I’m sitting in the airport this morning waiting on my flight. I’ve been thinking all morning about the relationships I have in my life. I’m realizing that some of the most vital relationships in my life are friendships with men. As a man, I desperately need close friendship with other guys who will encourage me as a husband, father and Christian man.
I need accountability that can only come from another man.
Just last week a friend and I were discussing how easy it is for men to fall into the temptation of being unfaithful to their spouse. We had just heard about a church leader who had crashed and burned in his relationship with his wife, children, and God. Later that day, my friend sent me a text message that went like this: “You and I’ve got to understand that nobody’s exempt from Satan’s schemes. Let’s me and you make it our goal to finish strong in our marriage.” That was exactly what I needed to hear.
Men need other men in their lives to encourage them to be real men who love their wives, children and God.
But, doesn’t it’s always seemed that women make friends with other women easier than men make friends with other men. Men seem uncomfortable having close friendships with other men. I heard a man say once, “Oh, men can golf together, fish together and play cards together, but don’t ask men to pray together or encourage one another spiritually. Men are much more comfortable just watching the game and exchanging high-fives when the team scores. But sadly, most men have missed out on spiritual blessings because of their inability to make close spiritual friendships with other men.”
I totally agree.
A man needs brothers in Christ who know him authentically and who are committed to spur him on towards integrity and becoming all that God created him to be. The bottom line fact is that an isolated follower of Jesus is extremely vulnerable to the temptations in today’s world and to the enemy’s schemes. When men choose to go-it-alone spiritually, it’s tough. “And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart,” (Ecclesiastes 4:12). Everyone needs a friend …
- The Lone Ranger had Tonto
- Batman had Robin
- Superman had, well no one, but you’re not Superman!
- David had Jonathan.
- Jesus had his friends, the apostles.
We need to be men who are willing to share spiritual struggles and victories with other men whether it looks macho or not. Besides, men, we’ll all have six men to carry us when we’re dead, so who’s going to carry us when we’re alive?
I will admit that I have been blessed with some very close friendships with men in my life. Men that have held me accountable and prayed with me. I can’t imagine what it would be like not to have that in my life.