SECURITY BLANKETS

Linus, from the Peanuts cartoon, had his blue blanket that he couldn’t ever give up. For some kids it is a pacifier they can’t give up. For Cooper, our five year old, it’s his “scratchy-cup.”

For the past year or so Lea and I have been trying to get Cooper to give up a sippy cup that he calls his “scratchy-cup.” We’ve tried to simply talk him in to giving it up, and when that didn’t work, we also tried bribing him (money always works for the other boys). No offer was good enough for Cooper and he continually refused to give up his scratchy-cup.

Cooper starts kindergarten next week and we know he can’t take his cup with him to school. So it finally happened, dad officially “misplaced” the scratchy-cup. It’s been a couple of weeks now and he’s doing better, but he still misses his lost scratchy-cup. There have only been a couple of times that he’s asked us to help him look for his scratchy-cup at bedtime.

Did you or your kids have a security blanket of some kind when they were little? When did they give it up?

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I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast. Read 1182 articles by
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  1. Brandon says:

    I had this stuffed animal, fluffy cat that I had to sleep with (luckily, at the third grade, I did not have to take him to school with me). He got very ratty dirty and my mom convinced me that we should wash him. I was apprehensive, but I agreed. He came out of the drier looking like a sheep.

    He just wasn’t the same after that.

    After reading your story about the cup, I’m starting to suspect my mom did it on purpose.

  2. Shane Coffman says:

    Mine was a purple cow.

    Yes, it was a stuffed animal cow, and it was purple.

    My parents didn’t have to “misplace” it, though. It was beheaded.

    I carried it around by the neck, and eventually his head fell off.

    How traumatic!

  3. That Girl says:

    I currently have an old white bear and it is VERY difficult to sleep without him. I may still give him up but I’m only 44… it’s not time, yet.

    My nephew was addicted to a pacifier. My sister in law tried everything and one day they were in a dollar store and he wanted a toy gun. She told him that he would have to pay for it with his pacifier. When they got to check out, the cashier asked my sister in law, “Are you sure?” D said that she never thought she’d bribe a kid – much less for a gun but she’d got to the point that she’d do anything. He only asked for the pacifier a couple of times and he was reminded that he had traded it for the toy. It worked.

  4. Danny says:

    Our oldest started kindergarten yesterday and our youngest started preschool. What a day of emotions!

    For our oldest it was the “pacy”. We did a step-down type deal with her. She handled it very well and when it vanished she did not miss it.

    Now we will see how the youngest will handle it.

    Looking forward to banging fantasy helments in the Carefree league!

  5. Monalea says:

    Rachel sucked her thumb. She finally give up her thumb at age 4 with a lot of work. 3 months later she was in the hospital and she said, “Momma, the doctor said I could suck my thumb.” I told her to go ahead.

    Daniel had a pillow that he carried for 5 years. The pillow case fell apart first. We would tie it together when it would get holes. Forget sewing. His pillow developed holes next. It was a big ratty mess. We hid it for 3 weeks and when he was sick he asked for it. We pulled it out of the hiding place and it was horrible looking. His words, “What happened to it?” We told him it looked that way when it was put up. He was very shocked it looked that way. I guess it is true, “Love is blind.”

    Shane Coffman – I loved your ‘tragic’ story

    Monalea

  6. NB says:

    My older son had a “pacy” until he was a bit over two. I tried everything to get rid of it. One night, our dog was outside on the porch whining and carrying on. I told Son a big story about how the dog needed the pacy way more than he did. Who knew he’d fall for that one? Son threw the pacy out to “Pup Dog” and that was the end of it.

    I had actually thrown the pacy away once before that, then found myself (in desperation) looking under couch cushions, toybox, and in the glove box for the “spare” pacy. No luck. Finally, I had to drive to town to find the one particular brand of pacy he would use. My usual luck – they were sold out. And as I left the store, I spotted a stray pacy on the floor that was the exact right brand. For just a split second I considered… BOILING THAT THING…BUT… germ thoughts and better mommy senses won out and I didn’t. But the thought crossed my mind. (Just for a split second you know.) Screaming kids can make you temporarily insane.

    (I’m having trouble with comments, so hope this doesn’t go through twice.)

  7. James says:

    Trey, you might appreciate our recent episode. Our kids have toys or blankets that have temporarily taken on a security quality. But, I was shocked at thier attachment to set pillow cases. Kyli decided she wanted someone elses and the other two nearly had a heart attack. It was very much like what I have seen or heard in little kids who were attached to a passifier or blanket. Kobi is the only one who kinda has a blanket. Kinda becasue half the time she shares it with Kyli.

    This is not a personal confession but I know a guy who quit sucking his thumb at 13 years old and a woman who slept with a doll until she was about 25 years old in spite of being married.

