My friend Peter Pollock asked if I’d do an interview for him a few weeks ago. I’d like to simply say, Peter asks some tough questions.:)
I’m sitting in the airport this morning waiting on my flight. I’ve been thinking all morning about the relationships I have in my life. I’m realizing that some of the most vital relationships in my life are friendships with men. As a man, I desperately need close friendship with other guys who will encourage me as a husband, father and Christian man.
I need accountability that can only come from another man.
Just last week a friend and I were discussing how easy it is for men to fall into the temptation of being unfaithful to their spouse. We had just heard about a church leader who had crashed and burned in his relationship with his wife, children, and God. Later that day, my friend sent me a text message that went like this: “You and I’ve got to understand that nobody’s exempt from Satan’s schemes. Let’s me and you make it our goal to finish strong in our marriage.” That was exactly what I needed to hear.
Men need other men in their lives to encourage them to be real men who love their wives, children and God.
But, doesn’t it’s always seemed that women make friends with other women easier than men make friends with other men. Men seem uncomfortable having close friendships with other men. I heard a man say once, “Oh, men can golf together, fish together and play cards together, but don’t ask men to pray together or encourage one another spiritually. Men are much more comfortable just watching the game and exchanging high-fives when the team scores. But sadly, most men have missed out on spiritual blessings because of their inability to make close spiritual friendships with other men.”
I totally agree.
A man needs brothers in Christ who know him authentically and who are committed to spur him on towards integrity and becoming all that God created him to be. The bottom line fact is that an isolated follower of Jesus is extremely vulnerable to the temptations in today’s world and to the enemy’s schemes. When men choose to go-it-alone spiritually, it’s tough. “And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart,” (Ecclesiastes 4:12). Everyone needs a friend …
- The Lone Ranger had Tonto
- Batman had Robin
- Superman had, well no one, but you’re not Superman!
- David had Jonathan.
- Jesus had his friends, the apostles.
We need to be men who are willing to share spiritual struggles and victories with other men whether it looks macho or not. Besides, men, we’ll all have six men to carry us when we’re dead, so who’s going to carry us when we’re alive?
I will admit that I have been blessed with some very close friendships with men in my life. Men that have held me accountable and prayed with me. I can’t imagine what it would be like not to have that in my life.
Over the past two years, my oldest son Taylor, has been in the AIM (Adventures In Missions) program. AIM has been such a blessing and has given him a chance to work, serve and grow. Now, he’s a week away from finishing up his time on the mission field in Miami / Homestead, Florida and I’m headed that way on Monday to bring him home.
Here’s part of Taylor’s newsletter that he wrote to those that have helped support him:
“I end my AIM time here in the month of July … and this fall semester, I will be starting college at South Planes College. Reflect with me over these last 2 years of my life: With your support I have built a solid foundation on Jesus. I have given these last two years of my life to full time ministry, and I would trade it for nothing. The Lord has been molding me and shaping me like a jar of clay. Again, none of this would be possible without you.
Of course, Lea and I are proud of Taylor, what he’s done and who he’s become. We’re excited that he’ll be closer to home. We’ve especially missed him these past two years at holidays, vacations and family get-togethers.
I’m flying into Miami on Monday and then we’ll start driving back to Texas on Wednesday. HERE’S THE MAP of the the route we’ll be driving. Any suggestions on what or who we should stop and see on our trip home?
In about two weeks I’ll be here… in a dump … in Honduras.
The following video is a documentary on the dump in Tegucigalpa Honduras, and the dump ministry that takes place there. My friend Andy Hubright has been working on a documentary about the dump for a few months. He shot all the scenes for the following amazing video on his iPhone. The video is a short version of his documentary, and is not the finished product. The long version of the this documentary will possibly be out soon. If you would like to be notified when the full version is done, send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org or “friend” him on facebook, Andy Hubright.
Also, understand that there are some graphic scenes in the video.
The video starts about :18 seconds in…
A truly happy marriage never happens by accident, instead it takes time and effort.
According to the national average, a couple will spend $17,500 and copious amounts of time on their wedding. But how much do they actually spend on their marriage?
A husband and a wife who are willing to put lots of time and energy into building a strong marriage, can have the kind of marriage they want. Whether you’ve been married 2 months or 20 years, the best time to start building a strong marriage is today. Start today by committing to your spouse, “I want us to have a great marriage.” Don’t neglect your marriage for years and then wonder, “I don’t know what happened.” Instead, put some time and effort into your marriage.
