I was reading back through the book “Finish Strong” this week and it reminded me why Steve Farrar is my most favorite “men’s” author. Girls, if your husband doesn’t have any of Steve’s books, go buy him one today!

In one of the chapters of “Finish Strong,” Steve writes about a dog that walks into a saloon:A dog walked into a Dodge City saloon and ordered a root beer. The barkeep snickered, “We don’t serve dogs or root beer in this saloon.” The dog said, “I’ve got the money and my money is as good as any man’s. Give me a root beer!” The bartender was tired of talking so he reached under the bar, pulled out a gun , and shot the dog in the foot. “Now get out of here and don’t ever come back.”

A week later, the dog came back, this time wearing his gun belt that holstered two guns. Not seeing the man who shot him behind the bar, he walked up to the new bartender, looked him squarely in the eye, and said very slowly and very deliberately, “I’m lookin’ for the man who shot my paw.” :)

There are many things that ambush men in life today that keep them from from finishing strong as a husband, a father and a Christian man. Here are 3 areas where men are often ambushed…

  • The Ambush of another woman. Did you know in a recent study of 250 Christian men who had been unfaithful to their wife and families over the past 24 months, they found these results. 1) None were involved in any kind of personal accountability group. 2) Each had ceased to invest in daily personal time of prayer, bible reading and worship. 3) Eighty percent of them because sexually involved with another woman as a result of counseling or giving advice to the woman. In other words they were spending a significant portion of their schedules with women other than their wives. 4) Without exception, each of the 250 men had been convinced that moral failure, “will never happen to me.”
  • The Ambush of money. Remember Annais and Sapphira from Acts 5:1-6? Neither finished strong due to an ambush of money. The wanted to look good rather than do good, and they were willing to lie about it. How are you doing with the ambush of money? Are you shooting straight with people when it comes to money? It doesn’t matter what you stand to make or save, if it’s dishonest it isn’t worth it.
  • The Ambush of a neglected family. Nothing in life is worth losing your family. No ministry. No job. No promotion. After God, your wife and children should be your number one priority.

Many children don’t have dads. Why? Someone “shot their Pa.” It may have been the ambush of another woman, money or a neglected family or another ambush. Men, don’t be ambushed. Finish strong.

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I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast. Read 1182 articles by
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  1. lisa leichner says:

    Wow, do I get to be first today? I got back on the computer just to see if you had posted yet. :)

    Great post. I think women would do well to remember some of these things too (of course, you already knew that). Think my husband would take it the wrong way if I printed this up for him to read?

    Thanks for another good one, Trey.

  2. TREY MORGAN says:

    Lisa … Women don’t need stuff like this. They’re perfect! Right?

    As for printing it for “the man,” I say go for it. Tell him you saw something and wanted his opinion on it. See if he agrees or disagrees with it. Then he’ll at least read it!

    Better yet buy him the book!

  3. Mommysmart says:

    Great post. I actually have two of his books in my cart at christian books for the next time that I place an order. Glad to know that you recomend his books. Rocky reads all of the time. As a wife number 1 scares me. I had found these statistics once….

    22 percent of married men admit that they have strayed at least once during their married lives.
    70 percent of married women did not know of their spouses’ extramarital activity.

    We pray for God’s protection of our marriage constantly. Thanks for sharing more ways to protect it.

  4. Bob Bliss says:

    Trey, I don’t understand the joke and it’s relevance to your post. I know I’m dense but please explain. I know there is a play on words (Pa vs paw) but I don’t see the connection. Sorry.

  5. TREY MORGAN says:


    You preachers. What will I do with you.

    Okay. The old westerns … there’s always someone in the movie that says, “I’m looking for the man that shot my Pa.”

    In the joke it’s a dog that has his “Paw” shot. That’s why he says, “I’m looking for the man that shot my Paw.”

    At the end … I said, somme children are fatherless because someone “shot their Pa.” They were ambushed.

    Any better?

  6. Gallagher says:


    Excellent thoughts! I find it helpful and also worthwhile to use in various Bible class or in a lesson.

    I read a good book a couple years ago entitled’ “Divorce Proofing Your Marriage” by Gary Roseberg with his wife assisting. The book described the process of disconnecting from your mate, some of the things you mentioned were part of the disconnecting process.

    Great thoughts!

    Post Request: I would be interesting in hearing about the dates below the LiveStrong bracelet.

