Halloween was a big event around my house when I was a kid. It meant two things: dressing up to get candy and Christmas was right around the corner. We didn’t get a lot of candy growing up, so we couldn’t wait to start knocking on doors in the neighborhood.
When it came to costumes there were two rules. First, we couldn’t afford to buy one, so we had to make our own. And second, mom didn’t allow costumes that were about killing or death. That meant our costumes were pretty normal things like football players, firemen and hobo’s. Halloween wasn’t about satan or evil, it was simply about fun.
I remember spending hours trick-or-treating up and down the blocks for a medium size bag of hard candy. If someone was giving out chocolate, word would spread throughout the neighborhood, and we’d get there as fast as we could. If you could get one or maybe two pieces of chocolate, you’d struck gold.
Oh, and we were always reminded of the rules like, “Only go to houses that have their porch lights on and never eat anything until you bring it home to be inspected.” We were always warned at school that bad people put needles and razorblades in apples, so never eat an apple with out inspecting it. I remember thinking, “Who’d want a stinking apple anyway, bring on the candy.”
This Friday night my youngest two will dress up and go trick-or-treating. They’ll get twice as much candy as I ever got with only half the time and effort. Seventy percent of the candy in their bags will be chocolate, and I can guarantee you that they’ll be unwilling to share any of it with dear old dad. But that’s okay, because I know where they hide their candy bags.
What do you remember about Halloween when you were a kid?
(Comment of the Day: penitentman said… “I remember a couple years where we filled multiple pillowcases with sugary loot.I remember egging an old guy’s house the year he handed out cellophane wrapped rolls of pennies with like 7 cents in them… that’s worth like… a laffy taffy and a half. Come on!I remember the guy who some years would put a stuffed scarecrow on his porch and some years would dress as a scarecrow and sit there and you never knew which it was until he jumped up and growled at you. At which point I was glad to have a pillowcase sized bag to hide the fact I wet myself.I remember tearing the crotch in my batman costume from jumping around the house yelling Ka-Pow! And later jumping off the swingset with the batman cape on… and oh the delightful smell of those plastic masks with poor vision and sweat in the eyes…”)
Nothing is funnier to me that being able to laugh at yourself or what you do. I have an arsenal of preacher jokes, but here is one of the ones that is at the top of my favorites list…
Three ministers and their wives were on a cruise. A tidal wave came up and swamped the ship; they all drowned, and next thing you know, they’re standing at the gates of heaven before Peter.
The first minister came with his wife and stood before Peter. Peter opened the book of life and shook his head sadly. “I’m sorry, I can’t let you in. You loved money too much. Your life was only about money. You loved it so much, you even married a woman named Penny.”
Then came the second minister and his wife. “I’m sorry, I can’t let you in, either. You loved food too much and you know what the Bible says about gluttony! In fact, you loved to eat so much, you even married a woman named Candy!”
The third minister turned to his wife and whispered nervously, “It doesn’t look good for us, Fanny.”
Last week I did a post on “Sex and Men,” (read it here) and the difficulties of staying pure in your marriage. While the post dealt more about men staying pure, a nerve was touched when I mentioned pornography in marriage. I received countless emails from people shouting the dangers of pornography in marriage from their first hand experiences. I asked one kind lady if I could share her letter and she told me I could. This is just another example of how pornography can kill marriage and innocence.
I’ve been in prayer about your “Men and Sex” posting on the blog. I’m a little defensive towards the view that porn is okay.
I hesitated in posting a comment, not sure why, and need to explore that. That being said, as you know, I lost a marriage of 25 years to pornography/sexual addiction.
The fact remains that pornography destroys the intimacy in a marriage. It brings a “third” party into the bedroom and in time totally erodes the relationship as God intended between man and wife. Any wife who is complicit in the participation might do so for a myriad of reasons. I for one, when asked to perform specific requests by my husband, believed what he told me…that this is “exploration of ourselves”, that its okay with God what he and I did in the bedroom as long as both people agreed with the activity. What I didn’t know was he was addicted to porn and what I was doing was helping him recreate whatever video/pictures were in his head. I just thought I was being a ‘dutiful wife”. There’s a big difference between exploration of different activities, but if the husband pressures the wife, asks her to participate in watching the pornography, it should be a huge red flag. I lost my spiritual, child-like innocence because of it. Satan lives in pornography.
The physical act of intercourse is a SPIRITUAL act, a physical manifestation of love that God created….but introduction of pornography is the beginning of the end. Porn rarely stays at the same level, meaning it demands the guy ramp up on the scale. What excites/entices him today will loose the desired effect, the thrill will take more to be achieved. The porn becomes more explicit and deviant. And so is the cycle goes into sexual addiction.
I could go on and on about this, and I’m prayerfully asking God to use me as He wants in helping husbands and wives to see the dangers of pornography. My world was torn asunder, my heart broken in a way to never be repaired. Yes, God can heal. But the scars are forever…. Much love to you and Lea,
(Anonymous – No telling how many marriages you’ve helped today by sharing your letter. I applaud you for your courage. I continue to keep you in my prayers.)
For those who might want more on the issues of pornography and marriage, here are some more links:
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