I love hearing about marriages that have lasted through the years. Long marriages always remind me how much more I still have left to experience in my own marriage and they anchor me in my own marriage. I see them and it helps me to say, “They’ve made it, we can too.”
I want a long marriage.
It does seem lately that long marriages are becoming less and less common. I often wonder if my children and grandchildren will get to witness as many marriages that have lasted 40, 50, and 60 years … like I have.
The only time I’m bothered by long marriages is when I have to do a funeral for someone who has been in a long marriage and my heart breaks for the one left behind. They’ve built all these amazing memories together. They’ve gone through the newlywed stage, the children stage and the empty nest stage. And then … it’s finished. BUT it’s the journey that makes it all worth it. I have no doubt if you asked the one left behind they would tell you emphatically, “It was all worth it!”
Kind of like this long marriage …
“The old man held the hand of his wife as she lay in the hospital bed. She was weak and quiet. He had tears in his eyes as he prayed she’d hear what he had to say.
He said, ‘Honey, you know it’s a mystery to me how time has made the days turn into years. It seems like just yesterday, right down the hall, you and I were here. Simple little blood tests before we were to be married – you nearly fainted. We never knew getting married would hurt. We were so young, so sincere and so sure we could make it work. Then two years later and two floors down, our daughter was born. I had to borrow a dime from the doctor so the proud father could make a call. Then sometime later we came here again. I remember our son’s broken arm. You were the one the nurses had to settle. And it seemed like moments ago we were here when the grandbaby came.’
Then the old man stopped talking and moved in close. He begged her to whisper his name just once more. So many times they’d been there together and together they’d always gone home, but this time was different. And the old man cried, because this time he was to leave there alone.”
Have a long marriage, AND enjoy the journey.