    God bless,


  7. Danny says:

    I would like to combine your last two posts and suggest that churches buy this book for their preacher and his wife!

  8. Patrick Sheaffer says:

    Ok, dude… you have the coolest Blog ever. Serious… You inspire me to actually “use” my blog as a means of communicating thoughts, ideas and passions… what a novel idea:)

    Thank you for praying for the AIMers… they had their last AIM chapel and last Brown Bag today… rough day but smoother ones on the horizon.

    Thanks for sharing your heart,

  9. TREY MORGAN says:

    Pat … I love AIM, I love missionaries, I love your heart for the lost. Thanks for the note. I’m honored to pray for you guys on Wednesdays.

    I checked your blog today. I wish you’d share more often too. I’d love to hear from you!


  10. Bobby Cohoon says:

    Good post Trey.

  11. lisa leichner says:

    Coolest blog ever ??? Hmmm …. Obviously Patrick hasn’t been over to MY place. Just kidding!!!! Seriously, I’d never go to someone else’s blog & try to draw readers to my own. That’s totally uncool. (Did you read some of the old posts Brian mentioned in his blogfast post? If not, then you don’t get my joke.)

    Speaking of jokes, that is so funny that you had to explain your joke to Dad. Especially considering how many jokes he must have had to explain to me over the years. He’s another preacher guy that likes to repeat his favorite material — yet another thing you have in common. 😉

    I echo Gallagher’s request. I want to hear more about the dates. Were you diagnosed with cancer twice?!

  12. Chris says:

    Very good post, as usual.

    Unfortunately, Trey, I can vouch for the truthfulness of each of these points. And, I can also testify that the consequences that follow are more difficult than one ever imagines while they are caught up in the ambush.

    I would also add that if there is one reading these words who finds himself/herself involved something of this nature and needs to talk with someone who made the mistakes and suffers from the consequences, I am here and all will remain anonymous. Hopefully no one will need it, but if you do, don’t be afraid to ask.

    Thanks for your thoughts and encouragement Trey.

  13. TREY MORGAN says:

    Lisa … I got the joke. Too funny. As for your dad, I wasn’t sure if he was serious or not. I thought he might be pulling my leg. I also went back to make sure I told it correctly.

    As for cancer … it has been a battle. Twice. God has been good to me. I will share more later.

    Chris … thanks for your positive spirit and your willingness to help.

  14. Monalea says:

    I enjoy your insight! I’ve considered how people finish their race in life, but never actually thought about the words, “Finishing Strong.”

  15. lisa leichner says:

    Where’s your new post for today? Where’s everyone for that matter? Is it spring break or something?

  16. TREY MORGAN says:

    I’m a little slow today :)

  17. The Preacher's Household: says:

    I have a couple of Farrar books. A couple of the staples on men and family in my library are Arteburn’s books on Every Man’s (woman, teen…) Battle and the Love Languages books. There are so many great books out there. The point is to use them.

    The attempt at corney humor is great. It is just you. Keep it up.

  18. Bob Bliss says:

    Trey, yes better.

  19. lisa leichner says:

    That’s my dad for ya.

  20. TREY MORGAN says:

    Yea, but I bet he’s a great dad.

    As for the livestrong band … I’ve had cancer twice. I’ll write something about it in a week or so. Cancer has taught me a lot about how to live!


  21. Matt says:

    This is a very useful post. It is so important for husbands and wives to have excellent communication. It is good for people to feel safe with each other to discuss what they faced during the day without being attacked. If men feel like they don’t have an open and safe environment to discuss danger signs, then who knows what it will lead to as they keep those things from their wives. Secrets are so powerful. Often affairs are kept going due to the thrill of it all. The truth is liberating and we need to be able to talk about our temptations and struggles with our spouses. This can only happen when we feel like we have a safe environment with our spouses. My wife and I have promised each other to never intentionally harm each other and that includes communication. We also try not to assume the worst of each other. This creates a positive atmosphere of open and productive/constructive communication where these things can be discussed before they become a problem.

  22. Ticket Walker says:

    Trey: Great joke!

  23. TREY MORGAN says:

    Ticket Walker – Great Screen Name. ha

    Thanks for dropping by…

  24. Bonita Springs Agent says:

    I love the “Paw” joke.


  25. mr neva says:

    I’ve spent too much time at the hospital, hospice, the retirement home. I read PA and thought physicians assistant.

    Good post


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