  8. Anonymous says:

    Jason still has his Mickey Mouse blanket that I had made for him when he was a baby..it’s twin size. Jason is 20, now.
    Sandi

  9. TREY MORGAN says:

    Powerful stuff here guys, and kind of interesting too.

    Sandi – I hope Jason gives up that blanket when he gets a wife! :)

  10. lisa says:

    At the beginning of the summer, our 6-yr-old was still sucking his thumb. We decided we were going to get him to stop before first grade, and our solution was to duct tape his thumbs. We only had to do it for two or three days. Apparently that was all the time needed to break the habit. It was awesome!

  11. jel says:

    don’t tell anyone but I sleep with a stuffed eeyore 😉

  12. TREY MORGAN says:

    CPS CPS – YOU DUCT TAPED HIS THUMBS? You duct taped his thumbs? Well, I guess that’s better than “misplacing” them like I did Cooper’s cup.

    Thanks for the laugh.

  13. Anonymous says:

    Trey, Jessica has seen this blanket and has requested I have him a new one made for Christmas. I can’t find any Mickey Mouse material.
    Do you know how many times this blanket (quilt) has been taken to QMCC, camping and other vacations? It was the first thing he packed when he went to Texas Tech!

    Sandi

  14. Falantedios says:

    My nephew sucked the long finger and ring finger of his right hand, while rubbing his upper lip with either a cotton ball or a “fuzzie” picked off of a blanket. He turns 24 this year, and he still has oh-so-faint scars on his fingers from where his teeth came in and he would not stop sucking his fingers. He had a particular blanket that he picked fuzzies from for several years until the blanket was nearly transparent. He stopped taking cotton balls to school in 3rd grade.

    “5 steps and 5 acts” have been my security blanket for years. As long as I had them, I knew things were okay. I haven’t been very brave in trying to release them, either.

    in HIS love,
    Nick

  15. Jeanne M. says:

    My daughter never had anything for security, so hopefully she felt secure. Our son had a pacifier until he was almost 2, then while visiting relatives overnight, it was lost (honest) so he never had another one, and didn’t cry about it.

  16. Jeanne M. says:

    One of our grandsons sucked his thumb while placing a finger of his other hand in his navel. It took a long time for him to give them up, but I think he quit before going to kindergarten. Ask Lisa??

  17. TREY MORGAN says:

    Nick … good thinking on the “spiritual applications” on this. There are a ton, aren’t there?

  18. Anonymous says:

    My youngest is going to kindergarten in 3 days. He has a stuffed bear. He likes the shiny gold tag on his ear (had to sew that back on after another kid ripped it off). He likes how soft he is. He’s fine at grandma’s without it (Grandma sleeps with him!), but has to have it when he’s home.

    Not long ago, he was not really awake when it was time to take him to grandma’s. He took Teddy with him and forgot to bring him home. At midnight, I drove to my mom’s to get him. This was new for me, my kids haven’t ever been that attached to anything, including me.

    As Brandon said earlier, if I ever wash Teddy, I think he’ll lose his appeal. I do have to confess if he’s close when Zackary isn’t, Teddy has been known to snuggle with me.

    Hey Sandi, if a 20 year old is willing to take a Mickey Mouse blanket to college and take a little flack over it, mom must have done something right. That blanket was made with love and he appreciates it!! After he’s married, he can use it in his recliner.

    Zackary still has a favorite sippy cup, but I wouldn’t say he’s attached to it. By the way, when Cooper was here a few days ago, I offered him a sippy cup. I noticed he had a weird expression on his face. It was like he was trying not to look at it. He refused it.

    Anita

  19. Anonymous says:

    I am 23, married and pregnant with our first child and I still have my baby blanket. I take it everywhere with me except work. i stopped taking it to work a couple of years ago but its the first thing i grab when i get home and i don’t put it down until bedtime. It’s so old and grey all my friends and family call it all sorts of insulting names and are always pretending to use it as a rag. It gets covered in food but i darn’t wash it very often incase more of it falls apart. To make matters worse i “suckle” on it. I rub it on my lower lip and make a clicking noise with my tongue like i am sucking on my thumb- i crave it when i can’t have it and panic if i don’t know where it is. Its sad i know a woman my age being so dependant on a blanket but i wouldn’t give it up even if i was able to. “suckling” on it is the most amazing feeling in the world to me and my blanket would be the only object i cared about saving in a fire. Infact i used to take it to work with me just incase there was a fire while i was out and i wasn’t there to rescue it. It used to embarrass me but a long time ago i made the decision that if i was going to keep suckling then i couldn’t let myself be embarrassed so now i don’t care who sees me!!

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