It’s Funny How Men & Women Are So Different

My Mom sent the following that I found very funny … but also very realistic when it comes to the way men and women think. Here you go:

A husband & wife’s journal from the same day …

HER JOURNAL: Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it. Conversation wasn’t flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn’t say much. I asked him what was wrong; He said, ‘Nothing.’ I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn’t upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it. On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly, and kept driving. I can’t explain his behavior. I don’t know why he didn’t say, ‘I love you, too.’ When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly, and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent. Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep – I cried. I don’t know what to do. I’m almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.

HIS JOURNAL: Boat won’t start, can’t figure out why.

Be a Christian … But Don’t Be a Jerk

Christians SHOULD be setting the bar high as the most loving, gracious and generous people on this earth.

The problem is … we don’t always do a good job looking like the Jesus we claim to follow. Often times we have treated others unkind in the name of religion. We talk out of both sides of our mouths, saying one thing and then doing another. We’re harsh, critical and condemning. We often draw lines in the sand, where God never intended there to be lines.  On Sunday mornings, we are praising God for His grace in our lives, and an hour later we’re being very ungracious to our waitress for not keeping our glass filled up.

We’ve been hypocritical … and this should NEVER be!

It’s time we start practicing what we preach.  The world won’t know we are Christians by our bumper stickers and t-shirts, BUT by the way we love others around us. There is SO much more to being a Christian than trying to have all the right answers … it’s our attitude towards others and how we treat people that will make the difference.

“Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus…”  Philippians 2:5

10 Ways to Turn On a Woman

Every time I see an Old Spice commercial (like this one), an Axe hair-gel commercial or a TAG body-spray commercial, I just shake my head.  According to the commercials, if you just use these products, women will be uncontrollably attracted to you sexually.  Now men, I’ll be the first to admit, it is important to your wife that you smell good, BUT a quick shot of TAG body-spray is not going to make her jump you in the grocery store.

That got me to thinking about things that really turn a woman on. First thing husbands need to understand when it comes to sex is that men are like a microwave and women are more like a slow-cooker … meaning romance needs to start early in the day for wives.  Husbands, notice the list below … all these things start BEFORE bedtime … MEANING if you just wait for bedtime to get “romantic”, you’re probably too late!

So do you want to know how to turn on a woman?  Tag body-spray may help, but my money is on these…

  1. Give your wife a back or foot rub, no strings attached.
  1. Cook dinner one night and clean up the kitchen when you’re done.
  2. Buy her a gift certificate for a manicure, pedicure or massage … for no reason at all.
  3. Help pick up and clean the house.
  4. Cool it with the criticism.
  5. Stay home with the kids and let her get out of the house by herself, or take the kids out of the house and let her stay home by herself, her preference.
  6. Do a chore for her that she doesn’t like to do.
  7. Surprise her with her favorite candy, and don’t make a wise crack about the calories.
  8. Call her from work just to say hello.
  9. Tell your wife you get turned on just thinking about her.
  10. Take her on a weekly date.

So, wives … can you add some more I’ve missed?

Want to Grow in Your Marriage? Try a “Strong Marriages” Workshop

Thought I might tell you today about two of our  “Strong Marriages” workshop coming up that Lea and I will be doing.

  • Childress, Texas on September 17th from 9:00 a.m. – 2 p.m. at the Main Event in downtown Childress.
  • Henrietta, Texas at the Church of Christ on October 1st.  For more information call them at (940) 538-4564.

Whether your marriage is good, bad, struggling or great … this will be a day of strengthening your marriage.  Whether you are a newlywed or have been married for 40 years, this workshop will bless you.  Here are some of the things we’ll be covering …

  • 7 Things a Husband Needs from His Wife
  • 7 Things a Wife Needs from Her Husband
  • Real Men, Beautiful Women
  • 5 of the Biggest Lies about Marriage
  • Good Marriages Don’t Happen by Accident
  • Sex & Intimacy … the Way God Designed It.
  • Q & A time.

We use videos, PowerPoint and handouts that go with the material presented. We also have book giveaways. The seminar is upbeat, hands on (no pun intended) and a LOT of fun.

