“Dote” is not a word we use much anymore. In fact … I like the word pursue. But just so you’ll know … to “Dote” means: “to be lavish or excessive in one’s attention, fondness, or affection for.” Doting is pretty much what you did to win your spouse before you were married.
I’m not ashamed to say that I love to dote over my wife. Some men don’t dote. In fact, some men think it’s unmanly to dote. I personally think that real men do dote.
I vividly remember the afternoon. Another guy and I were hanging out when our wives walked in the room. I immediately said, where Lea could hear me (what good is it if she doesn’t hear me), “There’s my absolutely beautiful wife.” The other guy looked at his wife, turned up his nose up and said with a real tough tone, “And there’s my wife, and she’s not much to brag about.”
I remember wanting to double up my fist and punch him in the mouth, or better yet, I’d hold him and his wife could punch him in the mouth. Instead I shot him a dirty look and told him if he didn’t start praising her and building her up, he’d be calling me someday with advice on how to win her back. His sarcastic response was, “Real men know how to keep their wives in check!” I just shook my head in disgust knowing he was serious and that his wife had heard the whole conversation.
A little over a year later he was sitting in my office seeking help on how to win his wife back because she had just left him. Surprise, surprise! Someone had come in her life that said sweet things to her, treated her nice and made her feel special; and he couldn’t BELIEVE she’d do this to him. I’ll be honest, I wasn’t very nice to him that day … and I did say, “I told you so.”
Real men (and women) dote. In fact … they NEVER stop doting. Try it, your spouse will love it and your marriage will thank you for it!
“The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord.” ~Proverbs 18:22
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” ~ Ephesians 4:29
“Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting.” ~Ephesians 5:25 (Message)