Overcoming Sexual Temptation

Here are a few things I found written down in an old journal this week that I’d like to share with you. Let’s start with a quiz. These aren’t trick questions, and they’re not hard. But play along if you will.

  • Who was physically the strongest man in the Bible? (Samson)
  • Who was the wisest man in the Bible? (Solomon)
  • Who was the one in the Bible called “a man after God’s own heart?” (David)
  • What did they have in common?  All of them, the strongest man in the Bible, the smartest man in the Bible and arguably the most godly man in the Bible – all of them struggled with sexual temptation AND LOST.

Sexual temptation is obviously something I need to pay attention to. What it’s telling me is I am not so strong, I am not so smart and I am not so godly … that I cannot crash and burn when it comes to sexual temptation. I am NOT beyond falling into this temptation, and when I think I am, I may be the most vulnerable. “If you think you are standing strong, be careful, for you too may fall into the same sin.” (1 Corinthians 10:12)

Here are some things I think are important for me to know in overcoming sexual temptation:

  • CONTROL WHAT YOU SEE: Men, we are very visual, so remove anything (television, internet, books, etc) from your home that might tempt you. Don’t go anywhere you cannot handle. Learn to keep your eyes in check like Job when he said 31:1, “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl.
  • ASK FOR GOD’S HELP: God has promised, you will not be tempted more that what you can bear. Also remember that Jesus even suggested in the “Lord’s Prayer” that when we pray we say, “…and lead us not into temptation…”
  • PURSUE YOUR WIFE (or HUSBAND): Focus on what you have, not on what you don’t. Put your effort into pursuing the person you married by growing in your marriage. DON’T be like the idiot I met years ago who said after checking out a woman who walked by, “I may be on a diet, but it won’t hurt anything to check out the menu.” I wasn’t surprised that his marriage didn’t last very long. Men … NEVER flirt with a woman you’re not married to, and DON’T stop flirting with the woman you married. And wives, if he’s going to pursue you … make yourself worthy of pursing. Seriously men … pursue YOUR wife.
  • BE ACCOUNTABLE: Find another person that you trust that can keep you accountable. When you struggle tell them to pray for you and have them hold you accountable for overcoming your struggles. One of the greatest defenses I have in staying pure is a couple of men friends that are willing to talk about marriage and struggles with me.
  • WIVES, DON’T STARVE YOUR HUSBANDS: Too many times I’ve listened to wives whine about their husbands’ struggles with lust when all along it was the wife who was starving their husbands sexually. Don’t starve your husband sexually and then berate him for his hunger. If you want to protect your husband, do what the Bible says and fulfill one another’s sexual needs (1 Corinthians 7:2-5). Don’t deprive him, or you’ll make his struggle to be pure harder. (For more on this topic click here). Strive for a healthy, happy sex life in your marriage.

One of these days my funeral will come. I COULD CARE LESS if anyone mentions if I was a good minister or could preach a good sermon. I DO NOT CARE if anyone mentions that I ever helped anyone. MY ONLY GOAL, as they stand over my dead body, is that they say,“He was faithful to God, his wife, and he was a good dad!”

Stupid Things Parents Say

Remember those cliches that came out of your parents’ mouths that made your skin crawl? If you are like most of us, you probably swore to yourself that you would never say “those things” to your kids. I can vividly remember thinking to myself, “I’m NEVER going to use that phrase with my kids,” but now, from time to time I catch myself dipping into the unholy bucket of lame parental cliches.

The following are some parental cliches and phrases that are used by parents. Some of them are funny and some are not a healthy part of a relationship with a child.