If you’re interest in attending one of these two seminars, just contact me and I’ll give you more information.  We’d love to have you come to the Childress seminar. If you’re in the area, you could drive over Saturday morning or come stay in a hotel for the weekend. I will tell you that the Childress seminar has a limited amount of seating, so if you’re interested reserve your spot before it fills up. Also, if you’d be interested in hosting a Strong Marriages seminar for your community or church, feel free to contact me.

Great marriages don’t just happen, they take work. So spend a day making an investment in the most important relationship you have … your marriage.

We’re looking forward to meeting some great couples, who like us, are simply wanting to strengthen their marriage.

11 Facebook Rules for Married Couples

Since so many have been doing the Facebook Marriage Challenge, I thought it’d be a good time to talk about some Facebook Rules for Married Couples.

Facebook has become hugely popular in the past few years. Lea and I both love being able to catch up with old friends and family on Facebook. But with anything that comes along, there can also be dangers and problems if not used responsibly. Sometimes Facebook and other online communities can cause problems in marriages if some rules aren’t followed.

One marriage counselor said this, “Over the course of the last three or four years, I have seen the growth of social networking technologies paralleled by a growth of poor decisions and crossed boundaries by Christians who should know better. I have sat across from many who have entered into emotional and/or physical extra-marital affairs through social media. In fact, lawyers are saying that now, one in five divorce petitions they’re processing cite Facebook as either the way petitioners find out about their partner’s infidelity, and/or how their partner began or pursued extra-marital relationships.

See how important it is that we have some rules, guidelines and accountability for things like Facebook?  Here are a few guidelines for married couples that Lea and I talked about and I’d like to share…

  1. Don’t spend more time on Facebook than you should. How much time is that? It depends on what your spouse says. Communicate with your spouse and ask them, “Am I spending too much time online?”  You want to make sure your spouse is your number 1 relationship, not your buddies on Facebook. Pursue your spouse more than you pursue online relationships. Don’t Facebook during “couple” time (ie. When your wife asks you to watch a movie with her, do you Facebook through it? Or don’t facebook every night instead of going to bed with your husband.).
  2. NEVER hide things from your spouse on Facebook. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it a 1000 more times, openness and honestly is the glue of your marriage. When you start hiding friendships, conversations, chat sessions and comments from your spouse, THAT IS UNHEALTHY. If you’re not allowing your spouse to know what you’re doing on Facebook or online, that’s a sign that you’re doing something you shouldn’t be doing. Cheating on your spouse online is JUST AS WRONG as physically cheating on your spouse. If you’re doing it … STOP IT!
  3. Share your Facebook password with your spouse. I share every password with Lea … from my Facebook account to every email address I have. Why would I want to do that? It’s called trust, and it’s also called accountability. Knowing my wife can open my laptop at anytime and read anything I’m doing, or see any place I’ve gone, keeps me accountable. 9 times out of 10 I don’t even sign out of Facebook, so I know when Lea gets on the computer she can see anything she wants. It’s very healthy. Don’t hide things from your spouse. Make sure you regularly tell them, “You are welcome to see what I’m doing anytime.” 
  4. NEVER EVER EVER befriend anyone of the opposite sex that your spouse is uncomfortable with. SERIOUSLY, befriending an old boyfriend or girlfriend should NEVER be done without fully discussing it with your spouse. AND, ff they are even in the slightest way uncomfortable with you befriending anyone of the opposite sex … don’t do it.  Don’t search for old boyfriends and girlfriends. Simple communication with your spouse about this is best.
  5. Defriend anyone who crosses normal boundaries. If someone is saying things, doing things or asking questions online that make you uncomfortable OR would make you uncomfortable in person, then that’s not a good sign. Listen to the little voice in your head. If something tells you “this isn’t right,” then it’s probably not. Never be ashamed or afraid to defriend someone that may have ulterior motives.  You marriage relationship is your #1 concern, not the feelings of an old Jr. High flame.
  6. If you’re married, PROUDLY set your “Relationship Status” to married. Seriously … proudly shout to the world … I AM MARRIED!  I wish there was a “Happily Married” status or for that matter, or an “I’m madly in love with my incredibly gorgeous wife.” I’d change my status to that in a heartbeat. :)
  7. Post pictures of you and your spouse on your Facebook, OR use a “couple” picture as your profile picture.
  8. Don’t be afraid to proclaim your love for your spouse on Facebook. Someone of the opposite sex won’t question your love for your spouse if you occasionally brag on your spouse on your Facebook status. It’s one of the healthiest things you can do … to brag on your spouse, and doing it in public conveys your love for your spouse to the world. It doesn’t bother me one drop to tell the world just how much I love my wife.
  9. NEVER  use my status to complain about my spouse. Not smart! Facebook is not for you to air your grievances to the world about your spouse.
  10. Think before you type. Don’t make comments on statuses and pictures of other people that come across as suggestive. Men, THINK how it’s going to look before you click “like” on some girls picture that was taken at a swimming pool. Wives, think before you praise another man on Facebook more than you would your husband.
  11. No matter how many friends you have on Facebook, remember that your #1 friend should be your spouse. Strive to better that relationship on a daily basis. Work 1000 times harder to grow in your relationship than you do at finding friends on Facebook. NEVER take your relationship with your spouse for granted. THE LAST THING YOU WANT is 1000 Facebook friends, while the love between you and your best friend slowly dies out.
Can you think of any Facebook rules for married couples that I might have missed?

