Sex is a Gift from God

I’ve been preaching on marriage this month (here are the sermons if you’d like to follow along).This past Sunday I talked about, “10 Ways to Bless Your Marriage,” and in there I talked a little about sex. Here are a few things I mentioned …

“A wise wife puts her husband’s sexual needs at the top of her priority list. The foolish wife doesn’t see it as a priority at all.”

“Quality sex in marriage, emerges from quantity sex.” Translation … practice makes perfect

One of the things I’ve never shied away from is preaching on sex. So recently when my songleader called and asked the sermon topic so he could plan his songs, he was caught off guard when I told him my topic was sex. “I’ll do my best to find some songs,” he said.

That Sunday morning before his first song he announced to the congregation that the sermon was going to be on sex, and that he’d tried and tried, but just hadn’t been able to come up with any song from the songbook that dealt with sex. He then asked the congregation, “Can anyone else think of one?” Suddenly, one little old man who was probably in his 90’s, began to stand. He raised his shaking hand slowly and said, “What about Precious Memories?” Okay, honestly, that really didn’t happen… but it’s one of my all-time favorite jokes.

While the songbook might not have a lot of songs on the subject of sex, the bible is FULL of verses on the topic.  The thing I find extremely interesting is how much of what is said on the subject of sex, is on the positive side. Yet, due to our society’s loose views on sex, we only seem to teach and preach on the negative side of sex. Sadly, we’re missing the teaching that God is the creator of sex, and He made it to be GOOD and to be enjoyed in the confines of marriage (can I get an “Amen” here men?!). We need to be reminded and even our kids need to hear that God intended sex in the confines of marriage to be beautiful. Sex isn’t dirty, it’s a gift God has given us!

Here are just a few verses that drip with sexual innuendos …

“May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.” (Proverbs 5:18-19)

“Your stature is like that of the palm, and your breasts like clusters of fruit. I said, “I will climb the palm tree; I will take hold of its fruit.” May your breasts be like the clusters of the vine, the fragrance of your breath like apples…” (Song of Solomon 7:7-8).

“Rejoice in the wife of your youth, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.” (Proverbs 5.18-19)

The church hasn’t always looked upon sex as an amazing gift from God. Unfortunately, most churches have only preached about its dangers and focused on how sex in the wrong context can destroy. Sadly, a lot of folks have gotten the wrong idea, even Christians, that sex is only dirty, only sinful. While the world chooses to be obsessed with sex (because sex sells) many Christians and churches have ignored the subject unless it’s to preach against it. As I read my Bible this morning, I was reminded how many times the Bible speaks positively about the beauty of sex in the confines of marriage.

I love the fact that God chose to devote so many verses and an entire book in the Bible (Song of Solomon) to the positive side of the subject of sex. Sex shouldn’t be dirty … because it’s from God. He created sex, and He created it as a gift for a husband and a wife. I pray that as I raise my children, they’ll know and understand that there is a negative AND a positive side of sex. God created it beautiful; it’s a gift … thank Him for it!

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I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast. Trey Morgan tagged this post with: , , , Read 1182 articles by
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  1. Alana says:

    I am printing this off and putting it in a safe place. One of my fears as a mother of two girls is that I will totally get “The Talk” wrong. This post will definitely be used when the time comes! Thanks Trey!

  2. Hahaha…when you told the joke about not being able to find songs about sex, I thought, “What about these?”
    “As The Deer Pants for the Water…”
    “You Are Beautiful Beyond Description” (or “I Stand In Awe of You”)
    “Arms of Love”
    Look at the lyrics…they apply pretty well! :)

  3. Potluck says:

    Not everyone knows, where does it specifically state sex is only for married couples. I know it references marriage and sex, but you said “in the confines of marriage” more than once.

  4. Greg England says:

    From reading your blogs over the past few years, my guess is you don’t shy away from preaching on any subject! Which is one of many reasons I admire and respect you, Trey. Good words today.

  5. Jess says:

    I’m beginning to think that you just like making little old ladies blush, lol. Good post. It might seem strange saying it, but sex and salvation have some things in common; Its a gift from God as long as you do what it takes to receive that gift.

  6. Ed says:

    Great Article! Very good insights. What about on the opposite end of sex though? I find a lot of preachers shy awa from the topic of singleness. One question I have always had though, is why are the leaders of the singles ministry always married? LOL

  7. it is a shame that most congregations today will not touch the subject of the GOODNESS of sex with a ten foot pole. I love Rob Bell’s book SEX GOD which explores the “endless connections” between sexuality and spirituality. I commend it if you have not feasted upon it before.

  8. Debbie says:

    Thought provoking article. I agree that most shy away from any discussion of sexuality. Yet it is a critical subject for all. When I presented this topic at our Sunday women’s study it was highly attended with many questions. It was great discussion. Should have one with couples and one for men alone. Two books I recommend – Sacred Sex and Sheet Music. I am currently working on becoming certified through ASSECT as a sexual health counselor and wow even though I have been in the health field and married for many years I am still learning :)

    • Trey Morgan says:

      Debbie, my wife and I have read Sheet Music together. It was an excellent book. I haven’t read Sacred Sex … thanks for the recommendation.

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