MY MOST IMPORTANT MINISTRY

I got a call Monday morning from a man who was interested in my ministry in Childress. He asked if he could ask me some questions. I told him sure, ask away. He asked lots of questions about different areas of my ministry.

Once we’d finished talking, there were two of his questions in particular that really made me think. The first was, “What area of your ministry are you putting your main focus on right now?” My answer was, “Easy answer, my most important ministry right now is at home. My first responsibility is to my wife and my second is to my kids.” The second question was, “What do you find to be the toughest part of your ministry right now?” I answered, “I have to admit it’s the same thing as above … making my marriage and children the most important part of my ministry.”

I am so blessed to be working with such a hard working and Christ-like church in Childress. I absolutely adore my ministry out in the community of Childress. I wouldn’t trade anything for my ministry in the local school system. And I’m in awe of the internet ministry that the Lord has blessed me with. But NOTHING, absolutely nothing, should come before my ministry at home. It is, by far, my most important ministry. But yet, it’s also the easiest thing to take for granted.

I can’t help but think of Noah this morning. He’s my hero and I want to be like him. He is to me a great preacher. For over 100 years while he built the ark, he preached to the lost around him. When the ark was finished and he was done preaching, the invitation was given, and the only people willing to get on the ark with him was his family. Noah had no conversions in all his years of preaching, except his family. I think that makes him an extremely successful preacher. And when that great day comes and God calls us all home, if the only people I can get to go with me to heaven is my family … then I’ve been tremendously successful in my most important ministry.

Two questions I’d love to hear your answers on …

  1. Why do you think it’s easy to take for granted the most important ministry we have in this world (family)?
  2. What are some specific ways you can encourage your minister to keep his family first?

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  1. brian says:

    amen!

    question 1
    pride and desire to be respected and loved. If we worked ourselves to death for the congregation, that is noticed more. if we work as we should for our family, it might not be noticed. Also, good intentions and believing the myth that it’s okay to neglect my family for God’s glory.

  2. Anonymous says:

    Great blog this morning Trey! #1. The expectations of some people almost make it an expected evil to ignore family. The thoughts of the “few” can control the outcome for so many. I am so glad you have the great christian family at Childress, they are wonderful for the spirit.
    #2. Since moving here to Mustang I have tried to be an encourager to our minister and his family. I know now more than ever how much ministers and their families need this loving acceptance. After all, ministers are people too!(well, most of the time anyway, lol)Keep lovin those kids and your sweet wife(and yes, she is a sweety). Eddie

  3. Greg says:

    You are right on target! I was fortunate in that I worked for two churches (total of 22 years) that believed very strongly in me putting my family first. I don’t think I ever let them down in that sense.

  4. Monalea says:

    Trey,

    I’m so glad you gave an in-depth answer to Noah. My first thoughts ran to drunk and naked.

    It is easy to put your family off, because after all they will always be there.

    Monalea aka www (have been and always will be)

  5. David Kirk says:

    The good is always the enemy of the best!

  6. preacherman says:

    Trey,
    Great post.
    I took for neglected my family for many years because I though ministry was the most important thing. I thought that I would let God down, I had a very had time saying no, I yes also had a problem with pride. I was working 50-60 hours a week with very little time off to spend with the family. My marriage suffered and time with the boys was neglected.

    I left the job and the next place I went I told them upon hiring if I am going to take this job I am going to need 2 days off a week to spend with my family and 2 weeks vacation a year or you can forget it. My family is important. If I neglect my family then I can’t serve this church the way I should. I can’t function the way I need to as a minister. It has been that way every place I have minister to since.

    The place I am currently at now is very flexable with the time I get to spend with the family. I get to take them Dr. apt., time off, vactation, I get coach, cub scouts, etc. Great family time. It is so important as a minister not to neglect your family and I had to learn that the hard way. The family is my most important ministry.

    I hope that many churches wake up and understand just how important it is to let their minister spend time with their families. It also helps in longevity for the minister in staying for at the congregation because the family is happy with the church.

    Thank you so much for this great post Trey.

  7. Alan Gable says:

    Interesting questions. I’m going to try to give my best answers but I’m not a professional minister so I may be kind of speaking from the outside.
    1. Maybe it is easier to lead a congregation than it is to lead a family. It seems that the vast majority of ministers have spiritual gifts that aid their professional ministry such as oration and patience and what not. But, what gifts or personality traits aid one in raising kids or being a good husband? I think being the head of a family might be a little more difficult…
    2. Sabbatical. Most ministers don’t feel like they can take a vacation because a lot of times they can’t. Some church folks are needy. When Jesus would retreat to be alone, multitudes would follow him. We’re kind of like vultures sometimes and we have to understand that a brother needs some space…

    The language in Hebrews about Noah is pretty fascinating. Says that he “built an ark to save his family”. When my dad was diagnosed with Cancer, he gathered my brothers and our wives and told us how he was going to fight it. We were pretty shook up but he was building an ark for us….How else do we build an ark?

