SEXTING

I have never been a “sky is falling” type guy, but the new phenomenon called “sexting” really concerns me, and why wouldn’t it … I have three teenage boys. If you have a kid with a cell phone you need to watch this video on sexting that is sweeping through middle schools and high schools across our country.

Here’s what one article says about sexting … “A new, dangerous trend is growing among teenagers: text messaging explicit photos of themselves, also known as sexting. Students as young as 12 are exchanging salacious pictures and messages through their cellphones.”

The best thing you can do is talk to your kids about it. You can read more about it here and here!

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I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast. Read 1182 articles by
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  1. Kyle Parker says:

    Man – I’m glad you brought attention to this. I have had one instance of dealing with this in my years of ministry, and it wasn’t a pretty thing. I think more parents need to know about this and be involved in their kids lives. Thanks for talking about this.

  2. dgossett says:

    Sometimes I am so grateful my kids are grown and married….I guess the babies need to go on in that cave….

  3. Peter P says:

    Haven’t got time to watch the video right now but this is something I’ve known about for some time.

    It’s pretty crazy – and a lot of people don’t think about what will happen to that naked picture they send to their boy/girlfriend when they break up!

    Can you say ‘sex offenders register?’ the way these photo’s are being sent around and forwarded on, some people could get in a lot of trouble.

    Not to mention the whole moral issue!

  4. WisemanB says:

    I saw this report on the Today Show when it aired. I was shocked but not surprised. If you check some of the “friends” your kids have on Facebook, you’ll most likely find at least one profile photo that is somewhat risque, at least.

    Don’t know why this seems to surprise us adults. Before these kids were born, a lot of “now older adults” were behaving the same way in chat rooms on AOL. This is the next step in technology.

    Makes it imperative (how’s that for showing I’m a preacher) to teach our kids good morals.

  5. Angie says:

    Unfortunately the knee jerk reaction by some is to ban, take away, get rid of, or otherwise attempt to limit access to technology. Schools deal with this all the time. Block it or ban it so you aren’t responsible for it. That’s a losing battle.

    We simply have to teach our kids to make good choices, think about consequences prior to making choices, and then find every way possible to support them when making difficult choices. The pressure can be enormous on a kid.

    I think too often parents protect kids from experiencing logical consequences when they are younger, so that when they are older and make bad choices, kids expect everything to be okay in spite of their stupidity.

    And the video was right about stuff like this never going away. It can and does haunt them when trying to get into college, get a job, get married, stay married, get a bank loan, etc.

  6. Ryan B says:

    I’ve never done this but I have heard stories in the dorms of people getting naked pictures of their girlfriends and sending them everywhere once they break up. It is awful.

  7. cwinwc says:

    Let me tell you, as a Middle School Teacher I know first hand how these kids are extremely adept at texting. They are capable of texting in a classroom even where the teacher is trying to be vigilant about being up and around the students.

    I can see where it may get to the point that cell phones will have to be banned from schools.

  8. Anonymous says:

    I’m never shocked by what goes on in the world anymore….it seems things are getting so crazy.

    Have you ever thought about writing a post about people being unfaithful to their spouse through texting? It seems to be quite common these days. Recently, I found my husband has been having a relationship with a woman through text messaging. I was sick when I found out. He was texting things to her he never does me. We are trying to work through it, but since I have been dealing with it, I have heard of a few other couples having the same problem. He called it “just friends”, but I called it having an affair. The girl he is texting is beautiful and he told her so. I also heard him telling a friend about how beautiful this girl was. My heart and spirit has been crushed and am having such a difficult time forgetting about it. I want to check his phone all the time. I just don’t know if the trust will ever be there again.

    Anyway, I thought I would throw that blog topic out there for you. You always do a great job of writing and I knew you might have some words of wisdom or insight on it!

  9. TREY MORGAN says:

    Anonymous – I’m sorry for what you went and are still going through. I’ve always said that there should be NO secrets in marriage. Everything should be open and honest. If my wife wants to read my text messages, emails or anything, she’s welcome to. She knows the passwords to all my email accounts, etc.

