SEXUAL TEMPTATION

Here are a few things I jotted down in my journal this week that I’d like to share with you. Let’s start with a quiz. These aren’t trick questions, and they’re not hard. But play along if you will.

  • Who was physically the strongest man in the Bible? (Samson)
  • Who was the wisest man in the Bible? (Solomon)
  • Who was the one in the Bible called “a man after God’s own heart?” (David)
  • What did they have in common?
All of them, the strongest man in the Bible, the smartest man in the Bible and arguably the most godly man in the Bible – all of them struggled with sexual temptation AND LOST. I’m literally blown away thinking about it, but it tells me something I need to pay attention to. What it’s telling me is I am not so strong, I am not so smart and I am not so godly that I can defeat sexual temptation, on my own. I am NOT beyond falling into this temptation, and when I think I am, I may be the most vulnerable. “If you think you are standing strong, be careful, for you too may fall into the same sin.” (1 Corinthians 10:12)

Here are some things I think are important for me to know in overcoming sexual temptation:

  1. Know what the Bible has to say about sex outside of the covenant of marriage. The Bible is my standard. The culture does not determine my sexual behavior. I do. My choices must be based on Scripture. (Hebrews 4:12)
  2. Remove any source of sexual temptation. If you are being tempting by watching certain things on the television, turn it off or change the channel. If you’re being tempted by someone of the opposite sex, stay far away from them. If it’s pornography on your computer, put a filter on your computer. Remove any and all sources of temptation. (2 Timothy 2:22, Matthew 5:29)
  3. Purpose in your heart to follow God’s Word. Don’t be ruled by passion. No matter what you feel, act with your brain and not your emotions. Scripture is clear that sexual behavior is always subject to the will. Dogs have no control, people do. (Proverbs 4:23)
  4. Keep your mind pure. Think on things that are noble, pure, lovely, of good report, virtuous and praiseworthy (Philippians 4:8).
  5. Don’t put yourself in places to be tempted. In the same way that a recovered alcoholic wouldn’t go sit in a bar, don’t put yourself in a place that makes resistance tough (IE. don’t go to dirty movies, strip joints, bars, certain chat rooms, trashy novels and magazines, etc.). When Satan tempted Eve, she engaged him in conversation. Instead of telling him to go crawl in a hole, she entertained his conversation. We all know the outcome of her choice! (Genesis 39:11-12)
  6. Be accountable to a friend. Be willing to tell a friend you trust what you struggle with and allow him/her to help keep you accountable. “As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” (Proverbs 27:17)
  7. Don’t be over confident. Most of us think we can handle a lot more sexually explicit material than we can. We aren’t aware of the subtle influence and desensitization that goes on by regular exposure. We are lulled into thinking we are above these influences. If you are human, you are not! (1 Corinthians 10:12)
  8. Keep your walk with the Lord strong. Most of us give in to temptation when our daily walk is not strong. Spend time in prayer and be intimately connected to your heavenly Father. When you are weak, He is strong. And remember, He doesn’t leave us. Stay connected. “No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.” (1 Corinthians 10:13)

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  1. Mud Puppy says:

    9. Make sure both spouses are fullfilling each others physical needs.

  2. Tim Archer says:

    Recently some of us were discussing how often ministers fall into sexual sin. Part of it has to do with being in a “people helping” job and often dealing with others who are emotionally needy. However, that doesn’t explain the incidence of pornography use among preachers. I think your list is helpful. Numbers 6 and 7 seem especially important, mainly because I’ve seen them neglected too often. Many ministers who’ve fallen don’t see themselves as doing anything wrong because of number 7; somehow they can feel “spiritual” while commiting sexual sin.

    Thanks, Trey, for hitting this topic. Hope this post becomes one of your most popular ones!

    Grace and peace,
    Tim

  3. Falantedios says:

    I recommend that all of us be especially wary in accordance with the HALT acronym that addicts are taught. Since Paul might describe us as Sin addicts were he writing today, I’ve always thought it appropriate. HALT stands for:

    Hurt
    Angry
    Lonely
    Tired

    Those are four conditions where an addict must be especially wary and especially active in their own defense against sin. HALT what you are doing, call your sponsor / accountability partner, DO SOMETHING ELSE, get to a safe place.

    I echo Tim’s thanks. THESE are the kinds of marriage messages Christians need to hear.

    in HIS love,
    Nick

  4. Anonymous says:

    wow, I have thought about these men’s failing separately but considering them as a powerful, yet guilty, trio made an impact.

    great advice here. thanks

    brian

  5. DJG says:

    One thing about #5; sometimes the places that temptation hit you are unexpected….like at church or church events. Guarding your heart and being accountable will be the things that help you then…

  6. Anonymous says:

    “For the lips of an adulteress drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil”. Proverbs 5:3

    This sounds tempting doesn’t it, but no comparision to this:

    “May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer-may her breast satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love”. Proverbs 5:18-19

    Trey, cool stuff huh. Today’s post ties in well with Proverbs 5. Some guy has me reading.

