My friend Erin is a single college girl. The other day I applauded her Facebook status that said something along the lines of, “I do not base my self-worth upon dating lots a guys. I don’t have to constantly be dating someone, to be someone.” She is 100% right, and I love her maturity. She got me to thinking … what do we base our self-worth on? What do you wrap your identity up in? What do you allow to define you? For example, I’m going to guess ….
Men often base their self-worth on:
- Their sex life.
- How much money they make (or don’t make) a year.
- What their job is and how long they’ve been employed.
- If their children are gifted athletically.
- Their toys … cars, boats, etc.
Women often base their self-worth on:
- Their looks (hair, nails, shoes, make-up, clothes, etc.)
- Their house (I’ve heard it said a woman’s house is just an extension of who she is.)
- Their kids (If their kids aren’t doing well, they feel like a failure).
- Their marriage (If their marriage is struggling, so is their self-worth).
Young people often base their self-worth on:
- If they’re currently in a relationship.
- If they have a boy/girl chasing them.
- If they have the latest phone, video game, etc.
For the men: If you’re wrapping your self-worth up in the things listed above, they are only going to let you down. Happiness isn’t found in the next new gadget or higher paying job.
For the women: If you’re thinking that all you need to be happy is these four things to align just right, it’s NEVER going to happen. You will WEAR YOURSELF OUT trying to find happiness that will NEVER come. Your happiness isn’t going to be found in your next hair color or new outfit.
For the young people: Your self-worth should NEVER be based on whether or not you’re in a relationship with someone. Sadly, some young people feel that if they’re not in a relationship there’s something wrong with them. Young ladies, you DO NOT have to have guys chasing you, texting you and calling you to be someone special. Your self-worth shouldn’t be based upon how many boys like you. More make-up or shorter shorts don’t make you more appealing. INSTEAD your heart should be so hidden in Christ, that a man should have to seek Him first to find you. Young men, self-worth isn’t in the coolest phone, the nicest car or having the hottest girl.
Self-worth shouldn’t be based on what other people think, nor should it be based on what the world thinks. Instead, base your self-worth on how much God loves you. Isaiah 43:1-4 says that we need to build our self-worth on what God says about us: “I love you. I redeemed you. I call you by name.” Why? “Because you are precious and honored in my sight.” God loved us enough to create us in his image AND to send his son to die for us. That right there should make your self-worth go through the roof.
What do you base your self-worth on? Hopefully God, because everything else will let you down.
SO, what are some other things we base our self-worth on?