Beautiful children that were fed today in Bueno Samaritano today. Can’t wait to share more.
We’ve received three letters from Taylor to this point, and he’s doing very well in basic training and loving Army life. One of the things Taylor knew when he chose to enlist in the Army was that there probably wouldn’t be a lot of positive Christian influence there. Lea and I have prayed numerous times that God would allow him to bloom spiritually wherever he is planted. I’d like to share a little of letter #1 that he sent to us…
“Socially things are still pretty tough. It’s hard having conversation and fitting in with very non-christian ‘alpha-male” type guys. You definitely don’t realize how much you miss Christian fellowship until you don’t have any suddenly. On the bright side, I still have my bible and God to talk to.”
My response to him … “Taylor, the Army is training you so you can be ready for every life threatening condition that the enemy may throw at you. They are putting you through EVERYTHING just to prepare you for what might happen in the future. Their goal is to make you succeed when you get on the field, AND they are doing all this crash-course training in about a 6 month time period. SO here’s my thinking. Just like the Army is now training you for the field … Mom and I have been training you spiritually for the past 22 years. We have been getting you ready for this very time … to send you out into the world and succeed spiritually there. The Army’s training will be a fraction of what ours has been, and we have full confidence in the Christian Soldier we’ve trained that no matter what Satan throws at you … you can overcome it. Stay strong. Be in the world, just not of the world.
This morning I can’t help but think how important that training was and how quickly it went by. Seems like yesterday I was standing in a labor/delivery room when he was born. Then I blinked … and that little baby grew up and is now off in the Army! Time certainly doesn’t stand still.
If you still have children at home, value each moment … because before you know it, you’ll blink, and they’ll be all grown up. The years, months, days and minutes are SO important with each child. We don’t have them very long – value them … cherish them … and TRAIN them while you can. Because very soon you’ll blink, and you’ll be letting go too.
Sometimes talking with our wives can be like navigating through a field loaded with dangerous landmines. Just one miscalculation or wrong answer and you can land in the doghouse. So on a Monday when you could use a little humor, here are 13 things you should never say or do to your wife or girlfriend.
- Never give an appliance, broom or cleaning supply as a gift. I learned this hard lesson early in marriage when I brought a broom home as a surprise for Lea. That broom is still sitting in my garage. She’s never used it. Lesson learned.
- Never refer to keeping your own kids as “babysitting.” When a 15 year old girl from church does it, it’s called babysitting. When you do it, it’s called taking care of your own children.
- Never say, “It must be that time of the month, eh?” Even if it IS … don’t say that.
- Never suggest that your job is harder than hers, even if you feel it is.
- Never say, “You are just like your mother.” If you do, she’ll probably go spend some time with her mother and leave you sleeping in your bed … alone.
- Never suggest that your driving is superior to hers, even if you feel it is.
- Never be unimpressed with or complain about a meal that took lots of effort. That’s just common sense.
- Never be critical about your wife’s new haircut. Reread this one, because this one might get you in more trouble than all the rest … combined.
- Never expect a medal for a little housework. Men, including me, have this crazy idea that they should get a gold medal if they help around the house a little bit. It’s your house too … help pick it up.
- Never ask, “Have you put on a little weight lately?” Even if she’s knocking over lamps in the living-room with her hips, there is NEVER a time to ask it that way.
- Never compare your wife’s cooking to your mother’s. Wow, maybe as BIG a no-no as #7. And saying anything like, “Well, that’s not the way my Mom did it,” will only cause you to have to spend a lot of time with your Mom.
- Never answer her question, “Why yes, that DOES make you look fat,” when asked.
- Never say, “Are you REALLY going to wear that?” Unless of course you’re wanting a black eye.
Much like a David Letterman’s Top 10 List … here are 10 things I can guarantee that will happen with our family Thanksgiving Day…
10. We’ll have WAY too much food.
9. Uncle Allen will tell at least 5 of the corniest one-liner jokes you’ve ever heard in your life.
8. Everyone will gather around to watch the Dallas Cowboys play football.
7. At least 3 times, one of my kids will ask, “When are we going to eat, Dad?”
6. Lea will be stressed out just a bit because she’ll want everything to be just perfect.
5. We’ll miss Taylor.
4. At least 3 times Cooper will say, “Dad, I’m bored.”
3. There will be LOTS of people packed into the Keeney’s big house.
2. Thanksgiving dinner will happen 2 hours after whatever time we have scheduled to eat.
1. We’ll be very thankful.
Lea and I spent the day talking about the Black Friday deals we wish we could get. There were several things that caught our eye, but none were worth getting up at 3 a.m. on Friday to go get them. Seems like every year Lea and I talk about not spending “as much” on gifts as we did the previous year, but somehow it happens. This year we’ve briefly talked about taking the amount we spend on gifts and matching that amount in giving towards good places like Bread for a Hungry World.
I guess what bothers me is that even during what some call “hard” economic times, we’ll spend TONS of money on more things we can really live with out. For example … did you know that this year between Thanksgiving and Christmas, America will spend 470.4 billion dollars? Slow down and read that last sentence again … 470.4 billion!! Here’s the amazing part, that is 11 million dollars EVERY MINUTE from the beginning of Black Friday until Christmas Day. That’s STAGGERING.
And before you know it … December’s Christmas gifts quickly become January’s payments.
I’m not against buying things, but I do think it’s wrong for us to go over-board. I’m bothered by commercials that make us feel guilty if we don’t buy EVERYONE a gift. I’m tired of the television telling us what we DON’T have, when we really have more than we already need.
Just as a good reminder …
- While you’re shopping don’t complain about the price of gas, instead simply remember that only 10% of the people in the world own a car and you and I probably have more than just 1 of them!
- As Americans, every year we spend 12 billion dollars on storage facilities to store our extra worldly possessions that we don’t have room for. Don’t forget that some people don’t even have a home!!!
- Today when you ask, “Where are we going to eat?” or “When are we going to eat?” just remember that some in this world will ask, “Are we going to get to eat?” We’ll throw out more Thanksgiving leftovers this week than many in this world will eat in an entire week. I am thankful that we’re not finding our food at a garbage dump today.
We are very blessed people and we are living in a blessed nation. It’s okay to shop this Christmas season and enjoy a season of giving and receiving, just don’t go over-board. Remind yourself this time of year just how blessed you really are AND THEN … make an effort to share some of what you have with some who are less fortunate.
It was Jesus who said in Luke 12:15, “a man’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions.” Jesus was so smart.
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