I knew it was going to be a big funeral. That’s why I had planned ahead to be early. Since I was just attending this funeral and not actually doing it, I knew seating in the little country church building was going to be at a minimum. I’ve had to stand for forty-five minutes for funerals before, and I can guarantee you after about five minutes, it’s no fun.

Even though I arrived forty-five minutes early, I was amazed how close I’d cut it and barley got one of the last seats available. My seat was perfect. It was towards the back and right on the end. I couldn’t help but be proud of my planning. Here I was sitting in a premium seat in a packed building where in a few minutes people would be standing up everywhere.

As I sat there watching people file in, it wasn’t long until people stood lining the isles all the way to the back. It just so happened that God placed a woman standing just 3 feet from my seat. I tried hard to pretend I didn’t notice her there, but I really had. I kept my head down knowing that if I made eye contact with her it would only make me feel guilty for not offering her my seat.

I did really well for about two minutes until a little voice (God I presume) deep inside said, “Trey, look at you. What are you doing? Get up and give that woman your seat.”

Before I had time to even respond, a second and much different little voice said, “Trey, you’ve got to be kidding me. Don’t you even consider giving up your seat. You planned this whole thing out perfectly. You put effort into this, so you’ve got every right to keep your seat.”

The battle was on. One part of me, the good side, was saying, “Do what’s right.” While the other selfish side was saying, “It’s your seat, keep it.” I sat there a little longer wrestling over what I should do. I knew I should give up my seat, but I’d invested so much time and energy into getting my seat.

The good voice said, “Trey, you’re a preacher, set an example by giving up your seat.” Immediately the bad voice said, “Dude, you got here early. Come on, I know you’ve heard the old saying, ‘The early bird gets the worm?’ and how about, ‘You snooze you lose?’ This is a high quality seat. You can’t give this up. Besides you know those stinking preachers, if you stand up this preacher’s going to feel like he’s got to talk for a stinking hour!!!”

Back and forth the war raged on. What do I do? I finally looked up at the woman standing next to me. As we made eye contact, I felt deep down God prodding me. I took a deep breath and smiled as sincere a smile as I possibly could. “Excuse me ma’am,” I said, “Would you please take my seat.”

She motioned to me to lean in close so she could whisper something to me, “Thank you, but I actually have a bad back, I’m much more comfortable just standing!”


(Philippians 2:3-4 “Don’t be jealous or proud, but be humble and consider others more important than yourselves. Care about them as much as you care about yourselves…”)

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  1. Greg says:

    We were taught you ALWAYS give up a seat to a woman or anyone who is elderly but I’ve had that same battle. Out here in CA, I’ve offered my seat to women only to be all but beaten for being sexist! I have it so ingrained in me to say “Yes, Ma’am” or “No Ma’am” to a woman and that’s caused a lot of grief to women out here as well.

  2. blogprophet says:

    sometimes God wants us to have a seat….

  3. merry says:

    Too funny!

    At least you don’t have to worry about having a nagging feeling of guilt about sitting when she was standing because you never offered.

  4. Kevin says:

    Great story!

  5. donna says:

    whew!! I thought I was the only one that had such long conversations in my head!!

  6. Anonymous says:

    I worked until I was almost 65 as a counselor’s helper. I felt sad that in those days almost 10 years ago a group of men would be outside smoking and visiting. Here I’d come with my briefcase and numerous other things, including a large purse and no one spoke and no one offered to help. I knew lots of women had put me in that position. One day a gentleman came to the door as I did and said, “let me get that door for you
    my dad taught me that a man should should do that.” I answered very nicely and said, “thank you, my dad taught me that I should graciously accept.” I had a good day. I am glad you offered your seat, I would have been disappointed had you sat there.

  7. Matt says:

    I like that verse you put at the bottom, however, my wife, I believe has caught on to this. And has posted a pretty note card with that scripture on it, above the sink so now everytime I pass the sink and notice that it is full of dishes. I see that, “consider others better…” and then its on. I have considered walking around the house blind folded. what do you think how do i solve this dilemma.

  8. Falantedios says:

    Turn off the water to the sink.

    Do the dishes very badly every day for a week.

    Get some pretty note cards of your own, and type up Proverbs 31:23.

    Just some ideas! :)


  9. Justin says:

    This seems to be the normal battle for a Christian. God speaks, and we think about it, right?

    You should consider writing a book (if you haven’t already). Your writing style is very interesting, and I really think it would be a best seller!

  10. mmlace says:

    “This seems to be a normal battle for a Christian…”

    As I read about this struggle within yourself (which Justin is right about, we all struggle within ourselves!) I couldn’t help but think of Romans 7

  11. preacherman says:

    I was a at a huge funneral like your situation once. Instead it was a big fat lady was taking up her seat and almost half of mine. It was like she was trying to force me out of her seat so she could have more bootee room. My wife was just like just get up. I was like having a wiggle fight with this huge lady for ten minutes….Guess who won?
    You got it. Preacherman. Guess who heard it all the way home. You got it! Preacherman. :-)

  12. preacherman says:

    Did you hear about the preacher who was at the funneral and open and enter through the wrong door. All you hear is a big SPLASH!!!!
    YOU GOT IT!!! He entered through the baptistry door instead of the stage door.

  13. preacherman says:

    I have one more good one…..
    The above are absolutely true as well as this one.
    A preacher was waiting for the pall bearers to pick up the casket well one of the slipped. The preacher was in front of the casket. As the casket slipped it opened up the the body fell on top of the preacher. The preacher started yelling…”Get it off me!” “Get it of me!” The family is still in the lobby.

    So Trey things could be worse. :-)

  14. preacherman says:

    Oh, okay I had to tell you one more funneral story. A young preacher was doing a funner. It was his first funneral to ever do. When the funneral was all over. A blue haired lady came up to him and said, “Preacher that funneral I want to thank you so much for preaching my funneral. I’ll have to get you do it a second time.” The young preacher had used the wrong name the entire time throughout the funneral. :-)

  15. Neva says:

    Good thing I read the rest of the post, from just the title I was going to talk to you about some different medications!



  16. Adam Clark says:

    That’s a little smack from God isn’t it?

    Were only human… and even guys need to be comfortable sometimes.

    God needs to test sometimes.

    Praise him :).

  17. TREY MORGAN says:

    Thank you! I came in late last night after being out of town all day. When I sat down about midnight to read all your comments my tired body was encouraged. I’m honored that you stopped by and left a note. It lifted my spirits.

    I read each comment and appreciated them all. I especially liked comment #6 made by anonymous. They concluded, “I would have been disappointed had you sat there.” A dead giveaway, that was a phrase only a mom would use :) Love ya Mom!

  18. Anonymous says:

    I’m glad you at least offered her your seat.

  19. Monalea says:

    I have heard voices all my life, I just didn’t know they were my good and bad side. I thought I was crazy.


  20. Lightening says:


    Oh, I do enjoy God’s sense of humour in dealing with us at times. :-)

  21. preacherman says:

    I want to say I am sorry. I just wanted lift your spirits with some humor. I meant no disrespect to you, your sister or your family. I was just trying to lift your spirits when you got home. I feel your sorrow and pain. I am here for you brother. I love you and cherish our relationship more than anything.
    God bless you brother.

  22. TREY MORGAN says:

    Preacherman – I was not offended in anyway. No worries.

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