    Thanks for #6
    Mr. Mythical

  7. Anonymous says:

    Hey this was a great post. I enjoyed looking up and reading the scripture you put with it.

    #5

  8. Wes says:

    Great thoughts! Especially about what Samson, David, and Solomon had in common. I also think the HALT acronym is very insightful to when we are most vulnerable to sin.

    Wes Hazel
    Manchester TN

  9. Alan Gable says:

    Some of your best work, Trey. Thanks.

  10. lisa says:

    Excellent, Trey. :)

  11. TREY MORGAN says:

    Mudpuppy – you are right on 100%. That makes a huge difference.

    Tim – As always, thanks for your wisdom. You are so right about ministers giving themselves away and not dealing with any kind of self-preservation. A good friend of mine reminded me of that recently.

    Nick – Excellent thoughts … that’ll preach. And I’ve never thought of it the way you put it, but that IS when we’re most vulnerable.

    Brian – I’ve missed you! Hope you’ll be back around a little more often :)

    Donna – You’re very right about letting our guard down even around Christians.

    Mr. Mythical – Wow, look at you go. Two comments this week. It’s going to ruin your reputation :) I like the way you’re quoting scripture.

    #5 – My adopted son. I’m proud of you and your commitments to “doing what’s right.” Hang in there.

    Wes – Thanks for dropping by.

    Alan & Lisa – Thanks

  12. Falantedios says:

    Trey…

    I want to be like you when I grow up!

    Nick

  13. leslie says:

    i think #7 is a really big trap..

    and #6 has increasing importance when you continuously fall, and unfortunately it is one of the most difficult to attain…

  14. Anonymous says:

    I closed the site Trey and I sent you email info on what I plan on doing. I hope Ya can understand.
    Love Brandon Voss

  15. Matt H. says:

    Trey,

    read your comment on my blog about the perfect sports weekend wins!

    Just think next year your perfect Nascar win will be, at the checker its the 24, 48, 25 and the 88!!

    Won’t that be fun!!!:)

  16. preacherman says:

    Trey,
    Great post and list brother.
    Keep up the great blogging!
    I hope you have a blessed weekend.

  17. Matthew says:

    This is a powerful post. You have a great family ministry. People who have you as their minister are certainly blessed.

  18. Greg says:

    I’m sort of late chiming in on this one. I don’t think any of those 8 points can be over-emphasized, but number 6 has a very powerful effect on those who will take it seriously! I have accountability with my wife, my children, and the elders where I formerly preached. It is a blessing beyond description.

    Excellent thoughts, Trey. Thanks.

  19. Dee O'Neil Andrews says:

    I’m not a guy, so can’t comment as well, perhaps, as all the guys are, but I think Donna has some good points.

    It’s been my experience in the church that ministers and men who have problems are often drawn into liasons with other members of the female persuasion because of emotional needs of the women (more) who seek help from male friends and who need confidants.

    Your list is a very good one, Trey, and I, too, think the one about being accountable to someone all of the time would be a big help. In fact, I’ve practiced that one in the past in my own life and it worked very well.

    Both times I did it happened to be with ministers, by the way, who were good friends already and who I felt I could confide in, and I could. It was a big relief to be able to talk about such things in a Christian and loving environment, yet one that that allowed for such conversations.

    I also have had close women friends I’ve talked with in the past, too, and those talks got me through some difficult working environment times for me.

    Thanks for this post, Trey!

    Dee

    of Finding Direction: The Wind Vane Chronicles

  20. Anonymous says:

    Trey this is Brandon,one of the AIMers from Lima, Peru. I first wanted to thank you for your blogging. It is one of my main outside sources of encouragement down here. This past week I had finished reading about Solomon’s heart and how it was turned from God. One verse that has really helped me in my purity is I Pet 5:9. Knowing that I have christian brothers that are fighting the same battle helps me remember that I am not alone. Thanks Trey for being a strong brother and encouraging me. Thanks for your prayers.

  21. TREY MORGAN says:

    Brandon … I’m glad you find the blog as a place for encouragement. It is true that it is a battle we all fight. We can never let our guard down. Continue to fight the good fight and blessings in your great ministry.

  22. Di says:

    Am I the only female that will admit to having the same sexual temptations? Since it takes two, I know I am not alone. :-)

    Recently, after a few days of some heavy temptation, I sat and prayed through the Lord’s prayer, expounding on each line. The deliver me from temptation was a powerful moment. God really did.

    One thing that has helped me be comfortable with my own boundaries was taught to me by my shrink. I once asked him why he maintained healthy sexual boundaries. He said, “I like to keep relationships….. You can tell yourself that if you sleep with your best friends spouse nothing will change, but in reality everything changes. So when I am tempted I remind myself that this relationship is special and I want to keep it.”

    And, Trey, thanks for not avoiding the difficult topics.

    Di

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