I can’t believe that 20 years ago today, in a hospital in Childress, Texas … we had an amazing son named Parker. Lea and I are blessed to have such an amazing kid. We have loved watching him grow up in physical and spiritual stature. Happy 20th Parker … we’re very proud of you.
Bob’s Last Letter:
It is important for men to remember that as women grow older it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as they did when they were younger. When men notice this, they should try not to yell. Let me relate how I handle the situation:
When I got laid off from my consulting job and took “early retirement” in April, it became necessary for Nancy to get a full-time job, both for extra income and for health benefits that we need. It was shortly after she started working that I noticed that she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home from fishing or hunting about the same time she gets home from work. Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says that she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts supper. I try not to yell, instead I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she finally does get supper on the table. She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. It is now not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after supper. I do what I can by reminding her several times each evening that they aren’t cleaning themselves. I know she appreciates this, as it does seem to help her get them done before she goes to bed.
Now that she is older she seems to get tired so much more quickly. Our washer and dryer are in the basement. Sometimes she says she just can’t make another trip down those steps, I don’t make a big issue of this. As long as she finishes up the laundry the next evening I am willing to overlook it.
Not only that, but unless I need something ironed to wear to the Monday lodge meeting or to Wednesday’s or Saturday’s poker club or to Tuesday’s or Thursday’s bowling or something like that, I will tell her to wait until the next evening to do the ironing. This gives her a little more time to do some of those odds and ends like shampooing the dog, vacuuming or dusting.
Nancy is starting to complain a little occasionally. For example, she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. In spite of her complaining, I continue to try to offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won’t have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn’t hurt her any, if you know what I mean.
When doing simple jobs she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the yard. I try not to embarrass her when she needs these little extra rest breaks. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. I tell her that as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me and take her break by the hammock so she can talk with me until I fall asleep.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Nancy on a daily basis. I’m not saying that the ability to show this much consideration is easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible. No one knows better than I do how frustrating women can become as they get older. However, guys, even if you just yell at your wife a little less often because of this article, I will consider that writing it was worthwhile.
Bob’s funeral was on Saturday, December 22nd.
Nancy was acquitted Monday, January 27th.
Men love being men, but sometimes the very things that make us unique are the things that women understand the least. Come to think of it, there are probably LOTS of things that men do that don’t make sense to women. Things like these things ….
- Men just can’t stop and ask for directions.
- Men are obsessed with the TV remote control.
- Men have no desire to start their Christmas shopping until December 24th.
- Men can remember the score of a baseball game played ten years ago but will struggle to remember their own anniversary.
- Men can settle all serious arguments with a quick game of rock, paper, scissors.
- Men HATE to chit-chat on the phone.
- Men hate to wrap presents.
- Men can watch the movie Gladiator over 1000 times without getting tired of it.
- Under no circumstances do men EVER want to watch ice skating or men’s gymnastics on television.
- Men only cry when their team wins the big game or a heroic dog dies saving his master from death.
Girls, you may not understand us … and we may think our way is better than yours, so it’s probably a good idea to remind us occasionally what Solomon said in Proverbs 14:12 … “There is a way which seems right unto a man, but in the end it leads to death” (Proverbs 14:12).
Smile and have a great day.
- You’ll find two outside cats that are meow-challenged. Yes, neither cat knows how to meow. The male cat only makes squeaking sounds like a chipmunk or squirrel when he wants something to eat. The only noise I’ve ever heard our female cat make was screeching sounds when I stepped on her once.
- You’ll find a family that’s probably not much different than yours. We love each other, yet we can still get on one another’s nerves at times.
- You’ll find that we eat bread with nearly every meal.
- You’ll find that everyone carries a tube of ChapStick. I’m not sure if we were just all cursed with dry lips, but we are all addicted to the stuff.
- You’ll find a cup of coffee, a glass of milk, water and a pitcher of sweet tea if you’re thirsty. But if it’s a soft-drink you want, you’ll be out of luck.
- You’ll find 4 fun boys who are all very unique and different, yet they are still amazingly alike.
- You’ll find that Lea and I are amazingly different in every way, but with hard work and patience we’ve learned to be very compatible.
- You’ll find that there’s often an extra kid or two hanging out at our house … and we like it that way.
- You’ll find that we eat supper together as a family. At those meals, we don’t start until everyone’s at the table, we always pray before we eat and no one is allowed to mess with cell phones during the meal.
- You’ll find a VERY old dog named Cocoa who’s breath will kill most living things.
- You’ll find a man who is still madly in love with the girl of his dreams. And his goal is the same thing every morning when he wakes … work just as hard to keep her as he did to win her.
I’d love to know …. so tell me a little about your family. What’s it like?
22 years ago today, God blessed Lea and I with our first born son. That day we named that good-looking kid … Taylor Ross Morgan.
Happy 22nd Birthday, Taylor! We are very proud of you.
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