ROMANCE IN MARRIAGE

I laughed so hard that I had to cut out the “Dear Abby” article. It was a letter from a wife about her husband that read, “My husband has no clue how to be romantic. So I wasn’t surprised the other day when the ‘little present’ he got me for Valentine’s Day was a mood-ring. I’m not sure if my husband thinks I’m moody or not, but at least now he will be able to monitor my moods. When I’m in a good mood it turns green. When I’m in a bad mood it leaves a big red mark on his forehead! He just doesn’t get it … so maybe next time he’ll buy me a diamond ring.”

I am no romance expert, but guys, maybe instead of a mood-ring you should try one of these suggestions on how to be romantic in your marriage… (and wives, your husband would like these too)…

  • Surprise your spouse by finding a babysitter for the kids and going out on a date.
  • Leave a sweet note for your spouse to find.
  • Give your spouse a “good” kiss for no reason at all.
  • Call your spouse during the day just to say “I love you.”
  • Make a list of “25 Things” that you love about your spouse. (ie: Do you know how many brownie points this list got me? I’m still reaping the benefits of the list.)
  • Mail something to your spouse.
  • Men … send flowers to your wife at her work place.
  • Compliment your spouse everyday. (Remember the 5 to 1 ratio?)
  • Plan an evening at home together by yourselves.
  • Give your spouse a massage.

QUESTION: This Dear Abby letter got me to thinking, has your significant other given you something goofy like a mood-ring? I once gave Lea a broom! Not a good idea. And, on the other side of the argument, has your spouse ever done something that has really wowed you?

(A note from Lea: Thanks so much to everyone for the birthday wishes! I had a great day! Trey took me shopping and didn’t complain one bit. How “romantic”!)

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I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast. Read 1182 articles by
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  1. Adam Gonnerman says:

    My wife seems to have no clue about giving me gifts. The safe route is clothes. She gave me a few techie gifts that ended up unused in the drawer, which made me a little sad.

    Troubled marriages are going to need a lot more than this list, but otherwise it’s all excellent advice. I think I’ll start working on a list of things I love about my wife. It might help my attitude towards her, besides making her happy.

  2. Brie says:

    Erm. My two suggestions are:

    Do something with your spouse that even though it’s not one of your favorite things, it’s one of theirs. Note: You can’t whine or act put-upon while doing this, or you lose points instead of gaining them.

    Having breakfast ready when your spouse gets up is so nice. This may mean that you have to entertain the kids and cook breakfast at the same time. Bonus points if you cook something that is a particular favorite- Kyle learned how to cook pancakes because I like them so much, and even remembered that I like vanilla and cinnamon in them. Mmmmmm. Pancakes.

  3. Wade says:

    Hey Trey,

    When our son was born in December a couples years ago, Kelly and I decided to give ourselves one nice present since we had our hands full figuring out life with a newborn.

    The one nice present was a Dyson vacuum cleaner. Despite the fact that it rocks as far as vacuum cleaners go and that Kelly actually did want one for the house, the gift didn’t seem to have the same Christmas morning mystique that you expect.

    I think it had something to do with Kelly having just quit her job to be a stay-at-home mom!

  4. a husband says:

    Great stuff, Trey! Mind if I steal some of these suggestions for my Date Ideas For The Clueless Husband?

    Always enjoy your site.

  5. willow says:

    i love the commercial where the man “gets the klondike bar” cause he doesn’t take his eyes off his wife when the pretty young thing walks by.
    now thats romantic!!!

  6. TREY MORGAN says:

    Adam – Some guys are tough to buy for, but the little stuff makes the difference.

    Brie – Breakfast in bed? What does that mean? :) Good for Kyle

    Wade – A vacuum? That’s as bad as a broom. Rule #1 on gifts for wives, “No Cleaning Supplies.”

    A Husband – You are always welcome to steal what you want. I’m just glad you stop by. I enjoy your blog too.

  7. TREY MORGAN says:

    Willow – I haven’t seen that one! I’ll see if Youtube has it.

  8. Anonymous says:

    in college for VALENTINES DAY (i think) nate got me a mesh dolphin backpack thing filled with candy. something that a four year old would love. my friends and i had a huge laugh at that one, and i even used the backpack for a few days. it was just too funny. oh nate has a great heart and good intentions, but just sometimes misses the mark! gotta love the guy!

  9. Anonymous says:

    oops i forgot to sign my name. kristin

  10. Anonymous says:

    Brandon: Dear Abby I am in Love!

    Trey: if I get married will you be the preacher?

  11. Stoogelover says:

    Just out of sheer curiosity, did your comment about the brownie points negate the list of what you love about Lea???

    As for gifts, one can hardly go wrong at Guitar Center! Granted, it may take her a lifetime to realize the value of the gift and the sentimentality behind such a purchase, but go for it!!

  12. Amanda Sanders says:

    One year, six months before Christmas, I went all out, leaving hints all over the house. I wanted a new ring so bad it just flat out hurt! Just to make sure there would be no mistaking my hints, I taped a picture of a diamond ring over my husband’s driver’s licence.

    Well, there was a suprise. He bought me an aquarium. Yes. An aquarium. He said he didn’t have a clue what I would want, but remebered I said years before, that I would like an aquarium. So, I pretended to love the fish tank. A few weeks later the female fish killed and partially ate the male fish. I thought it was awfully symbolic. :)

  13. TREY MORGAN says:

    Amanda – great story. Lea and I laughed and laughed.

  14. Jeanne M. says:

    My dh used to give me coffeemakers when ours broke. I do not drink coffee!

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