  • “Because I said so!” – This phrase is used by parents when a child asks “Why?”, but the parent really doesn’t have a good answer.
  • “I’ve had it up to ‘here’ with you!” – This phrase is used in conjunction with the parent pointing to their eyebrow area of their head. Meaning, I’m “this close” to snuffing out your life.
  • “And if Joey goes and jumps off a bridge are you going to jump off too?” – A parental favorite used as a comeback when a child has just whined, “But everyone else is doing it!”
  • “One of these days when you’re a parent, you’ll understand.” – Another parental favorite that is used when a child has said, “I just don’t understand why!”
  • “Don’t you look at me like that!” – Usually a phrase used by an angry parent who has just chewed their child up one side and down the other. The child is now unhappy and his face shows it.
  • “N-O! No!” – The spelling of the word “no” for emphasis to your child who has just asked to do something you’d never let them do. This is particularly frustrating to teenagers who clearly know how to spell the word “N-O”.
  • “How many times do I have to tell you?” – A phrase used by an impatient, frustrated parents who has had to tell their child something more than once. Something we never need, right?
  • “You just wait until your father gets home.” – Meaning you should pack your bags and RUN AWAY now. Death is certain.
  • “I hope someday you have children just like you.” – This is an insult of the most personal kind. It insinuates first that the child is enough of a nuisance that you hope they one day understand how it feels to be in your position. Never, ever use this phrase!
  • And let’s not leave out “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about” or “Don’t make me come in there!”
  • “Why can’t you be like your brother/sister?” A horrible phrase used to compare one sibling to another … something that should NEVER be done.


  • I love you.
  • I’m proud of you.
  • I’m glad you asked.
  • Thanks for checking in.
  • I forgive you.
  • Thank you.
  • I appreciate you.
  • You can do it.
  • Don’t give up.
  • No matter what, I’m here for you.
  • Did you have a good day?
  • Good job.

You know, children are inquisitive. If they ask a question, try and give them an answer. A real answer. If you don’t have a good answer, don’t tell them “No.” If they ask why, they may not be trying to challenge your authority, they may just want to know “Why?” While it might be inconvenient at times, do try to avoid empty meaningless cliches and phrases.

God has given us the gift of speech. How we use it will make a difference in our children’s lives? Words and phrases can hurt, cut and wound for a lifetime, but words can also heal. So choose your words wisely.

“Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing” (Proverbs 12:18).

20 Years Ago Today …

I can’t believe that 20 years ago today, in a hospital in Childress, Texas … we had an amazing son named Parker.  Lea and I are blessed to have such an amazing kid. We have loved watching him grow up in physical and spiritual stature. Happy 20th Parker … we’re very proud of you.

Parker hiking in Palo Dura Canyon.

Parker loves trips to Honduras.

He absolutely LOVES being outdoors and hunting & fishing.

The Morgan boys in Red River, New Mexico.

Parker playing with kids in a little Honduran village.

Did I mention that Parker LOVES to fish?

Men, When it Comes to Your Marriage … Don’t Be Bob!

(I have no clue where this came from … but it sure made me laugh …)

Bob’s Last Letter:

It is important for men to remember that as women grow older it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as they did when they were younger. When men notice this, they should try not to yell. Let me relate how I handle the situation:

When I got laid off from my consulting job and took “early retirement” in April, it became necessary for Nancy to get a full-time job, both for extra income and for health benefits that we need. It was shortly after she started working that I noticed that she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home from fishing or hunting about the same time she gets home from work. Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says that she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts supper. I try not to yell, instead I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she finally does get supper on the table. She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. It is now not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after supper. I do what I can by reminding her several times each evening that they aren’t cleaning themselves. I know she appreciates this, as it does seem to help her get them done before she goes to bed.

Now that she is older she seems to get tired so much more quickly. Our washer and dryer are in the basement. Sometimes she says she just can’t make another trip down those steps, I don’t make a big issue of this. As long as she finishes up the laundry the next evening I am willing to overlook it.

Not only that, but unless I need something ironed to wear to the Monday lodge meeting or to Wednesday’s or Saturday’s poker club or to Tuesday’s or Thursday’s bowling or something like that, I will tell her to wait until the next evening to do the ironing. This gives her a little more time to do some of those odds and ends like shampooing the dog, vacuuming or dusting.

Nancy is starting to complain a little occasionally. For example, she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. In spite of her complaining, I continue to try to offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won’t have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn’t hurt her any, if you know what I mean.

When doing simple jobs she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the yard. I try not to embarrass her when she needs these little extra rest breaks. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. I tell her that as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me and take her break by the hammock so she can talk with me until I fall asleep.

