- 4.2 million pornographic websites (12% of total websites)
- 372 million pornographic pages
- 25% of daily search engine requests are people searching for pornography.
- 1.5 million people a day will visit a pornographic website
Pornography won’t spice up your sex life, it will poison it. It introduces false comparisons and can introduce distrust and selfishness into your marriage. The sexual relationship in your marriage was never intended to be compared to what you see on a video or in a magazine (Hebrews 13:4).
Sexual struggles, immorality and adultery have taken down lots of good husbands and fathers who belonged to God. Once you sexually crash and burn publicly, you’re life, your fathering skills, your ministry and your influence is never the same (see King David).
AS FOR ME? I’ll be honest (as I always am), sexual temptation is a huge temptation. If you think I’m not tempted because I’m a minister, you’re nuts! I’m tempted because sex is everywhere. It’s on every television channel, it’s in every movie, it’s on every webpage and in every magazine. It’s at the mall, in the movie theater and it’s at my house. That’s why I’ve tried to clean the house of anything that can tempt me (or one of my four boys). I don’t have HBO movie channels in my house. Some people can handle it, but I don’t want that temptation. Our internet activity can be viewed at anytime and by anyone. There are certain channels on my television that are blocked. Why? I DO NOT want it to be a temptation in my life. I want to be faithful to my God and my wife.
WHAT CAN YOU DO TO OVERCOME SEXUAL TEMPTATION …
- CONTROL WHAT YOU SEE: Men are very visual, so remove anything (television, internet, books, etc) from your home that might tempt you. Don’t go anywhere you cannot handle. Learn to keep your eyes in check.
- SEEK GOD’S HELP AND FORGIVENESS: God has promised, you will not be tempted more that what you can bear. But you must be willing to confess your sins to Him and ask for His forgiveness and His strength.
- PURSUE YOUR WIFE: Focus on what you have, not on what you don’t. Put your effort into pursuing the person you married by growing in your marriage. DON’T be like the idiot I met years ago who said after checking out a woman who walked by, “I may be on a diet, but it won’t hurt anything to check out the menu.” I think his marriage only lasted a few years. Quit flirting with other women and stop dropping by to see the lady you think is pretty! Pursue YOUR wife.
- BE ACCOUNTABLE: Find another person that you trust that can keep you accountable. When you struggle tell them to pray for you and have them hold you accountable for overcoming your struggles. One of the greatest defenses I have in staying pure is a couple of men friends that are willing to talk about marriage and struggles with me.
- WIVES, DON’T STARVE YOUR HUSBANDS: Too many times I’ve listened to wives whine about their husbands’ struggles with lust when all along it was the wife who was starving their husbands sexually. Don’t starve your husband sexually and then berate him for his hunger. If you want to protect your husband, do what the Bible says (1 Corinthians 7:2-5). Don’t deprive him, or you’ll make his struggle to be pure harder. You can do your part in keeping your husband from being vulnerable to sexual temptation. (For more on this topic click here).
One of these days my funeral will come. I COULD CARE LESS if anyone mentions if I was a good minister or could preach a good sermon. I DO NOT CARE if anyone mentions that I ever helped anyone. MY ONLY GOAL, as they stand over my dead body, is that they say, “He was faithful to God, his wife, and he was a good dad!”