“I Just Want My Dad Back”

Yesterday morning after our church services a boy came up to me and said, “Can I talk to you for a second?” I told him to give me just a second and I’d be more than happy to talk.

He was about the same size as my 10 year old and I wasn’t sure I had ever seen him before. We went and sat down on a pew away from everyone else. Not having a clue what he wanted to talk about, I put my arm around him and said, “Okay, my friend … what’s up?”

He paused and said, “I’m just really sad right now.”  In my head my first thought was, “You’re a 10 year old kid … what do you have to be sad about … is your Xbox broke?” Instead he told me, “I’m just really missing my dad right now.  I’ve never been this far away from him and my family.” Realizing he was very serious, I asked him, “Where is your family, and why are you not with them?” 

He filled me in for the next couple of minutes. He explained to me that he had been placed in a boys home and didn’t know when he’d ever get to go back home. My heart broke right then.

I tried hard to share with him a little love and encouragement … and then he said it … his words that are still replaying in my mind this morning …. “You know, I have really cool stuff at my new home. I have toys, and I have video games … but I really just want my dad back.”  It was right at that moment that he began to weep uncontrollably.

I was struggling to hold back the tears now … so I pulled him in tight as he cried and his little body shook. I told him it was okay to cry and asked him if it was okay if I prayed for him.  He shook his head yes.  I asked God to bless him, his family, his dad and especially his new home where he was living how. When I finished he caught his breath and wiped the tears from his eyes. I asked him, “Are you going to be okay?”  He didn’t answer with words, but instead just shook his head yes.

As quickly as he’d walked into my world, he walked out … down the stairs and was gone. Right then, and again this morning, I took a second to say another prayer. I thanked God for those who minister to broken children … children’s homes, foster families and others who are willing to love hurting kids.

I’ve had the opportunity to help feed a lot of kids who were suffering physically from hunger. Yesterday I was reminded there that are a lot of kids in our world that are suffering emotionally. Please, Dear Lord …. help us to see them.

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I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast. Trey Morgan tagged this post with: Read 1182 articles by
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  1. Sarah S. says:

    Two sets of house parents — one for the girls and one for the boys — attend the church where we worshiped in our former town. They smile a LOT and hug a lot and love a lot. And wipe a LOT of tears. My kids have grown up seeing how much STUFF those kids are afforded, how many trips and clothes — and that it never fills the void left by absent parents. So very thankful for those house parents, too.

    • Trey Morgan says:

      Well said, Sarah … our house parents, children’s homes, foster families, etc need lots of prayers and encouragement. It’s an amazing ministry that they do.

  2. T. A. Hayhurst says:

    Things like this makes being a child of God causes our heart to almost burst…Thanks for sharing

  3. Mary says:

    “Yesterday I was reminded there that are a lot of kids in our world that are suffering emotionally. Please, Dear Lord …. help us to see them.”

    Thank you for spending time listening to him yesterday.

    We adopted our son at the age of 9. He’s now almost 14. We do everything we can to help heal the wounds from his past. But we can never erase it. To most people, he looks like a normal teen, but on the inside, in his heart and in his thoughts, he’s hurting. Our job would be much easier if people looked past the surface more often.

  4. yuvonna says:

    “How beautiful are the feet of those who preach the gospel” (paraphrase)”and minister unto little children”.

  5. Ed says:

    Wow Trey! I don’t know if I could even find the strength to talk if I were in your place! God bless that little boy AND you!

  6. Susie says:

    I was standing there when he came up to you. I did not remember ever seeing him either, thought maybe he was wanting to be baptized. I came home and never thought any more about it. I just can’t imagine as a child not having your parents. I am so thankful for foster homes and people like the people who are house parents at west view and diiferent homes, they are special. I am so sad for the little boy. I am praying for him.

  7. Vicki says:

    Thank you for being there the time he needed to talk. Yes and thanks to all those that give their hearts and time to those in foster care and children’s homes.They help give those children a new beginning and someone to show them love and try to heal “some” of their pain.

  8. Patrick says:

    Wiping away the tears and again I can only say, Thank you Trey for loving on Jesus. I will be praying too for this heartbroken young man and his dad.

