouses-needs/#comment-10248 When was the last time my wife knew what she needed or would have been prepared to tell me what it was when I asked?<br/><br/>Seriously though, this is a two way thing, we need to be asking but we also need to be prepared to reply! When was the last time my wife knew what she needed or would have been prepared to tell me what it was when I asked?

Seriously though, this is a two way thing, we need to be asking but we also need to be prepared to reply!

]]> By: TREY MORGAN http://treymorgan.net/what-are-your-spouses-needs/comment-page-1/#comment-10247 TREY MORGAN Wed, 07 Jan 2009 16:31:38 +0000 http://day3hosts.com/treymorgan/2009/01/what-are-your-spouses-needs/#comment-10247 Melissa ... um, that wasn't me that wrote that ... it was Lea ;) Melissa … um, that wasn’t me that wrote that … it was Lea ;)

]]> By: TREY MORGAN http://treymorgan.net/what-are-your-spouses-needs/comment-page-1/#comment-10246 TREY MORGAN Wed, 07 Jan 2009 16:30:30 +0000 http://day3hosts.com/treymorgan/2009/01/what-are-your-spouses-needs/#comment-10246 Greg - I think its okay to make a 6th category and add guitars in there :)<br/><br/>Nick - Powerful comment Nick. I agree 100% that most of us give what we want to get, rather than what your spouse needs. As for the praying with your wife I did write this (http://tinyurl.com/7hbvgu) , but didn't have a lot to say on coaching. I love the concept of a post on that though. And, I will admit ... women are usually pretty comfortable with it, while it's the men who struggle to pray in front of their wives (I was included in that).<br/><br/>Hi Sweet Kim - I haven't seen run fatboy run ... but the title alone sounds great. I'll check it out. Love ya! Greg – I think its okay to make a 6th category and add guitars in there :)

Nick – Powerful comment Nick. I agree 100% that most of us give what we want to get, rather than what your spouse needs. As for the praying with your wife I did write this (http://tinyurl.com/7hbvgu) , but didn’t have a lot to say on coaching. I love the concept of a post on that though. And, I will admit … women are usually pretty comfortable with it, while it’s the men who struggle to pray in front of their wives (I was included in that).

Hi Sweet Kim – I haven’t seen run fatboy run … but the title alone sounds great. I’ll check it out. Love ya!

]]> By: Liss and MOMMY http://treymorgan.net/what-are-your-spouses-needs/comment-page-1/#comment-10245 Liss and MOMMY Wed, 07 Jan 2009 16:30:05 +0000 http://day3hosts.com/treymorgan/2009/01/what-are-your-spouses-needs/#comment-10245 Thanks to your brother. Cody and I are starting this class much against us wanting too... Just kidding. For some odd reason he thought we should. Hee hee! Funny I would mention the word odd isn't it. I just read someone else's blog where you said I was a little odd. Just wait... Thanks to your brother. Cody and I are starting this class much against us wanting too… Just kidding. For some odd reason he thought we should. Hee hee! Funny I would mention the word odd isn’t it. I just read someone else’s blog where you said I was a little odd. Just wait…

]]> By: kim http://treymorgan.net/what-are-your-spouses-needs/comment-page-1/#comment-10244 kim Wed, 07 Jan 2009 16:03:34 +0000 http://day3hosts.com/treymorgan/2009/01/what-are-your-spouses-needs/#comment-10244 hey there trey!<br/><br/>i think the list of the feminine needs are right on for me. as far as the other list i think generally it's right. the only one that i question is #2. i can tell that he enjoys it when i take part or interest in the "recreational" activities that he enjoys, but sometimes i feel like he wouldn't really notice if i didn't. maybe i am wrong.<br/><br/>hey, question for you... have you seen the movie run fatboy run? it has a little bit of language in it, but it is hilarious and more than that very inspirational. i figured that you especially as a runner would enjoy it. we watched it on new years eve and it was a great pick to start the year out. hey there trey!

i think the list of the feminine needs are right on for me. as far as the other list i think generally it’s right. the only one that i question is #2. i can tell that he enjoys it when i take part or interest in the “recreational” activities that he enjoys, but sometimes i feel like he wouldn’t really notice if i didn’t. maybe i am wrong.

hey, question for you… have you seen the movie run fatboy run? it has a little bit of language in it, but it is hilarious and more than that very inspirational. i figured that you especially as a runner would enjoy it. we watched it on new years eve and it was a great pick to start the year out.

]]> By: nick gill http://treymorgan.net/what-are-your-spouses-needs/comment-page-1/#comment-10243 nick gill Wed, 07 Jan 2009 15:44:33 +0000 http://day3hosts.com/treymorgan/2009/01/what-are-your-spouses-needs/#comment-10243 I pretty much agree with the list. I think the difference between affection and admiration needs to be better understood. Most of us give what we want to get, rather than what our spouse needs. One of my professors described it as: Men want to be recognized and honored for "what they do." Women want to be recognized and honored for "who they are."<br/><br/>I think that even Scripture shows us that the Domestic Support / Financial Support stereotype isn't as clear-cut as we often make it.<br/><br/>My wife and I spent some serious time during the holiday season evaluating how we were doing at meeting needs.<br/><br/>On a related note, Trey: I know you've written about couples praying together before, but I can't remember if you wrote anything specifically coaching couples who might be wanting to start praying together. If you have, could you remind me where it is? If you haven't... :) Carly and I could use the wisdom of the work you and Lea have done together. I pretty much agree with the list. I think the difference between affection and admiration needs to be better understood. Most of us give what we want to get, rather than what our spouse needs. One of my professors described it as: Men want to be recognized and honored for “what they do.” Women want to be recognized and honored for “who they are.”

I think that even Scripture shows us that the Domestic Support / Financial Support stereotype isn’t as clear-cut as we often make it.

My wife and I spent some serious time during the holiday season evaluating how we were doing at meeting needs.

On a related note, Trey: I know you’ve written about couples praying together before, but I can’t remember if you wrote anything specifically coaching couples who might be wanting to start praying together. If you have, could you remind me where it is? If you haven’t… :) Carly and I could use the wisdom of the work you and Lea have done together.

]]> By: Stoogelover http://treymorgan.net/what-are-your-spouses-needs/comment-page-1/#comment-10242 Stoogelover Wed, 07 Jan 2009 15:12:07 +0000 http://day3hosts.com/treymorgan/2009/01/what-are-your-spouses-needs/#comment-10242 Other than the obvious omission of guitars in the husband's top needs, our needs are very much on track with what Harley writes in his book. And yes, we often will ask how are we doing with one another ... when we have time! Great reminder not to take this area of life for granted. Other than the obvious omission of guitars in the husband’s top needs, our needs are very much on track with what Harley writes in his book. And yes, we often will ask how are we doing with one another … when we have time! Great reminder not to take this area of life for granted.

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