How to Drop the Divorce Rate to 7% in Your Marriage!

I want to be a 5 to 1 husband!

Statistics on marriage scare me, but the Studer Group has released a new study on “Compliment to Criticism” ratio. They’ve told us from their studies, that people in general need 3 compliments given for every 1 criticism that is said to them. While that didn’t surprise me, the following statistic FLOORED me …

“Reports now show that when it comes to marriage, if you have a 5 to 1 compliment to criticism ratio, the divorce rate in that marriage drops from 50% to 7%.”

DID YOU CATCH THAT, husbands and wives? We are now learning how to beat the old statistic that says that 50% of all marriages will end in divorce. How? Give 5 compliments to your spouse for every 1 negative thing you say. When you take on the 5 to 1 plan, the divorce rate in your marriage drops to 7%. I like those odds!

My goal (and hopefully yours) today is to become a 5 to 1 kind of spouse. Today is a great day to start so before the day is out, I will give Lea five genuine compliments. I’m sure she’s going to wonder what I did, what I want or what I’m up to! :)

5 to 1 … that’s it! And the divorce rate goes from 50% to 7% … It’s time to pass the word.

You up for the 5-1 challenge with your spouse? How about making a commitment today by letting your spouse know or posting it on Facebook … or leave a comment that says, “I’m in!”  It’s called accountability. :)

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I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast. Trey Morgan tagged this post with: Read 1182 articles by
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  1. Carol says:

    I cut this out of the newspaper the 1st time I saw it. It’s still on the front of our refrigerator!!

  2. Those are amazing stats, Trey! I think I’m going to work more on that 5 to 1 strategy. My husband and I, before we got married, agreed that divorce was not an option in our marriage. I think that people definitely need to make that commitment and then work on their relationship. Like all good things, you have to work to keep is healthy.

  3. Angie Cox says:

    I believe it. I think that’s why Eric and I have done well together. He doesn’t criticize me (and never has) even when I probably deserve it, and I try my best to reciprocate by making sure he and others know how incredible I think he is. As many home improvement projects as we’ve been through, I have learned that it is much more effective to say, “Sweetheart, are you sure that’s where you were wanting to place that tile?” instead of, “That doesn’t go there. That’s all wrong!”

  4. Ed says:

    This goes far beyond the typical marriage and can spill over into the church itself…for every negative word people have of you in church, say five possibly positive things about them….can’t think of any? Don’t say anything at all :)

  5. Bo Green says:

    It should be emphasized that “criticism” is how our spouse interprets what we say, rather than what we think we say.

  6. Trey Morgan says:

    Good, very good comments.

  7. Couples should always believe in the vow they made befoe man and God; for better or worse. I mean abusive relationships, you should be out yesterday, but most problems should be subjected to everything possibe before calling it quits.
    good one though

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