The Key to a Happy Marriage

A couple days ago Lea mentioned seeing a “cute outfit” in one of the local clothing stores while having coffee with her friend, Glenna. Yesterday, without telling Lea, I sent Glenna a text message and asked her if she had any clue which outfit Lea was talking about. She did and agreed to meet me there to show me exactly what Lea was looking at.

I met Glenna there after lunch. I think I could have guessed which one it was, but I wanted to be sure I knew exactly. Glenna mentioned how nice Lea was going to look in it, and I agreed.

When I went to pay out the sweet lady behind the register said, “Oh, that is so cute, is it for Lea’s birthday?”

I said, “No, ma’am.”

Then she said, “Is it an anniversary present?”

Again, I said, “No.”

She was persistent and asked, “Christmas shopping this early?”

I just shook my head, “no.”

She paused and said, “Oh, in the doghouse,” like she’d finally figured it out.

I grinned and said, “No, ma’am, but I may have to remind her of this the next time I am.”

She smiled and said, “Ah, aren’t you sweet. You’re getting this for her for no reason at all. Just brownie-points.”

I said, “Okay, now you pegged it. I like all the brownie-points I can get, but I’m really getting this for her because she’s always doing nice stuff for me. I’m just trying to get even with her … in a good way.”

One of the ladies behind me in line, who’d been listening in on our conversation, said, “Now that’s the key to a good marriage, doing things for one another for no reason at all.”

I agreed with her, thanked the lady at the register and left.

On the way home, I got to thinking about what the lady behind me said, she was 100% right, “The key to a happy marriage is trying to out-do your spouse at meeting each other’s needs.”

At least that has worked really well for ours.

“Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting.” Ephesians 5:25  (The Message)

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I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast. Read 1182 articles by
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  1. I stumbled across your blog awhile back from a family member’s blog. I truly enjoy it, and check it often. The blogs about you and Lea are absolutely my favorite. My hope is that they are as inspiring to others as they are to me. What a blessing it is to have found your true love so young, and still so in love! I know this as I have the same blessing. 😉 If you and Lea are ever in Fredericksburg, TX – I would love to meet you both. Keep blogging, and wishing you many more blessings. TJ

    • Trey Morgan says:

      Thanks Teresa for making me smile today. I’m honored you take time to read my blog. As for Fredricksburg, I’d love to sneak off there sometime with Lea. So maybe it’ll work out someday. Blessings.

    • Kim says:

      So, do I get anything for bringing you two together? LOL Glad you found Trey’s blog….he is great and we love him very much here in Childress. Great man with a great family. Wonderful example for us all!

  2. L.C.T. says:

    So so sooooo sweet :)

  3. Geek for Him says:

    LOVE IT and I myself try to do the small things, they go such a long way!!

  4. ~Brenda says:

    I totally agree!

    Great post that every husband should read…. 😉

  5. Barry Wiseman says:

    I call it “flame insurance”… if I make Marsha really mad, flames dance around her eyes, her voice lowers two octaves and other scary things happen! (jk)

    I get flowers from time to time, take her lunch to school, do the laundry, vacuum the house, steam clean the carpets… working up to doing the dishes sometimes in the future. 😉

  6. Diana Sutton says:

    Yes, and it works both ways. It’s also nice to hear thank you when you do something nice for each other or just because. It shows you appreciate each other. That was very nice of you. I’m sure she was thrilled!

  7. Tina Hare says:

    Stop it!! Your giving me a toothache!!! ha…ha…NOT REALLY!! That is super sweet and DON’T stop it! Thanks for the reminder. My husband…without me asking…did some little things around the house that are “normally” my job and it just warmed my heart. Now I am on a mission to do the same thing for him…I have to keep this “pay it forward” working in our household!
    I love your words of encouragement and all of your insight!!

    BTW – I did the claw at church on Sunday and apparently my Pastor does not watch baseball – he asked me after service if I was okay!!

  8. Dee Andrews says:

    Tom and I have ALWAYS done that for each other, and still do! It’s wonderful. Sometimes it is just a very small “something” that one of us sees that we know the other would really like, so we get it just to surprise them. It always works!!

    This is some of the best advice you could ever give anyone else in a marriage, Trey. To always be trying to out “do” the other one in kind, loving ways, not necessarily involving money. It’s the idea someone CARES about you so much that they are always thinking of ways to make you happy and make your life better!!

  9. Cassandra says:

    Great post! Thanks for the reminder!

  10. Cynthia Glenn says:

    Great advice!! I love your thoughts on marriage!! All of these same ideas have helped us to have a GREAT marriage for almost 37 years!! Love you guys!

  11. Sharla says:

    Romans 12:10- One of the most important ingredients in any relationship. “Outdo one another in showing honor.” ESV. Not waiting for the other, not because the other…. just do it!

  12. Amy O'Connor says:

    My husband told me the other day that he forgot to get something for me on the way home. He had meant to stop and get some flowers for me. Even though he forgot to get them, the thought really meant a lot to me!

  13. Glenna Garcia says:

    So did she like it??????

  14. janice says:

    I always do what you do… i realized it when we are already in our 12yrs hahaha.. But anything is possible.. im just a late bloomer.. We always say i love you everyday.. to remind ourselves that we are always one with GOD. I cherish every moment that we had.. because none of those will repeat again.. But when we got older.. Those things will always be a treasure to be remembered.. Thanks for all your reminders.

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