When you think of intimacy in marriage, most people automatically think of sex. Intimacy in your marriage does involves sexual fulfillment, but intimacy is SO much more than just having good sex.
Intimacy is achieved when a husband and wife can share their thoughts, opinions, and feelings with one another to the point that they become best friends. And, it’s impossible to grow in your intimacy with your mate when you’re not spending time with them. So, here are a few things you can do to become more intimate (with the most important at the end)…
- Have a picnic at the park.
- Find a babysitter and go on a date.
- Leave a romantic note for your spouse
- Meet for a lunch date.
- Give a Small Gift … for no reason at all.
- Take a walk together
- Take a trip together.
- Say “I love you.”
- BUT if you really want to feel intimate with your spouse, pray with them.
I love praying with Lea. I love listening to the things on her heart as she talks to God. There’s something about coming before God as a couple that brings about a level of intimacy that nothing else can. Sadly, I didn’t realize this the first few years of my marriage, I honestly struggled to pray with my wife, but thankfully I finally caught on. I now believe, if you are not praying with your husband/wife, you are missing out on one of the greatest levels of intimacy in marriage that there is.
There’s something about coming before God as a couple that brings about a level of intimacy that nothing else can.
It seems to me that husbands struggle with this more than wives. Husbands, believe it or not it’s not unmanly to pray with your wife. In fact, she’ll love you for it. Don’t be ashamed to pray.
I challenge you, if you are not praying together as a couple, start today. If you desire this level of spiritual unity in your marriage, begin to pray together and watch your oneness grow.
So, I’m curious…
- For those couples who do pray together, how would you explain what prayer has done to the intimacy level in your marriage?