RECONNECTING IN MARRIAGE

It should be a regular goal of any married couple to reconnect on a regular basis, especially if you have children in the home. You have lots of roles and relationships, but none on earth is more important that the one with your spouse.  You can reconnect by simply going out to dinner without the kids, going for a walk and talking about your day or meeting for a cup of coffee.  

Lately with the passing of Lea’s mother and just the stress of ministry and parenting, Lea and I haven’t had time to catch up and reconnect so today we are going out for a drive in the country and having a picnic lunch together.  These few little hours will give us some essential time to reconnect and grow in our relationship.  
  • When is the last time you reconnected with your spouse? 
  • What are some things you and your spouse do to reconnect?  

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I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast. Read 1168 articles by
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  1. Scott says:

    Trey,

    A great reminder to keep dating (courting) your spouse. Amy and I spend most of our spare time together. With our son about to turn 12, we do a good bit of our connecting while he is doing his thing.

    We also still hold hands when we are about town (even after nearly 20 years of marriage).

    One important activity is kitchen time. We cook together. Shared kitchen time is great!

  2. Peter P says:

    Last time we went out for dinner without the kids, someone called the police and CPS got involved… it wasn’t pretty!

    Seriously though, I do what I can as often as I can to keep things going.

    For example, yesterday when my wife got home from work I had a pile of numbered envelopes sitting of the counter waiting for her.

    The instruction was that we would do what each card says and only then woudl we open the next card in the sequence.

    It started with dinner and went through taking the kids to the park then onto a foot spa while we played a game together, then I ran her a bath and finally gave her a relaxing massage to get her to sleep (with a few other steps in between).

    Debbie loved it. She felt like we had spent some really good, quality time together.

    It was great.

  3. L.C.T. says:

    Just a little thank you here. These posts have really inspired my guy and I to keep reconnecting. Even in the dating stage, it’s easy to forget and become complacent. So thank you!

  4. Kevin says:

    This is an area that my wife and I have been working hard on the last number of years. Every night we have a connecting time before we go to bed, we have a weekly date night and we get away every year just the two of us. I recently posted about this here: http://kevinmartineau.blogspot.com/2009/05/as-goes-pastors-marriage-so-goes-church.html

  5. Brie says:

    Hmmmmmm. A few months ago (five? maybe?) I surprised Kyle by booking a night at a bed and breakfast. That was nice.

    Other than that, and watching Fraggles with Noah, I am afraid the rest may have to wait until after my P.h.D.

  6. Charla (SHar-la) says:

    We are going camping this weekend just for this reason; to get away from t.v., cell phones, and other people and just spend time together with God in nature. I hope you took an umbrella on your picnic! :)

  7. Peter P says:

    Just wanted to tell people that you don’t have to have money to ‘reconnect’ in marriage.

    We don’t even have the money for the gas to drive somewhere to go camping let alone go out for regular date nights or yearly ‘getaways’ but there are simple, cheap, or even free, things you can do to fan the flames of your marriage without going out of your front door!

  8. Donna G says:

    We get in the hot tub together, or watch 24 together. We try to go out and eat alone at least once a week…of course it is easier when the nest is empty…but you still have to MAKE time…

  9. Janice Garrison says:

    Larry and I will celebrate our 29th Anniversary in July. We still hold hands, even from the parking lot to the store. He still opens the car door for me, and I love it! We enjoy doing everything together.
    We have read the bible together three years in a row and had great discussions. As I write this we are both in the office. I’m on the computer and he is working on his stamp collection. We really are best friends.

  10. TREY MORGAN says:

    Scott – Great ideas. I love seeing couples hold hands in public.

    Peter – Serious about CPS? Wow, you set the bar high as a husband :) Loved your ideas. And good point about not needing money to reconnect.

    LCT – Thanks for the compliment. :)

    Kevin – Thanks for the link. I’ll check it out.

    Brie – A bed and breakfast is a sure bet.

    Donna – I need to come borrow your hot tub :)

    Janice – Great example of marital love.

  11. Joseph says:

    I can look at this from a Sailor’s point of view.

    During my deployment in Qatar (which I have about 2 weeks to go), my wife and I keep in touch through e-mail. I know it’s not the best way to reconnect, but I feel that it gives us what we need to continue to be emotionally attached whil I’m 8,000 miles away.

  12. The Battle Within Me: A Spiritual Journey says:

    I’m going to have to catch up on your blogs. Great posts. We are doing a marriage study at church as well. Planning to conference call Jonathan in for the next four weeks while he is in Washington. And people say technology can seperate couples….

  13. cwinwc says:

    With the Pepperdine Lectures last week and the rush of work and church, its been a while.

    I’m still working on (sounds funny) #2.

  14. Charla (SHar-la) says:

    I saw the name pronunciation on another blog commenter and I thought it was genius! :)

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