Long Marriages ARE Worth It

I love hearing about marriages that have lasted through the years. Long marriages always remind me how much more I still have left to experience in my own marriage and they anchor me in my own marriage. I see them and it helps me to say, “They’ve made it, we can too.”

I want a long marriage.

It does seem lately that long marriages are becoming less and less common. I often wonder if my children and grandchildren will get to witness as many marriages that have lasted 40, 50, and 60 years … like I have.

The only time I’m bothered by long marriages is when I have to do a funeral for someone who has been in a long marriage and my heart breaks for the one left behind. They’ve built all these amazing memories together. They’ve gone through the newlywed stage, the children stage and the empty nest stage. And then … it’s finished. BUT it’s the journey that makes it all worth it. I have no doubt if you asked the one left behind they would tell you emphatically, “It was all worth it!”

Kind of like this long marriage …

“The old man held the hand of his wife as she lay in the hospital bed. She was weak and quiet. He had tears in his eyes as he prayed she’d hear what he had to say.

He said, ‘Honey, you know it’s a mystery to me how time has made the days turn into years. It seems like just yesterday, right down the hall, you and I were here. Simple little blood tests before we were to be married – you nearly fainted. We never knew getting married would hurt. We were so young, so sincere and so sure we could make it work. Then two years later and two floors down, our daughter was born. I had to borrow a dime from the doctor so the proud father could make a call. Then sometime later we came here again. I remember our son’s broken arm. You were the one the nurses had to settle. And it seemed like moments ago we were here when the grandbaby came.’

Then the old man stopped talking and moved in close. He begged her to whisper his name just once more. So many times they’d been there together and together they’d always gone home, but this time was different. And the old man cried, because this time he was to leave there alone.”

Have a long marriage, AND enjoy the journey.

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Article by Trey Morgan

I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast. Read 1182 articles by
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  1. Geek for Him says:

    Thanks for sharing brother. I pray that my wife and I make it that long – 5 years down 70 to go!!

  2. Barry Wiseman says:

    Gee, thanks, Trey! You know tears in the keyboard aren’t good!

    I’ve hurt for a bunch, too. My in-laws missed making it to 50 by a few years. Watching my mother-in-law at the funeral home was heart-breaking. Watching my kids there was a tear-jerker, too. Long marriages usually make for many family members and relationships.

    Better stop before I short out my laptop…

  3. Greg England says:

    That’s one of my favorite songs … we’ve done that song with our praise band when I was at Long Beach. I agree with you about the sadness of seeing the one left behind after 60+ years of marriage, and I always tell them, “What a testimony! Most people will never see that today.” I don’t know if it makes them feel better, but they almost always smile.

  4. jasonS says:

    Beautiful. Thanks Trey.

  5. jel says:

    thanks for the cry!

  6. Joe says:

    No one believes it’s easy to make a marriage last, even when it’s going good. I pray that I can follow the example of my own father. When mom got sick and couldn’t care for herself, when it was no longer fun for dad, he hung in there and became her caretaker. It was a hard job – physically and mentally. And he NEVER complained about it. They still argued some, and still expressed frustrations, but he never once said anything negative about having to care for her. He took that “for better or worse, in sickness and in health” line seriously. Since mom died last summer, I have heard him comment on how difficult it was, but never while she was alive and even now only when he and I are alone.

    So here’s my prayer for us all – that we make our marriages last, “for better or worse, in sickness and in health” and whatever other obstacles satan throws out there.

  7. Amy O'Connor says:

    This post really touched me. I look at my grandparents (who by the way I am sure would have been proud to call you their minister. They were members of your ‘church’ 😉 for many, many years before they both passed) who were married for around 70 years and I strive to have a marriage much like theirs. Grandma was always fussing at Grandaddy for one thing or another and we still believe that he may have been stretching how hard his hearing was just so he had an excuse to not listen to her, but they always loved each other and God and their family was their world. Almost 10 years later it still hurts me to think of the last words my Grandma spoke to me when I left to go back home after Grandaddy’s funeral. She told me she loved me and begged me not to leave her. 2 weeks and 2 days later she joined him in Heaven. She said that she couldn’t live without him. I believe the good Lord didn’t want her to have to live without him.

  8. Amy O'Connor says:

    This post really touched me. I look at my grandparents (who by the way I am sure would have been proud to call you their minister. They were members of your ‘church’ 😉 for many, many years before they both passed) who were married for around 70 years and I strive to have a marriage much like theirs. Grandma was always fussing at Grandaddy for one thing or another and we still believe that he may have been stretching how hard his hearing was just so he had an excuse to not listen to her, but they always loved each other and God and their family was their world. Almost 10 years later it still hurts me to think of the last words my Grandma spoke to me when I left to go back home after Grandaddy’s funeral. She told me she loved me and begged me not to leave her. 2 weeks and 2 days later she joined him in Heaven. She said that she couldn’t live without him. I believe the good Lord didn’t want her to have to live without him… they had already been together for so long!

  9. L.C.T. says:

    Oh goodness. Not sure I should have read this this morning. How utterly beautiful but completely heartbreaking.

  10. Dean Balser says:

    Another terific posting. I have beenthru it and you described it very acurately. But God is so good and He will carry one thru.

  11. Genelle Patton says:

    Brings up beautiful memories of grandparents that were married ’til death parted them, then my parents were married 60 years when Daddy passed, and my in-laws have been married 63 years, and still counting…makes me excited to plan many more years in our marriage!
    Thanks for sharing this story, Trey! Whether it is a song or story, it gives all of us a good goal to aim for…a goal that pleases God!

  12. Jeanne M. says:

    I can tell you it was worth every year – and we missed 60 by two months. The going wasn’t always easy, but in our hearts there was never any thought of quitting. Life had its ups and downs, its valleys and mountain tops, but the ultimate goal was always heaven and we wanted each to go there. That is why it was less hard to let go, just knowing he will be waiting for me someday. The Lord gives, and the Lord takes away – blessed be the name of the Lord.

  13. Scott McCown says:

    Trey,

    We have a couple here in Parrish who will celebrate 75 years in 2011 (Milford and Bessie). I asked Bessie just before their 73rd anniversary what she would want me to tell young couples about marriage. She spoke very softly, “Tell them love gets sweeter and sweeter every year.”

    Thanks for sharing.

  14. Gary Mabry says:

    Grasshopper, you have learned so much..no doubt..you’ve followed the right path and have gain much wisdom! Thanks for sharing and Live Long and Prosper!
    Yes, indeed, it’s what you learn after you think you know it all that really counts!

    I love you!

  15. Jenny says:

    Trey, Did you ever read the story I wrote about Bob and Freda? Also, Sam wrote a beautiful story about them. They are both on the RRR site and I’m fairly sure they are under “Files”.

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