    A spouse that will not allow you to read their text messages or emails should throw up red flags. And yes, I too have seen many cases where a relationship is carried on through a cell phone.

    I did a post a year or so ago on emotional affairs. You might read this when you get time: (copy and paste) http://tinyurl.com/akxbkr

  10. Stoogelover says:

    I knew of the sexting, just didn’t know it was called this. You are right, though … the best thing we can do is talk with our kids (though mine are grown and having their own children). I had an uncle who was very sexually active as a teen and then he had two beautiful girls. I asked him if it bothered him that he now had girls and guys would be wanting to do with his girls what he did with other father’s girls. He said the best he could do was teach his girls values and character, right and wrong, and then hope for the best. His girls grew up just fine. We can teach them, but they eventually make their own decisions.

  11. Mike says:

    Sadly, many adults are invovled in this also. I think this is something we should be talking about in our churches.

  12. Joshua Tucker says:

    I’m glad I barely escaped the whole texting generation in age, because this is awful.

    I think one of the key things the girl says in the video is that “everyone in the town found out, except the adults somehow.”

    Today, kids are raising themselves. They spend more time with each other than adults, and there is a definite chasm between the adult world and the world of teenagers.

    Many kids feel like adults don’t really care about them, and even if they do, they couldn’t possibly understand what’s going on in their lives.

    It’s so easy to mentor kids if we’ll just invite them into our world and just be real a little bit. Take them out to coffee and talk about life. Try to connect. Genuinely care. Mature adults should be the primary influence in kids’ lives, and if they’re not there’s something wrong with the parenting.

    The problem is that while adults are busy in their world, kids are raising themselves and gaining their moral code from each other, not adults. The problem (I think) isn’t an absence of teaching, but an absence of influence. It’s easy to talk about some moral teaching in a lesson in a church building, but it’s an entirely different thing to talk about it in everyday life.

    Most of Jesus’ teachings weren’t lectures at specific times. Real events came up and He took the opportunity to share a lesson about the Kingdom of God relevant to that situation. We need to apply the same principle to children. Lessons on Sunday mornings aren’t enough. We have to get down in the trenches where life gets messy if we want to genuinely infect the Kingdom of God on others.

    Sorry for the long comment. By the way Trey, great lesson today. It was really powerful yet simple. I like that. The story of Mephibosheth is amazing.

  13. freetolive says:

    this isn’t just a teenage problem. I have known grown, married women, whom you would never suspect, that have sent their husbands some provactive pictures that ended up in the hands of strangers. Sometimes due to a cell phone being stolen. More often than not husbands “showing off” their wives. Can we all say it together: CREEPY!

  14. Erin says:

    I found your blog off of a friend of mine. Childress caught my attention. I was born there, although my family moved to the Philippines for mission work when I was 9 months. We went to a Baptist church…obviously too young to remember the name, but we’ve kept in touch with some people there and since it’s a small town I bet you know some of them. anyway, just thought that was cool.

  15. Jeff Hume says:

    Great info Trey. As a youth pastor and a substitute teacher (2-3 times a month) I’m shocked at the sexuality of this generation. The comments of others are correct though – it’s not just among teens.

    Just this week I learned of an adult acquaintance (who also substitutes) who was fired for sending inappropriate texts to a student. It saddens me.

    We’ve got to get the word out! Parents must be made aware of the dangers and we each must do our part to help this generation.

  16. Anonymous says:

    Thanks for the post. As the mom of an “almost teen” with a cell phone this concerns me. I hadn’t heard of it or thought of it before.

    I should have thought of it because my own spouse has sent me dirty pictures as a not so funny joke. They weren’t of him though, they were of other people…who knows who they were?? I think another thing to be aware of, that he pointed out to me, is things like Craigslist. There are some downright pornographic pictures there for the viewing. If my own husband looks at it, I’m sure teenage boys do too.

    eg

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