I’m a huge fan of a “good” cup of coffee. When Lea and I recently had supper with friends, I was impressed with their huge selection of coffee in their pantry. As I looked through their different coffee blends, I noticed 5 big boxes of “pumpkin spice” flavor.

“Wow, you guys must really be huge fans of pumpkin spice,” I told them. I noticed my friend duck his head and grin a half embarrassed smile, while his wife rolled her eyes. I had to ask, “Okay, what’s up with the coffee?”

We all laughed when she told Lea and I the story that her husband had read that pumpkin was an aphrodisiac for women. So, he decided to buy a couple of years worth of pumpkin spice coffee , thinking his wife would really “like it”. Before we left that night, he handed me some of his coffee and said, “Here, they didn’t work for me, you try some.” A few days later I bumped into my friend, and to tease him a little I told him that pumpkin spice stuff was pure gold, and I’d buy all the rest he had. He just shook his head in embarrassment.

That got me to thinking about things that really turn women on. I’m not sure things like Tag body spray, cucumber body wash or pumpkin spice coffee will actually work as turn-on’s for your wife, but here are a few things that probably will…

  • Give your wife a back rub, no strings attached.
  • Cook dinner one night and clean up the kitchen when you’re done.
  • Buy her a gift certificate for a manicure, pedicure or massage … for no reason at all.
  • Help pick up and clean the house.
  • Stay home with the kids and let her get out of the house by herself. Or, take the kids out of the house and let her stay home by herself, her preference.
  • Do a chore for her that she doesn’t like to do.
  • Surprise her with her favorite candy, and don’t make a wise crack about the calories.
  • Call her from work just to say hello.
  • Tell your wife you get turned on just thinking about her.
  • Take her on a weekly date.

So, can you add some more I’ve missed?

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I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast. Read 1182 articles by
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  1. Peter P says:

    Best I know is: Pray together.

  2. Dr. Roger D. Butner says:

    Love the pumpkin spice story, Trey! LOL!!!

    Excellent list. These are all so huge. Some others that might make get her going…

    * Stop putting off that thing you've told her you would do. Get it done now without drawing attention to it.

    * Buy her a piece of house-wear/lingerie that you think will make her feel very comfortable, and let "sexy" take care of itself.

    * Ask if there is anything you could do, such as painting, rearranging furniture or closets, etc., that would help her feel more delight in your home. Then get it done.

  3. Anonymous says:

    that's all very james dobson…but i agree with peter…praying together is really the only self-less thing i can think of…the whole "clean the kitchen" thing, it's an absolute, red flag for what is really the motivation behind the kind act…blessings to you…great website

  4. TREY MORGAN says:

    Peter – excellent … thanks for adding that one.

    Roger – as always, you give excellent advice.

    Anonymous – Thanks for your comments.

  5. Gabrielle Eden says:

    I disagree with anonymous. It doesn't matter what the motive is behind the kind act. As a woman I would say, "this is going to work."

    The only thing that would bug me is saying that I look good if a man doesn't really mean it. Don't tell me I look good unless you really think so. Honesty is the best policy there, not the motive of getting sex.

  6. Brie says:

    I don't care if the "clean the kitchen" thing is a red flag, I'll take it, flag or no. It so totally counts. I HATE doing dishes.

    I would also add to the list (and I should say that my hubby has done ALL of these):

    Let your wife sleep in a little bit on Saturday while you get up with the kid(s).

    Plan a date around things that you know she enjoys doing- like going to see a play, or walking through a park, whatever trips her trigger.

    Let her see you being a good Daddy.

    Do something "childish" together- flying kites is a favorite of mine.

    Touch off and on all day- and in a very G-rated way. That innocent little stuff can build up!

    Randomly come home with something goofy that you know she likes- a weird kind of soda, a particular flavor of jelly bean- she'll know that 1) you remembered something quirky and 2) had to go out of your way for her. It's sweet.

    OK. I'll stop now. :)

  7. Edward Wike says:

    Come home early from work! Tell her that you are home early because you missed her so much and needed just to be in the same room with her. Sometimes, just being there makes her feel loved and safe.

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  8. Anonymous says:

    gat a five galloon can halv filleded wit water and turn the lidd till you git er tund up jus rite an thin serenad er…..wooks lik a charme

    Ernest T Bass

  9. Anonymous says:

    an a nother thang………Earnest T dont neva len his toooth brushs

  10. TREY MORGAN says:

    Gabrielle – Honest isn't just the best policy, it's the only policy.

    Brie – Perfect comments. I love the "childish" idea of flying a kite.

    Edward – Excellent

    Anonymous … Not sure about the Ernest T thing … Don't think it'd fly with my wife :)

  11. Brad Palmore says:

    I'm not old enough to help with this conversation.

  12. Jason Browning says:

    Something Brie said "Let her see you being a good Daddy" has been what I have noticed more than anything.

    I can offer to do things around the house, in the kitchen, outside, what have you. Its all good and appreciated. But nothing puts me in the good graces of Cody quite like having spent quality time with the boys. Taking them outside to play, taking them to the park, taking them fishing. Tonight we're going to set the tent up in the backyard. That's a really big deal around here.

    A lot of it is yes, it gives her a break and some time to herself. She definitely enjoys that. But more than anything she enjoys seeing the two kids she loves more than anything enjoying time with their daddy. She has repeatedly told me it is a "turn on" for her.

  13. Tommy says:

    Use Axe body spray instead of Tag body spray.

  14. Anonymous says:

    the coffee would definately turn HIM on at 0630! But for me, a nice shower together, followed by a bath n body works rub down!!!! Does it every time!

    Oh! And don't forget-vacum n clean up all the dog hair!

  15. Stoogelover says:

    Let me just say I scrolled down past the graphic so others in the office would not think I was a perv!

  16. L.C.T. says:

    I'm so glad my boyfriend reads your blog too! Great post.

  17. Diane L. Harris says:

    Dear Trey,

    Trey, it's been too long since I've visited your blog. I'm glad to see you're still dishing out great advice.

    As a wife, I can attest that all of the above work. I'll add one more. If a man wants to turn his wife on, he should learn to sincerely worship God out loud. Women love security and nothing fills a woman's heart with a feeling of safety than to have the spiritual head of her home sold out to God.

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