If you’ve spent years neglecting your marriage and your spouse’s needs, here are some things that will help…
- Don’t give up.
- Commit with your spouse to starting over today. Commit to putting time and effort into restoring and building a great marriage.
- Seek out an expert, a Christian marriage counselor.
- Educate yourself. Find some books on marriage and read them together. Here’s a list of books Lea and I have used to better our marriage. Reading together is one of the best things we’ve ever done.
- Invest large amounts of time and effort into building a great marriage.
- Get out of town … without your children. Spend a weekend away with just the two of you.
- Be patient. Things don’t always change overnight. Can you imagine a man who has spent years neglecting his health, all of a sudden going to a doctor and saying, “Make it better … quick.” Doctors can’t fix years of neglect overnight (and sometimes not at all). Fixing years of neglect to your physical health often takes months and years of hard work and discipline to get your body back on track. The same is true if you’ve neglected your marriage. It may not be able to be fixed overnight, but with time, hard work and discipline … you can get it back on track.
A good, happy, healthy, strong marriage doesn’t happen by accident … it takes work. Invest some time and effort into your marriage today.
I’d love to know, what are some ways that you and your spouse invest time and effort in your marriage?
Some buddies and I loaded up a while back and drove to Dallas to hear Shane Claiborne speak. I remember him asking a question that just rocked my “religious” world. He asked, “How can you and I worship a homeless man on Sunday and ignore one on Monday?” The tough answer is … we shouldn’t. […]Full Story »
After a great week at the Red River Family Encampment, we’ve spent the rest of the week vacationing in the mountains of New Mexico. Here are 10 things I’ve enjoyed about my vacation… 1. The cool 70 degree temperatures in the daytime and 40 degree temps at night. (I’m really disappointed that Childress has been […]Full Story »
Some call it sleeping around, some call it cheating or being unfaithful, God calls it adultery. No matter what you call it, it’s pretty clear on how God feels about adultery. He doesn’t like it! Here are a few things I took note of from the book of Proverbs this morning… “Adultery is a brainless […]Full Story »
Cooper’s first fish with a flyrod.Full Story »
I taught a class this morning on how to successfully use blogging and social media for ministry. I shared a few points on what I think makes a successful blog. Here were my points… Make your posts relevant. Give me stuff that applies today and is relevant to me as a Christian, husband, father, etc. […]Full Story »
What man wouldn’t want to be the “perfect man?” Every year, for the past 50 years, women have voted in Redbook magazine on who they think is the perfect man for each decade. Past winners by decades include… John Wayne – 60′s Alan Alda – 70′s Sylvester Stallone – 80′s Nicholas Cage – 90′s Johnny Depp […]Full Story »
Talk about an awesome video…. This is dad life It’s how we live 24/7, 365 Check me Gas station glasses Don’t care what the masses Think about me wit my sweet goatee I’m rockin’ my Dockers With a cuff and a crease I got that St. John’s Bay And a clip for my piece I […]Full Story »
(Photo by Jeff Foster) We’re headed this weekend to the Red River Family Encampment in the beautiful mountains of Red River, New Mexico. A couple thousand people will be showing up for five days of fellowship, bible study and relaxation. I’m teaching 3 adult classes in the mornings on, “Finding new Ministries in Unexpected Places,” […]Full Story »
I laughed when I heard a woman mention recently, “It’s pretty simple to get a husband to think romantically. A wife just needs to bring some food and show up naked.” Personally, I’d just like to add to that statement that anything fancier than pizza is unnecessary. While some that may work for getting husbands […]Full Story »
You can call me a little weird if you want, but I have a ton of food pictures on my phone. When I try something new, or see sometime that looks really good, I get a picture of it. It’s not unusual for me to be sitting in a restaurant and say, “Don’t start eating […]Full Story »
Happy Fathers Day.Full Story »
At the first of this week I shared with you, “10 Things that Frustrate me as a Minister.” I think it’s only fair that I also share with you this post … 10 Things I LOVE About Being a Minister… I love getting to be a part of people’s lives. What an honor it is […]Full Story »
I love this video. 1% Wax 99% testosterone Mandles come in a variety of scents. Chuck Norris Sweat, Raw Meat, Wet Dog, Pigskin, and many other manly scents.Full Story »
I have always been a glass-half-full type person. I choose to focus on the positives and not the negatives. But someone asked me this week, “Is there anything that frustrates you?” They couldn’t believe there were things that got under my skin. Although I choose not to focus on them … here are a few… . People […]Full Story »