  9. Shane Jennings says:

    Wow, Trey. That breaks my heart. May God bless and comfort this young man. And may He bless the foster parents and you and everyone else that are in this young man’s life right now. Not knowing the situation with his dad, it’s hard to know what to pray. I hope that his dad and/or mom can rebuild a stable and loving home centered around God that would be a place where this young man can return to safely and happily. If that isn’t possible, then I hope he can feel Christ’s love for him wherever he lives and goes.

  10. Cory Long says:

    We deal with this everyday, and with our children’s home having only girls, dads are having a huge impact whether good or bad. The emotional damage that the lack of relationship leaves is devastating and can affect every relationship they have, especially with God. They have skewed views of God and we have to help them see the words “father” and “dad” differently before they can truly embrace God. I know that we have amazing houseparents that love on our children everyday, but it is a challenge to overcome the pain left from absent dads. As a dad, we have to be intentional about being present in our kids lives or we lose our voice in their world, and the damage can last a lifetime.

  11. David Ramsey says:

    Thank God that you were there and that you listened.

  12. Jewel Melton says:

    I worked at a level 14 boy’s home for 6 months–a home right before juvy would be the next place to go (for being bad). So these boys are hurting. It’s a tough job. More heartbreaking than rewarding at times. But I’ll always treasure those moments when I got to share Jesus with them, not just in Bible knowledge, but through love in action. Thanks for being an encouragement to that young boy.

  13. Randal says:

    Trey, can I reproduce this on brazilkids.net? We work with a children’s home here, with kids who’ve been removed from their homes. A very touching story and moment. Thanks.

  14. John Sigle says:

    Trey,
    I just read your blog: “I Just Want My Dad Back”. As the director of a home for children, I am constantly reminded of the daunting task we have before us to care for hurting and broken children. Your encounter with this little boy is a gentle reminder that hurting children are all around us. Thank you for sharing this heartfelt story.

  15. Brooks Loveless says:

    This was extremely well presented. It describes the true effect on a young child’s emotions when Children’s Protective Services has to remove a child from the custody of their parents. Even if the parents have been guilty of abuse or neglect of their children, sometimes to the point of danger to the lives of their kids, children usually still want to return home to their parents. They know it might kill them, but they love their parents, and want desperately for it to work out. Often they see it more sanely later, and know how important the safe child care was to their health and life.

  16. Robin Carlile says:

    So very true, Trey. The kids that I work with at my school break my heart routinely. I have a tough, tough group this year who are not easy to love. Thank you for the reminder that I’m God’s agent to be Jesus with skin! I serve a group of broken children every single day. There’s no doubt that I was put in that place for a reason. When it’s hardest to love, is when I need to love the hardest and pray for these kids more than I do.

  17. Linda Hare says:

    Thanks Trey for posting this story. It broke my heart. As a retired school teacher, over the years of my career, I saw many broken, hurting children. Hurt by those they loved the most, their parents. Everyday I would pray for my students, especially the prickly, unloveable ones who needed my love, kindness and compassion most of all. It was always a good reminder to love the least of these. Glad you were there for the little fellow. I hope he continues to come to your church so he can learn about the love of the Father that transcends everything else.

  18. David & Lisa says:

    Thanks for a beautiful story. What an amazing little boy – to be able to express himself with real words instead of anger! We have a 13 yr old daughter that we adopted at 7. She still misses her birth parents! As a parent – to hold the daughter I love as my own as she cries for the one thing I can’t give her is heart wrenching times a jillion. But we have learned during these times to thank God for the incredible story that HE is creating. If she lets him she will be a testament to his power in a way that most of us never could. I hope the little guy comes back. He obviously recognizes a safe place to expose his heart.

  19. Amy McKay says:

    Another sad reality is that in today’s world, a child can actually live in the same house as their father and still have an “absent” parent. Parents who let TV and school raise their children instead of putting in the time to do it themselves have no idea the kind of damage they are doing to their poor children. This world needs more parents who will take the time to love and nurture their kids. I admire all those loving parents/caregivers who open their hearts to children they did not give birth to and try to make a difference in their lives.

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