  8. TREY MORGAN says:

    Thanks guys, I appreciate you taking the time to answer those two questions. You all gave excellent answers, except Monalea … I’m not sure about the drunk and naked thing :)

    Alan – Loved your story about your dad.

  9. Gallagher says:

    Trey,

    Excellent words! Amen!

    For ministers, it is easy to take our family for granted because we live with them. We see them everyday, but do we spend time with them? If each of us could save our families, we would do well.

    Ministers need encouragement to be with their families. This happens when each member of the congregation takes it upon themselves to fill their role in the church.

    Just some quick thoughts…

    Gallagher

  10. Anonymous says:

    Trey,

    I think it is easy to forget about your ministry at home because you are with them day in and day out. You forget to have the spiritual mindset when your at home with your comfort. In the church the human mind set of oh “this place is the Lord’s house so we have a sense of reverence there or in other church functions” This is a constant battle for myself as a Youth Minster and a full time employee and a college student…I’m so busy and the last thing I think about is the needs for my family until its to late and a conflict is brought to the table. Being in the ministry is incredible and I’m excited to see where the Lord takes Childress in the future.. Thanks for the post this morning…

    Zach Detwiler

  11. Anonymous says:

    Trey,

    I think it is easy to forget about your ministry at home because you are with them day in and day out. You forget to have the spiritual mindset when your at home with your comfort. In the church the human mind set of oh “this place is the Lord’s house so we have a sense of reverence there or in other church functions” This is a constant battle for myself as a Youth Minster and a full time employee and a college student…I’m so busy and the last thing I think about is the needs for my family until its to late and a conflict is brought to the table. Being in the ministry is incredible and I’m excited to see where the Lord takes Childress in the future.. Thanks for the post this morning…

    Zach Detwiler

  12. Stephanie says:

    I will be the first to admit that it is easy to take advantage of not only your family but your loyal friends. You just expect them to be there and support you. That is what they are supposed to do. You look for approval and respect from people that you don’t know and don’t have while forgetting the ones that you neglect going after it.

    I was raised where family was everything. I was raised in a farming/ranching atmosphere. We all worked, played, prayed, and ate together. I was taught that your family is everything. Those are the ones that will be there thick and thin.

    I really think that you have to make time for not only your family but yourself. You have to be strong in yourself, so that you can support the stress of your life and the world that affects your family.

    I will close with the best advice that I take with me everyday. One of my closest friend gave me a great point of advice. (before I moved to Childress I was pretty much a stay at home mom and did odd jobs when I wanted to) I made a comment one day for her about my car or house or something that cost money….Money I didn’t need to spend. She said….everyone borrows money for school, houses, cars, and other investments….but what is the most important investment of them all….FAMILY….If your kids grow up and they don’t have a base to stand on…they drift off…either trouble or just struggle. She said that is the most important investment that you can make, because you can never truly recover from a troubled child or marriage. Just because you don’t have the nicest car or house, doesn’t mean that you aren’t rich or that your investment (not jsut money) won’t triple with good kids with great productive lifes…That is why you have to make FAMILY a priority.

  13. TREY MORGAN says:

    Zach – very good points and very well said.

    Stephaine – Love the comment. Makes my day. What you said is exactly right. And your friend gave you EXCELLENT advice.

  14. Di says:

    I’d like to answer the second question. Recently I had to call my pastor’s house and his wife answered the phone. He was busy with the kids. Later I told her that it was their committment to their family that allowed me to trust their ministry and to please always set the boundaries you need. I can’t always know what is invasive and what isn’t. If they set good boundaries then I can trust them to express them and ask for what I need.

    Di

  15. Douglas Young says:

    Trey,

    I know this is delayed, since this your post was last week, but I think we take for granted the home ministry because we think it will come naturally, but it doesn’t. It takes a lot of work. Unfortunately, in our time, we try to take the path of least resistance in so many areas of life and it most certainly effects our home life.

    Douglas Young

  16. Douglas Young says:

    Trey,

    I know this is delayed, since this your post was last week, but I think we take for granted the home ministry because we think it will come naturally, but it doesn’t. It takes a lot of work. Unfortunately, in our time, we try to take the path of least resistance in so many areas of life and it most certainly effects our home life.

    Douglas Young

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