THREE IS A CROWD IN BED

Lea and I have always slept on a king size bed. We think it’s absolutely the perfect size. You can easily find each other in a king size bed when you want, and you can sneak off to your own side and not be bothered when it’s time to sleep. While it’s the perfect sized bed for two adults, I’m learning that if you throw in a long legged 7-year-old son, who’s all of a sudden too spooked to sleep in his own bed, then you have huge complications.

For the last couple of weeks Cooper has found his way to our bed sometime during the middle of each night. Often times I don’t even know when he shows up. I just roll over and all of a sudden I’m thinking, “Where did he come from.”
What I’m learning is that my seven year old son has some interesting sleeping habits. I’ve found out that while he sleeps he’s a wiggler, a snuggler, a toucher and even an arm flailer. And while all of those things may be okay for some people … it’s not for us. We’re finding it a little hard to sleep.
He has other amazing sleeping skills too. For example when he gets hot, he can rip the entire king size sheet and blankets off of the bed with one “shoosh” of his foot. Now keep in mind, he doesn’t ask us if we are hot, he just figures that we are and “helps us out.” One minute your sleeping great, all snuggled up in a ball, and the next minute someone has ripped all your covers off leaving you feeling cold, naked and really angry.
Lea and I have always joked that, “Kids are the biggest intimacy killers in marriage.” We’ve also realized that kids are the biggest sleep killers too.
Oh, the joys of being a parent.
Honestly, we wouldn’t trade them for anything in the world.

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I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast. Read 1182 articles by
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  1. Stoogelover says:

    The thing with kids is you have to tolerate them in order to have GRANDkids! Fortunately we never had much of a problem with this while raising our children. There were moments of intimacy gone south, though.

    We are supposed to keep either the twins or Jackson one weekend later this summer while Josh and Heather go out of town for a get-away. I told Josh we'd let Jackson sleep with us … he described Jackson's sleep habits much as you described Cooper's. Maybe we'll put him on a pallet beside our bed.

  2. Anonymous says:

    Jason used to crawl in be with Jeff and I, (queen size bed) until we told him he had to stop doing that. So, he started getting his pillow and laying on the floor on Jeff's side…until Jeff stepped on him one morning.
    Sandi

  3. jasonS says:

    Our kids sleep like that too. Our little boy we just tell to sleep on the floor when he's scared. Our little girl though doesn't ask, she just gets in bed (thankfully on my wife's side). It is more than a little crazy sometimes!

  4. Cressie Willis says:

    Matt and I are sleeping with a 6 1/2 month old. She is just now getting to the point of rolling all over the bed. She now sleeps with her feet in my face and her head under Matt's back. We had Cayden in our bed until Madison came along. Then she slept in our bed for 3 years. We had 2 years to ourselves and now we have Payton in there. One day we will have our bed back!

  5. KJ's Blog Spot says:

    Thanks for the laugh! JT tries to use Jonathan being out of town as a reason to sllep with me. He says he doesn't want me to get lonely.

  6. westcoastwitness says:

    Our kids are younger, but they sneak into our bed sometimes too.

    The worst part is they both like to turn sideways in the bed and push me with their feet while they're sleeping. It always wakes me up … 😐

  7. Carolyn Vela says:

    This is too funny! Now I see why Sierra and Cooper get along soooooo well! She's EXACTLY the same way!! I ALWAYS enjoy reading the stories you share!

  8. The Vannoy Family says:

    LOL! Cooper and Aric have been secretly taking LESSONS – they totally have the same game plan!!

  9. Tucker says:

    I'm trying to figure out how to get my 13 year old out of my bed! And he brings all his stuffed animals with him. I wish I had a King bed cause our full size bed isn't big enough for all of us.

  10. Jenschke Family says:

    It's a conspiracy! Coop and Guthri have been scheming!

    Guthri has ALWAYS slept with us. It is a nightmare. One of us ends up on the couch half way through the night. I am totally sick of it! Lonnie promised to help me get her out this summer. Wish us luck!!!

  11. TREY MORGAN says:

    Funny … what an amazing topic. I'm guessing there are others with this issue :)

    I am thankful that they start in their own beds at night. Not sure how healthy it'd be on my marriage for them to start off every night in my bed. Grrrr. :)

  12. Jackie says:

    We used to have 2 kiddos and a weenie dog all in our king size bed!! In the past 2 months, we've downsized to just 1 kid and the dog. But did I mention the one that is no longer in the bed, sleeps in a toddler bed pulled right next to my side!! I literally have to crawl off the end of the bed to get up!!! One day- maybe we will get the 2nd kid out and have them sleeping together in their OWN room!! LOL I'm glad lots of other people have this problem too!!! :)

  13. Anonymous says:

    I think this a problem every parent has had. I had a little long
    legged boy who kept getting in bed with me. I was a single mother at the time. As he got older I knew I needed for that habit to stop. I said "NO" in no uncertain words that night. He ran away the next day because I said no to that night also. He went a whole block before I sent his older sister to get him back home. We had lots of talks mostly about running away when you don't get your way. He's grown up wonderfully adjusted I might add. He never mentions sleeping in my bed any more. He's got a sweet little wife and kids of his own. It works out with love, patience, and some understanding. What is your son afraid of? Or is that an excuse?
    Maybe it's just payback time. gmj

  14. fraizerbaz says:

    Welcome to MY world! My six year old daughter has been sharing a queen-sized bed with me since we moved into our new house – two and a half years ago.

    Now, mind you it's just the two of us, but I routinely get kicked, talked to (and sometimes shouted at)and socked in the face while asleep. Even putting a body pillow in between us doesn't fix things.

    I have repeatedly tried to get her to sleep in her own bed, but frankly, I am just too tired to persist.

    I guess I will just have to wait for her to grow out of this little phase…

  15. Timbra says:

    well, i'm happy to hear you're letting him come and ruin a little sleep for you. . . it's nice when kids know their parents are there for them no matter what time of day :) had to laugh at the whole thing. . . from "finding one another to sneaking away" and "ripping all the covers off!" I hope your little guy gets "unspooked" soon. . but thankfully the cover clearer decided on SUMMER instead of winter for his bout of spookedness!

  16. Brenda says:

    I have to admit, I'm sad this stage is over for us. At times it was a joy….and a burden, but all in all, I miss those time so cuddling. I don't have those moments of kids coming to sit on my lap or wanting to curl up next to me after a bad dream or during a thunderstorm….or….just because. It's nice to relive it through moments like yours and realize that someone else is experiencing that same joy we once day. Many, many, years down the road, we'll be grandparents and doing it all over again. :o)

  17. Steve V. says:

    My wife and I have the bed to our selves durring the week and the kids invade on the weekends. And this after 5 years of trying to run them off. It all started when I went overseas and for all of their sanity my wife let them share her bed every night. To tell you the truth, I like hearing the sound of their breathing after the initial shock of a foot to the rib cage.

  18. Stachia says:

    All four of my kids have slept with me at some point or another. Some of the best talks and pillow fights have occured on the Mommy bed. I have learned a lot of intresting things when they would all start talking, I guess they thought I was asleep.

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