The 7 Day Facebook Marriage Challenge

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Just How Rich Am I?

Want some very challenging reading today? I’d love to challenge your thinking for just a moment on how wealthy you and I are.   I’m not here to make you feel guilty, but you may … because I did. We, as Americans don’t always understand what real poverty is.  A new study by the US […]

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Wearing Pink Flip-Flops for Jesus

I’d like you to meet Canon. He and his family went with us to Honduras. Canon just turned 12-years-old and was a “go getter” in Honduras. The picture fits him perfectly … everywhere he went he had his backpack FULL of things to give away to others. He brought stuff from home like baseball caps, […]

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Honduras Mission Trip from the Eyes of My 9 year-old Son

This is Cooper (in the middle of picture). He is my 9 year old son who just spent an amazing week working in Honduras. He built houses, fed hungry people, made LOTS of new friends and even went to the dump with me. I think it is a HUGE blessing for my children to get […]

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12 Pictures From Honduras You’ve Got To See

Here’s a little report on our Honduras trip. Sorry I’m a little slow sharing, but we got in at 2:00 Sunday morning, and I’ve been sick ever since. I was trying to think about what all I wanted to tell you, and finally decided that I’d just show you. We did medical clinics, clothing give-aways, […]

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Here’s why it was a great day today …

The kid below got to eat. Spent some time at the dump today. The smell was bad, the people were dirty, but this little boy got to eat. We ran out of food about the time he walked up, but with enough scraping on the pans, we were able to come up with a bowl […]

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Heart Break

I hope this picture comes through … it’s of people who were heart-broken. These people waited all day in line to see one of our doctors … and time has ran out on them. They were turned away. There were just more people than we could see. It hurt to look them in the eyes. […]

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Building Houses

We’re building two types of houses this week … wood and block. Today we’ve spent the day mixing concrete for the block house we’re building. The one cinder-block house we’re building will take us a week to finish. We’re also building several wood houses, those only take a few hours each. We worked all day, […]

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Honduras – Day 1

Twenty-four hours after arriving Honduras everyone has officially made it. We had 2 that started a day late after travel problems, but as always, God worked it out fine. Today we worshiped with the church in Santa Ana. Although two-thirds of the service was in Spanish, we still enjoyed it greatly. After lunch we split […]

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Headed to Honduras

Today we leave for Dallas-Fort Worth. We’ll catch a Rangers game tonight and then leave bright and early in the morning for Honduras. We’ve got a group of 50 who are going to spend the week serving others. Our suitcases are packed FULL of items that you’ve sent for us to take.  Remember when I […]

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4 of the Most Important People in My Life

