I’ve been preaching on marriage this month (here are the sermons if you’d like to follow along).This past Sunday I talked about, “10 Ways to Bless Your Marriage,” and in there I talked a little about sex. Here are a few things I mentioned …
“A wise wife puts her husband’s sexual needs at the top of her priority list. The foolish wife doesn’t see it as a priority at all.”
“Quality sex in marriage, emerges from quantity sex.” Translation … practice makes perfect
One of the things I’ve never shied away from is preaching on sex. So recently when my songleader called and asked the sermon topic so he could plan his songs, he was caught off guard when I told him my topic was sex. “I’ll do my best to find some songs,” he said.
That Sunday morning before his first song he announced to the congregation that the sermon was going to be on sex, and that he’d tried and tried, but just hadn’t been able to come up with any song from the songbook that dealt with sex. He then asked the congregation, “Can anyone else think of one?” Suddenly, one little old man who was probably in his 90’s, began to stand. He raised his shaking hand slowly and said, “What about Precious Memories?” Okay, honestly, that really didn’t happen… but it’s one of my all-time favorite jokes.
While the songbook might not have a lot of songs on the subject of sex, the bible is FULL of verses on the topic. The thing I find extremely interesting is how much of what is said on the subject of sex, is on the positive side. Yet, due to our society’s loose views on sex, we only seem to teach and preach on the negative side of sex. Sadly, we’re missing the teaching that God is the creator of sex, and He made it to be GOOD and to be enjoyed in the confines of marriage (can I get an “Amen” here men?!). We need to be reminded and even our kids need to hear that God intended sex in the confines of marriage to be beautiful. Sex isn’t dirty, it’s a gift God has given us!
Here are just a few verses that drip with sexual innuendos …
“May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.” (Proverbs 5:18-19)
“Your stature is like that of the palm, and your breasts like clusters of fruit. I said, “I will climb the palm tree; I will take hold of its fruit.” May your breasts be like the clusters of the vine, the fragrance of your breath like apples…” (Song of Solomon 7:7-8).
“Rejoice in the wife of your youth, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.” (Proverbs 5.18-19)
The church hasn’t always looked upon sex as an amazing gift from God. Unfortunately, most churches have only preached about its dangers and focused on how sex in the wrong context can destroy. Sadly, a lot of folks have gotten the wrong idea, even Christians, that sex is only dirty, only sinful. While the world chooses to be obsessed with sex (because sex sells) many Christians and churches have ignored the subject unless it’s to preach against it. As I read my Bible this morning, I was reminded how many times the Bible speaks positively about the beauty of sex in the confines of marriage.
I love the fact that God chose to devote so many verses and an entire book in the Bible (Song of Solomon) to the positive side of the subject of sex. Sex shouldn’t be dirty … because it’s from God. He created sex, and He created it as a gift for a husband and a wife. I pray that as I raise my children, they’ll know and understand that there is a negative AND a positive side of sex. God created it beautiful; it’s a gift … thank Him for it!