I was reluctant to write this post because I have not perfected these points in anyway, but here goes…

  • A real woman puts God first in everything she does. (Matthew 6:33)

  • A real women is a woman of prayer. She doesn’t waste time by worrying, instead she gives her anxieties to God. (Philippians 4:6-7)
  • A real woman puts more effort into inner beauty than outward beauty.  Women tend to put a lot of time, money and effort into hair, makeup, nails, clothes, shoes, accessories, tanning and being physically fit.  Do we spend an equal amount of time and effort making ourselves inwardly beautiful by feeding on God’s word, clothing ourselves with Christ, and putting on love?  (1 Peter 3:3-4)
  • A real woman knows that the way to a man’s heart is not always through the kitchen. (You get the point). 
  • A real woman does not think she is better than anyone else. Jesus associated with all kinds of people so we ought to as well.  (Romans 12:3)
  • A real woman keeps her tongue in check.  She does not gossip, lie, nag or criticize.  (James 1:26)
  • A real woman guards her heart from garbage.  She chooses carefully the movies and television she watches, the books she reads, and the music she listens to, because what goes into a woman’s heart and mind will eventually come out in the way she lives.  (Psalms 27:19)
  • A real woman doesn’t hold grudges, keep a score card or bring up past mistakes.  She forgives and forgets. (Matthew 18:21, Colossians 3:13)
  • A real woman is busy at home.  This might mean she has to cook and clean every once in a while.  (Hey, Paul wrote it before I did :-))  (Titus 2:5, 1 Timothy 5:14)
  • A real woman keeps her priorities in check.  As busy women, this might be one of our hardest struggles.  In Luke 10, we find that Martha was busy serving the Lord, but Mary was choosing to sit at his feet. We are often asked to take part in many good and worthwhile activities, but we can’t do it all, especially if we forsake our time with God to do these things.  Before we say “yes” to anything, maybe we should ask ourselves, “Will this matter in eternity?”  
I’m sure there are some traits of a real woman that I’ve overlooked.  What else could you add?

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I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast. Read 1182 articles by
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  1. Peter P says:

    Trey, you could be at risk of losing your logging crown to your wife next year!

    Awesome post!

  2. Peter P says:

    That was supposed to say BLOGGING crown not LOGGING crown.

    But maybe you’ll lose that one too!

  3. Lori says:

    Great job, Lea! You should start your own blog :).

  4. Bobby Ross says:

    Yeah, Trey, I’m thinking you need to talk Lea into blogging more regularly. :-)

  5. Dr. Roger D. Butner says:

    What, no reference to Proverbs 31?!? 😀 I love the name of this book by Nancy Kennedy – “Help, I’m Being Intimidated by the Provers Thirty-One Woman: My Battles with a Role Model Who’s Larger than Life.”

    Great list, and great post, Lea. And thanks for modeling humility and courage – two great treats of a Real Woman.

  6. Scott says:

    Lea and Trey thanks for the posting about men and women. Both are great insights.

  7. Anonymous says:

    thanks, lea,
    great stuff.

    what’s this logging crown I keep hearing about?


  8. Karin says:

    Excellent!! Thanks for doing this Lea! And if we all, men and women, put God first in our lives, then He will live His life through us and we will see these wonderful traits in both genders! The Fruit of His Holy Spirit! God bless you and have a Happy Easter!

  9. Tamie says:

    We’re all still figuring this out! Thanks for the well-worded message, Lea!

  10. Anonymous says:

    What a wonderful job. You really need to do this more often.

  11. That Girl says:

    Great list!

    Single women are real women, too!

  12. Katherine says:

    Great post, Lea-and I don’t think any of us will ever “perfect” all of those points, but if we are putting God first-hopefully they will usually fall in place and He will take care of the rest! :)

    And I agree…you should start your own blog and give Trey a little competition-lol

    Btw, Amen- “That Girl”!! 😉

  13. Sarah says:

    Wow. Blessed me and stomped on my toes all at the same time. Thanks so much, Lea and Trey!

  14. Tucker says:

    Printing this off and showing my wife! I will do some highlighting of a few certain ones for her too. I am always the most helpful I can be.
    Great job! Forget the blog…you two should write a book!

  15. TREY MORGAN says:

    Tucker … do you realize how much trouble you’re going to get into? I’m not going to be the one doing the counseling. :)

  16. Lana says:

    That was very good!! Trey she’s giving you a run for your money on the blogging thing!! You need to talk her into having her own!!

  17. NB says:

    Well done, Lea!

  18. Dawn Jenkins says:

    Lea – I second the motion – you need your own blog where you can offer up tons of advice to wives and mothers (esp. of boys =)

  19. Cecelia says:

    Thank you,Lea. As I read your blog, I was asking myself if I fit into any of those categories. I feel I fall short on all of them.

  20. Stoogelover says:

    Very good. Every now and then you should allow Trey to write another blog here.

  21. jel says:

    Thanks Lea!

    flybyhugging! :)

  22. LEA says:

    Thanks for all your kind words and encouragement. I enjoy doing it occasionally, but I think I’ll let Trey stick to being the regular blogger :)

    Thanks again,


  23. Doug Young says:

    Awesome stuff Lea. Your second bullet point so resonated with me that I felt I had to part company with some anxiety right then and there!



  24. Anonymous says:

    A real wife, mother of four boys, a preachers wife, a teacher, a worker for the Lord doesn’t have the time Lea has to be so good at all she does to be a full time blogger. That doesn’t mean she couldn’t. She does everything about perfect. Her mother-in-law!

  25. roadtripray says:

    About your third point, I know for me my wife is the most attractive to me when I see the side of her that shows the love of Christ when she serves others. We helped in an urban area once, and she took the initiative to go and talk and pray with some of the people in a pretty scary neighborhood while I was helping unload a truck. When I realized what she was doing, it just melted me.


  26. Janice Garrison says:

    Well done! You could teach a class on what you wrote, for young wives or older ones who are still struggling.

    I also love the fact that some real men took time to comment.

  27. Anonymous says:

    Gets up and goes to work every morning to invest in her family.

    Takes night classes for her MBA in order to better serve her family and society.

    Looks and listens for God even though she can’t see or hear him/her/it.

    What is a real woman? Excellent question.

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