I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Nancy on a daily basis. I’m not saying that the ability to show this much consideration is easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible. No one knows better than I do how frustrating women can become as they get older. However, guys, even if you just yell at your wife a little less often because of this article, I will consider that writing it was worthwhile.

Signed, Bob

Bob’s funeral was on Saturday, December 22nd.

Nancy was acquitted Monday, January 27th.

10 Things Women Will NEVER Understand About Men

Men love being men, but sometimes the very things that make us unique are the things that women understand the least.  Come to think of it, there are probably LOTS of things that men do that don’t make sense to women. Things like these things ….

  1. Men just can’t stop and ask for directions.
  2. Men are obsessed with the TV remote control.
  3. Men have no desire to start their Christmas shopping until December 24th.
  4. Men can remember the score of a baseball game played ten years ago but will struggle to remember their own anniversary.
  5. Men can settle all serious arguments with a quick game of rock, paper, scissors.
  6. Men HATE to chit-chat on the phone.
  7. Men hate to wrap presents.
  8. Men can watch the movie Gladiator over 1000 times without getting tired of it.
  9. Under no circumstances do men EVER want to watch ice skating or men’s gymnastics on television.
  10. Men only cry when their team wins the big game or a heroic dog dies saving his master from death.

Girls, you may not understand us … and we may think our way is better than yours, so it’s probably a good idea to remind us occasionally what Solomon said in Proverbs 14:12 … “There is a way which seems right unto a man, but in the end it leads to death” (Proverbs 14:12).

Smile and have a great day.

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You’ll find two outside cats that are meow-challenged. Yes, neither cat knows how to meow.  The male cat only makes squeaking sounds like a chipmunk or squirrel when he wants something to eat. The only noise I’ve ever heard our female cat make was screeching sounds when I stepped on her once. You’ll find a […]

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10 Years Ago Today …

10 years ago today, God blessed Lea and I with a sweet, kind, tender-hearted little boy. That day I got the honor of giving him his name … Cooper James Morgan. Happy 10th Birthday, Cooper!

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Many years ago when I started in ministry, there were certain things I said that I would NEVER do. On some I’ve held true, and on others I’ve failed miserably. Here are some of those things I said I’d NEVER do in ministry … I said I would NEVER want to be called anything but […]

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I want to be a 5 to 1 husband! Statistics on marriage scare me, but the Studer Group has released a new study on “Compliment to Criticism” ratio. They’ve told us from their studies, that people in general need 3 compliments given for every 1 criticism that is said to them. While that didn’t surprise […]

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If you REALLY want to get God’s attention in prayer, it’s not by being eloquent or using big words, but by being honest and shooting straight with Him. The power of praying aloud is ELECTRIC! Prayer is not about poetry or posture, but about engaging the heart. When it comes to the “power of prayer,” […]

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Influencing a New Gang Member

Taz is a young man who blew into our community about a year ago. His past is a rough one and he openly confesses … “I’ve probably done more harm to people than good.” Thankfully, some kind folks I do church with, saw value in Taz and reached out to him not long after he […]

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Come to Honduras With Me This December

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3 Things I Learned This Past Week

“Blessed is the man who finds wisdom, the man who gains understanding…”~Proverbs 3:13 Life is about learning. Learning from mistakes, victories and others makes me a wiser and stronger person.  I’m always trying to learn things from everyday events. Little lessons hidden among daily events and activities. Some of the things I learn are beneficial […]

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31 Stupid Ways to Kill your Marriage

There are probably hundreds of dumb things to do in your marriage, but here are 31 that will destroy your marriage… Believe that your marriage will be great without having to invest time or effort into it. NEVER compliment or praise your spouse. Stop pursuing your spouse like you did before marriage. Be critical all […]

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“I’m finding it hard to squeeze some quiet time with God into my daily schedule.”  Grrr, if I had a nickel for every time I heard someone say the previous statement, I’d put all that money in a bag and whack them over the head with it. Let me just simply say that if you […]

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Lea Is Still the Girl for Me

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Be a Christian … But Don’t Be a Jerk

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10 Ways to Turn On a Woman

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Trey Morgan Here are my thoughts about marriage, family, raising children, humor, faith and the life God intended for us all. I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast.

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