I learn new things about raising boys all the time. One thing I’ve picked up on lately is how important it is that my children have encouragement from someone other than their parents.

They say it takes a village to raise a child, and I’m finding that true with raising my boys. In my life, there is no job more important and no ministry more vital than raising my four boys in this world. It takes top priority over all other ministries.

I’m also realizing how vital the role my friends play in raising my boys. On more than one occasion I’ve asked them to pray about certain things in my boys’ lives… and they have. I’m seeing more and more all the time that it does take a village to raise a child, or at least a boy. I value the handful of strong friendships I have with other men. I also value the encouragement that they give my boys. On SO many occasions I’ve had my children tell me of encouraging words they’ve received from some of my closest friends. Here are a few things I’ve heard lately…

“Dad, _____________ told me I was one of the best song leaders at church.”

“Dad, do you know what ________________ told me about my basketball season?”

“Dad, I’ve sure had a lot of encouraging notes lately from ______________.”

I know this, my boys respect what other men have to say. Dad can tell them something, but when they hear it from another man, they really listen. I find it HUGELY significant that in one of my teenage son’s sock drawers, you won’t find the Valentine card he received from his mother, nor will you find the birthday card he got from his father, but you will find a couple of notes he’s received from some men in our church that he really respects.

Boys need encouragement from other men. As I said my prayers this morning, I thanked God for the men-friends that He has put in my life. I also thanked Him for their willingness to help my boys grow up in a world that’s pretty tough at times. I guess it does take a village to raise a child … or at least some really good friends.

You guys will never know how much I appreciate you. You know who you are… and I just want to say, “Thank you, guys.”

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  1. Angie says:

    Ditto for girls. That's all I have to say 'bout that.

  2. Anonymous says:

    I'm just glad we live in the same village. Cause i need way more help than you….(i have a girl)

  3. Anonymous says:

    We have 3 teenage girls and 1 pre-teen and we need all the help we can get!!!!!!!!!!!

  4. L.C.T. says:

    I agree with all of that but in this particular instance just wanted to point out something I'm sure you're already aware of. We don't all have that. There aren't always good Christian guys around so appreciate them so much – I'm sure by this post that you do.

  5. hazytranslucence says:

    It may be worth noting that some of this is likely caused by our understanding of family.

    While I know it isn't true that my parents have to love me, having accepted (and returned) that love means that saying encouraging things to me is part of the deal.

    This can be especially important when trying to overcome some personal feeling of inadequacy, whether it be related to ability or a natural gift.

    Hence, outside encouragement is perhaps often (if not always) considered more seriously than that which comes from the family.

  6. Stoogelover says:

    This is so true of our children. One of the greatest joys of my life as a parent is to now see our children having very close relationships with some of our friends who have known them since they were small.

  7. cwinwc says:

    Amen to what Greg said.
    I think all of us should have a ministry of encouragement with all of those that we come into contact with.

  8. Janet says:

    So true! Great post!!!

  9. Stachia says:

    So very true! I have even found those notes that the boys have received on the front of the frig. Having positive re-enforcement is a huge help!
    Thanks for being part of my village..

  10. NB says:

    Great post! It's great that your boys can have so many positive influences beyond your family. Words of encouragement are priceless in the lives of boys!

  11. Maggie Beth says:

    "Birds of a feather…."

    Sounds like your boys will stay with the flock. I am sure they are gathering many tiny twigs, string and straw to build nests' of their own one day.

    Chidren see adults differently – they are still in 'awe' of them! I remember it was 'really cool' when an adult acknowledged me positively when I was a kid….Too bad we lose that "awe" feeling as we get older.

  12. TREY MORGAN says:

    I'm glad we live in the same village too. :)

    hazytranslucence – good point.

    Greg – you are right.

    Stachia – Isn't it amazing that they find those more valuable than notes from their parents?

    NB – you're a great mom, doing a great job.

    Maggie Beth – Thanks for all you sweet comments. You have much wisdom.

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