http://www.treymorgan.net/2008/02/getting-my-nails-painted.html

Thanks

Rob

They encourage men to be real men.

Once people realize this they will cease being animals only interested in their own interests.

They will see the greatness of love of God in the creation in all ways. We are not here to work for our personal interests alone. That there is more to life than filling your belly and your desire for sex. Also life must have greater purpose then being born raising your children. Hoarding possessions as a weasel, paying your bills and then dying. Yet to millions of people these things are precisely what they live for. If these things are removed from their life it becomes empty and they would find it completely intolerable. Most people go through most of life in a haze. They really have no idea who they are, what is going on,

more on what it is to be a “Real” man at :

http://godssecret.wordpress.com/category/self-help-spirituality/

That tip’s free – the next one will cost you.

I think your comments were much better than the post.

Dawn … the books that Roger recommended are excellent. I will hit Lea up and see if she’s up for a post

Roger thanks for the recommendations.

Terry – I LOVED your story.

As for the picture … yea, it creeped me out too!

Thanks and keep the message coming!

I would highly recommend “The Way of the Wild Heart” by John Eldredge, “Bringing Up Boys” by James Dobson, and “Raising Sons and Loving It” by Gary and Carrie Oliver.

(I’m a Christian marriage and family therapist who loves to recommend good resources, so your comment really flipped that switch for me.)

Without thinking, I said, “In about 15 years.”

Then I realized that I had a “teaching moment.”

So I said, “To be a man, you will need to be responsible. Do you know what it means to be responsible?”

He said, “No.”

I replied, “It means that you take care of what you are supposed to take care of. You do that when you feed the dog.”

Then I continued, “To be a man, you also need to take initiative. Do you know what that means?”

My son said, “No.”

“Well, that means that when you see a problem, you try to solve it. You don’t wait for someone else to solve it or for someone to ask you to solve it. When you are at school, and someone has been hurt on the playground, you go and see what you can do to help.”

Christopher gave me a serious look and said, “I’ve never done that before.”

A week or so later, I took him to karate practice. On the way inside the building, Christopher saw some trash. He picked it up and threw it away.

I said, “Do you know what you just did? You saw a problem and took the initiative to solve it without being asked. You took responsibility. You’re becoming a man!”

You should have seen the look on his face. Our boys need to know what being a man is, and they need the encouragement of their fathers when they start taking steps toward manhood. Thanks for doing your part, Trey!

Well, while I’m posting a second comment – if anyone is interested in learning the critical difference between men’s and women’s brains, check out my post from yesterday on my blog.

I like the four part definition Robert Lewis offers in Men’s Fraternity (which I cannot recommend highly enough to all men, by the way!)

A real man:
- Rejects passivity.
- Accepts responsibility.
- Leads courageously.
- Expects God’s greater reward.

Beyond what has already been covered, I guess I would just add…a real man can drive a stick shift. No, seriously, I think a real man doesn’t have to go around trying to prove he’s a real man.

Second, "Real men don't eat quiche." BUT they'll eat "egg & sausage casserole" at men's retreats and men's breakfasts all day and never bat an eye. Go figure. Guys, that stuff is quiche an a bigger pan.

Third, that picture really creeps me out.

Thanks bro, you’re awesome!