THE TERRIBLE, HORRIBLE, NO GOOD, VERY BAD DAY

As a dad, anytime we take a family trip, I take it as my responsibility to make sure everything runs smoothly. I also know that it falls on the dad to make sure everyone is having fun on the family trips.

This past Tuesday was a tough day to be a dad.
We left out early Tuesday morning to hide out for 4 days in the mountains of Sipipu, New Mexico with all of my family. Things were going fine until the suburban broke down about an hour from our destination. It was at that point everything unraveled at the seems. We spent 4 hours sitting outside the car repair shop being told, “We’ll get you going soon. Don’t give up on us getting you out of here today.”
The boys quickly began to say things like, “How much longer?” “Are they nearly done?” “Are we going to get to eat today?” and “I’m bored!” I really had no answers for the questions. Nothing was going as planned and our day had been shot. Helpless to do anything, I honestly felt like I’d let my whole crew down.
The shop finally told us they couldn’t get the part, and it’d be two days (and a hefty price) before the car was ready. We called my brother, who was already in Sipipu, and he came and picked us up. Somehow we piled everything from our big suburban into his little mini-van. When we arrived at the lodge, we were hours late, exhausted and hungry. Nothing sounded better than eating something and going to bed. The only problem with that was the cabin they gave us didn’t have enough beds. After I woke the very unhappy night manager, we searched until we found a mattress to put on the floor.
Exhausted, hungry and just before midnight we ate a bowl of chicken soup and talked about our day. Just before going to sleep, one of the boys made the comment, “This was one of the worst days ever.” But it really wasn’t. As we continued to talk, we realized it was just a day of inconveniences. We really hadn’t had a bad day. I reminded them that even though we had car trouble, we still had a car. “Only 1 in 5 people in this world owns a car and we’ve got 2,” I said. That makes us pretty lucky. Then we began to count our blessings, “And,” I said, “we only had car trouble, no one was hurt in a wreck.” Someone added, “We’re still going to get to have a vacation, and a lot of people don’t get to do that.” Someone else added, “We’re sleeping in a cabin tonight and not outside on the ground.” “We had supper and that’s more than many people got tonight.” “And, we still have family!” Our attitudes kind of changed as we began to put things into perspective. Although we were tired, we realized we were still very blessed.
Before we could even get the lights out, all the boys were asleep. It had been a really long day that we wouldn’t soon forget.
My dad skills had really been put to the test and had failed me in a lot of areas. Nothing had run smoothly that day, we hadn’t had much fun, and I hadn’t been as patient as I should have been. Sometimes being a dad is tough, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world.
“Be cheerful no matter what; pray all the time; thank God no matter what happens. This is the way God wants you who belong to Christ Jesus to live.”
1 Thessalonians 5:26-18

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  1. fraizerbaz says:

    "A day of inconveniences."

    That is a great way of looking at it! I am going to try that next time I have a yucky day. :-)

  2. Peter P says:

    Perspective is a wonderful thing.

    We all need to use a little of it every now and then!

    Glad you're all safe! If a little poorer from car repairs.

  3. Janice Garrison says:

    Sounds like you made a very good “dad” decision by counting your blessings and letting your light shine even in times of inconvenience and I’m expect the lovely Lea was right there helping you out with your decisions. Good job and good parenting! :)

  4. Tim Archer says:

    Man, you take all of the fun out of grousing, don't you?

    Hope I can remember your story the next time I start complaining.

    Hope you have a great time in Honduras!

    Grace and peace,
    Tim Archer

  5. D. Fuller says:

    T-Ray,
    Dude, you've got tons of "Dad Skills". I love watching you with the boys…

  6. TREY MORGAN says:

    Fraizerbaz – I'll be honest … it's not always easy seeing things as inconveniences :) At least not for me.

    Peter – Much poorer … but still blessed :)

    Janice – Funny how days like these will be the ones that the boys will talk about for a long time.

    Tim – Wish you were going with me.

    Dane – You greatly over estimate my "dad skills," but thanks my old friend. :)

  7. Scott says:

    Some days are like that even in Australia, so Alexander learned. I am glad you and your family were able to refocus. I find God's blessings amazingly more than abundant.

    Thanks! And have good success in Honduras. The people there are great!

  8. MESSIANIC GENTILE says:

    Your kids are blessed to have you as a dad…

    BTW,

    Sorry to be off topic and for not reading and commenting here in a long time, but I want to alert you that the blog/ger formerly known as Messianic Gentile has resuscitated the blog.

    KIT

    Many blessings…

    Agent X

  9. Karin says:

    Very much appreciate your post! There have been too many times in our life when major and minor inconveniences were the Lord's way of keeping us from harm! All of our steps are ordered by the Lord! You showed much wisdom in parenting and practiced what you preach! God bless!

  10. Stephanie Harbin says:

    I am a true believer that there is always a resaon. You may never know why you were held up that day. Maybe to avoid danger to yourself and your family, or maybe you were to minister to someone you wouldn't have encountered otherwise. I wrote a blog on this just last week. Check it out if you get bored!! http://artistdiva.blogspot.com/2009/08/theres-reason.html God is always in control, inconvenience or not!!

  11. Stoogelover says:

    That's not being a bad dad … that's being a great dad during a rather inconvenient day. You done well.

  12. Johnny says:

    Trey, thank you! You reminded me of a few things. One of them is a wise friend once told me there are no "bad days" as they are all gifts from God. Secondly, how often I fail in keeping the attitude of being cheerful no matter what, praying all the time (especially before I "parent," and thanking God no matter what happens. Thank you for the charge. Thank for your transparency and the heart of our Savior. You did not fail, you showed the struggle, and hos Christ gives us the victory.

  13. Anonymous says:

    Trey, the unfortunate things that happened that day caused you and your family to reflect on your many blessings. Sometimes, we all need those reminders. Sorry your first day started out as it did. I'm sure you are one of the best Dads ever. You, certainly, are an encouragment to me. Having been to Honduras, certainly, causes me to be more appreciative of all God has blessed me with. I pray for you and those going with your safety. I know you will be the hands and feet of Jesus. I am so excited that you are going! God Bless!
    Sue T.

  14. Nancy J Locke says:

    What a beautiful Christian family. You are very blessed. 😀

    Great post!!!

  15. Jennifer A.S.H. says:

    Thank you for the reminder! :)

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