Let me explain.
Before marriage a man will go all out trying to win his future wife’s love and trust. He spends hours communicating. He sends cards, gifts and flowers regularly. He dotes, he dates and he makes every effort to win his future wife. A man will pursue a woman in every way possible just to win her.
During that time the woman is thinking, “Okay, if he’s like this, then he’s the man I want to marry,” and finally does.
Unfortunately as I’ve seen too many times, a few months (or sometimes years) after the marriage, the man no longer pursues his wife as he once did. Deep down he thinks, “I’ve won her, she’s mine, why must I continue to do all those things?” At the same time the wife struggles with, “This isn’t the man I married,” and “Why did he change?” It’s at this point that problems begin to arise, cracks begin to form and the marriage relationship begins to break down. Due to her frustrations she often begins to close up. When this begins to happen, husbands often wonder, “What has happened to our sex life?” and “Why aren’t my needs being met?” Most men don’t understand that their needs are not being met because they are no longer pursuing their wives.
Men, it is by far one of the most damaging things you can do in your marriage … not pursuing your wife as hard to keep her as you did to win her!
Husbands, pursue your wife … today!
“A man’s greatest treasure is his wife, she is a gift from the Lord.” Proverbs 18:22