God has blessed me with 4 amazing boys. All so much alike, and yet, all so different from one another. I couldn’t have asked for better boys. This picture was taken in Red River, New Mexico, where we’ve been hiding out as a family the last 10 days. I’ve done my best to take full […]

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One Thing that Every Marriage Needs …

I had a young lady, who was a couple of months away from getting married, ask me, “What’s the one thing I can do that will really make a big difference in my upcoming marriage?” The answer for me was easy … “Give him LOTS of praise and admiration. You cannot heap it on too […]

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Bacon

It was only a matter of time before I posted something on bacon. If you know me, you know that I love bacon. Obviously I’m not the only bacon lover …

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11 Things I’m Looking Forward to This Next Week…

I’m getting a little time off at the end of this week and my family and I are heading to Red River, New Mexico.  We’ll be attending the Red River Family Encampment and then spend a little time vacationing before coming home. Here are a few things I’m looking forward to over the next ten […]

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Building Memorial Houses in Honduras

We’re planning on building LOTS of houses while in Honduras next month. It may be everyone’s favorite thing to do. There’s SO much reward in building a house, and at the end of the day praying with the family that is to receive it saying, “God bless you … this is yours.” Sometimes people pay […]

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My Favorite Father’s Day Video

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You Might Be a Hypocrite If…

I was asked recently what a hypocrite is. The dictionary describes a hypocrite as someone who “pretends to be more virtuous or religious  than he really is.” Or in simpler terms, a hypocrite is someone who says one thing and does the opposite. I’m far from being a perfect person, but I don’t ever want […]

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When it Comes to Marriage, Staying in Love is a Choice

CAUTION: I’m on my soapbox today. If you don’t want to hear me get preachy … click another link and move right on. I probably don’t need to blog when I’m frustrated. I heard it again the other day. The phrase I hear too often, and when I hear it, it makes me a little […]

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6 Things I Need for Honduras … Can You Help?

A group of 47 of us are heading to Honduras in a little over a month.  I just thought I’d ask this morning …. would you, your church, your work, social club, etc, be willing to help gather things up for our trip to Honduras?  We need some help with some little things to take […]

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Reconnecting in My Marriage

Married couples, especially those with children at home, need to regularly reconnect by … Going on a date every week. Going on an overnight trip once every 3 months. Going on a long trip (more than one night) once a year. I’ve always preached this … but have struggled with following the third one. Lea […]

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A Little Time Off

I’m enjoying a little time off this week from blogging and Facebook. Be back in a few days. Have a blessed week.

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A $2.99 Hug

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Guilty of Being Too Gracious

When he asked me the question, I knew I’d heard that type of question before. It was one of those, “What if a person is doing…,” questions that ended with, “Will that person get to go to heaven or hell?” He was calling someone’s morality into question, and I could tell by how he asked, […]

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If The World Ends Today … Are You Ready?

Everyone’s been talking about it all week … it’s coming they say … the Day of Judgment or as some have called it, “The Rapture.” Some self-proclaimed “experts” say they have figured out when it’s going to take place and  it’s all supposed to happen today, May 21st. They say, the world as we know […]

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Sex is a Gift from God

I’ve been preaching on marriage this month (here are the sermons if you’d like to follow along).This past Sunday I talked about, “10 Ways to Bless Your Marriage,” and in there I talked a little about sex. Here are a few things I mentioned … “A wise wife puts her husband’s sexual needs at the […]

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Would you hug a person like this?

I love this picture … let me tell you why.  This is my friend, Marc Tindall, and he’s being Jesus.  Marc is loving on a person from the dump in Tegucigalpa, Honduras. Despite this lady’s stench and despite her filth … he loves her anyway. He’s concerned with her physical, emotional and spiritual needs. He’s […]

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Are You Hiding Things From Your Spouse?

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Monday Morning Thoughts and Pictures…

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7 Things I’ve Learned from Cancer

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Dump Day 2011 Follow Up

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Trey Morgan Here are my thoughts about marriage, family, raising children, humor, faith and the life God intended for us all. I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast.

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