The Morgan family has had a busy summer so far. Parker has graduated from high school. Connor has been at Lubbock Christian’s Encounter Camp. Cooper has been playing baseball. Parker flew yesterday to Miami to see Taylor. He’ll be there about a week enjoying the sun, some baseball and hanging out. When he returns we’ll […]Full Story »
One of the people I’ve met at the Tegucigalpa dump is a 17 year-old girl named Fany. She is a very outgoing teenager who has become close friends with Marc & Terri Tindall. When they feed at the dump, Fany is good at crowd control and sometimes helps serve or hand out water. Fany does […]Full Story »
My wedding ring is a simple gold band that hasn’t been off my finger in many, many years. The only time I remember it coming off, for any amount of time, is when it broke in half and I had to have it fixed. When you look at my ring closely, you won’t see any […]Full Story »
I can’t believe I have a son who will be 21 in a few months. I’m not old enough to have a son that old. With this new forty-something age I’ve become, I’ve noticed a few changes in my life that I’m not sure I like. It seems that just overnight I’ve become “older.” How […]Full Story »
An 80 year old woman was arrested for shop lifting. When she went before the judge he asked her,”What did you steal?” She replied: “A can of peaches”. The judge asked her why she had stolen them and she replied that she was hungry. The judge then asked her how many peaches were in the […]Full Story »
Last night Major League Baseball umpire Jim Joyce made one of the worst calls in baseball history. His mistake at the end of the Detroit Tigers vs Cleveland Indians game cost Tiger’s pitcher Armondo Galarraga a perfect game. A perfect game is nearly impossible and in all of MLB history there have only been 12. With […]Full Story »
. She considers me her best friend. She looks amazing in her little black dress. She loves watching Texas Rangers baseball. She laughs at my stupid jokes. Her smile triggers an endorphin release in my brain. Her hand fits perfectly in mine. She loves to hug me 20 times a day. She puts lots of […]Full Story »
I still remember where I sat when the doctor said, “You have cancer.” Lea hadn’t even come with me to the doctor appointment, because neither one of us felt “the lump” was going to be anything serious. I remember going outside to call Lea and tell her that the doctor had just told me that […]Full Story »
PSALM 127:3-5 3 Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him. 4 Children born to a young man are like arrows in a warrior’s hands. 5 How joyful is the man whose quiver is full of them! He will not be put to shame when he confronts his accusers at […]Full Story »
The other day we had so much fun talking about things we remember about “church when we were kids.” I thought it’d be fun to share some stories about crazy things we’ve seen in church. I’ve seen a lot of crazy things …. some funny, some sad and some down right jaw-dropping. Here are just […]Full Story »
I’d like you to meet some of my heroes from Quanah High School in Quanah, Texas. They are some of the seniors from Pam Ward’s English class. The heard about Dump Day, watched the gut-wrenching video from the dump and were moved to the point of wanting to get involved. They challenged the Junior’s English […]Full Story »
Someone asked the question in a bible class recently that made for a lot of interesting discussion. The question was, “What if Jesus showed up for our church services tonight … what would he do or say?” Here were a few things people answered…. “He’d lead us in powerful worship.” “He would preach.” “He’d tell […]Full Story »
Nothing is more frustrating than getting a rock in my shoe when I’m running. Okay, maybe crazy rabid dogs are worse, but rocks in my shoe are a close second. Rocks are like uninvited guests that show up and ruin your whole party. Here are a few things I’ve learned about getting a rock in […]Full Story »
“Adultery is a brainless act and self-destructive … and a reputation ruined for good.” Proverbs 6:32 (Message) For some time now, there has been a new online service promoting, “Life is Short, Have an Affair.” It REALLY burns me that they make it sound like an affair is the thing to do and nobody ever […]Full Story »
I picked up Cooper (2nd grade) from school on Friday. He was unusually quiet. ME: “What’s wrong?” COOPER: “Nothing,” he said, but not convincingly. More silence. COOPER: “When is Parker moving away to go to college?” ME: “It will be a few more weeks.” Big tears began to well-up in his eyes and roll down his […]Full Story »
Here’s a few things I’d like to run by you… GIVE AWAY: When I do giveaways I use Random.org to generate the random number so I’m not the one that makes the picks. I’m still laughing about who was picked for the $25 Barnes and Noble winner….it’s Laci. She said something nice about me on her […]Full Story »