They say it takes a village to raise a child, and I’m finding that true with raising my boys. In my life, there is no job more important and no ministry more vital than raising my four boys in this world. It takes top priority over all other ministries.
I’m also realizing how vital the role my friends play in raising my boys. On more than one occasion I’ve asked them to pray about certain things in my boys’ lives… and they have. I’m seeing more and more all the time that it does take a village to raise a child, or at least a boy. I value the handful of strong friendships I have with other men. I also value the encouragement that they give my boys. On SO many occasions I’ve had my children tell me of encouraging words they’ve received from some of my closest friends. Here are a few things I’ve heard lately…
“Dad, _____________ told me I was one of the best song leaders at church.”
“Dad, do you know what ________________ told me about my basketball season?”
“Dad, I’ve sure had a lot of encouraging notes lately from ______________.”
I know this, my boys respect what other men have to say. Dad can tell them something, but when they hear it from another man, they really listen. I find it HUGELY significant that in one of my teenage son’s sock drawers, you won’t find the Valentine card he received from his mother, nor will you find the birthday card he got from his father, but you will find a couple of notes he’s received from some men in our church that he really respects.
Boys need encouragement from other men. As I said my prayers this morning, I thanked God for the men-friends that He has put in my life. I also thanked Him for their willingness to help my boys grow up in a world that’s pretty tough at times. I guess it does take a village to raise a child … or at least some really good friends.
You guys will never know how much I appreciate you. You know who you are… and I just want to say, “Thank you, guys.”