Our worlds of Christianity and sexuality are commonly viewed as being miles apart. Someone once said, “Christian sex” is an oxymoron. We don’t talk about sex or preach about sex unless it’s a sermon that deals with “the sinfulness of sex” outside of marriage. When was the last time you heard a sermon preached on the positive side of sex or a sermon from the Song of Solomon. I’m not saying we need to be discussing sex openly, but we’ve got to understand that God created sex. Why not at least tell people what He has to say about it from a biblical perspective?
Believe it or not, God created sex as something good, and the bible actually has a lot to say on the subject. You may think, with all the warning about not having sex before marriage, that sex is bad. The Bible says something quite contrary to that. Sex is biblical, if looked at from a Godly perspective.
Here’s what I see the Bible saying about Sex…
- Sex is a Good Thing. Sex was created by God as something good. He gave a husband and a wife this gift as a way for them to express their love for one another. God did create sex to be a beautiful and enjoyable expressions of love, but only between a man and wife (Genesis 2:24; Proverbs 5:18-19; Song of Songs 7:6-7; 1 Corinthians 6:13). God also created sex as a way for a husband and wife to have children or as the bible says, “be fruitful and increase in number” (Genesis 1:27-28).
- Sex was Created for a Husband and a Wife. Sex is in just about every movie, book, television show and song on the radio. Our world has become lax about sex, making it seem like sex is okay with anyone because it feels good, but the Bible does not agree. God created sex for the confines of marriage only, and He calls us to control our passions and wait for marriage (1 Corinthians 7:2-3; Hebrews 13:4; 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4).
- God wants each Person in the Marriage to Conscientiously fulfill their mate’s sexual needs and desires. Strong sexual needs exist in both husband and wife. Sex in marriage is wonderful! But like all blessings, there can be an accompanying curse. Unfulfilled sexual needs sometimes lead to illicit relationships. God addressed this strong sexual desire and need in humans through the writings of Paul in 1 Corinthians 7:2-5. “But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
For more information read Joe Beam’s article on Sex and the Bible or see Focus on the Family’s Sex & Intimacy page. Also an excellent book is Ed Wheat’s book, “Intended for Pleasure.” This book should be a must read for the “about-to-be-married,” the newlywed and the long-time married.
I had Lea proof this for me last night before bed. She said reading this gave her a headache (joke).