HOW DO I WANT TO BE REMEMBERED?

I think the story of James Henry Smith is interesting. James died a few months back at age 55 in Pittsburgh, PA. He was a zealous Pittsburgh Steelers fan. After his death his family planned for an unusual viewing of his body. Per the families request, instead of a coffin the funeral home placed James Henry’s body on a recliner, his feet crossed and a remote in his hand. A pack of cigarettes and beer were at his side, and a TV played a continuous loop of Pittsburgh Steeler highlights.

The family wanted friends to remember James Henry as he was every Sunday for his entire life. Everybody seemed to agree that this was an adequate depiction of him and his life. It was a picture of who he was.

While I love the originality of the story, I couldn’t help think how sad this was to me. What a poor way to spend every Sunday of your life and what a sad way to be remembered as a person. I’m a huge sports fan and I love Sunday afternoon football, but it’s surely not the way I want to be remembered. I want to be known for more than a lover the sports, hobbies or things.

  • I want to be remembered for being a good dad.
  • I want to be remembered for being a good husband.
  • I want to be remembered for being a servant to others.
  • And most of all I want to be remembered for being like Jesus.

I guess the question I have to ask myself is, “If I died today how would people remember me at my funeral?” That’s a tough question, but it’s a question we must all ask ourselves.

How do you want to be remembered?

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I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast. Read 1182 articles by
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  1. preacherman says:

    Trey,
    You already said, it.
    Great post.
    I hope you have a great day.

  2. Donna says:

    I would want people to remember my love and devotion for my family.
    Then I would want them to remember that I loved everyone this way.

  3. Brie says:

    I’d like to be remembered as being a loving, though definitely imperfect, wife and Mommy that liked to take care of people and tried hard to have a real and solid faith.

    And if people wanted to remember that I was quite the nerd and liked a good cup of tea and amusing banter, that would be OK too.

    When Dad died, pretty much his whole funeral was a song service. He loved leading singing, so we picked out 14 or so of his favorites and my husband led the singing. His other close guy friends did the eulogy, read his favorite scripture, and said a couple of prayers. It was an awesome service that reminded everyone about what was important to Dad- which, at the end, was his faith. That’s the way to do a funeral. :) Good singing beats the heck out of football highlights.

  4. Odgie says:

    I would like to be remembered as someone who made others around me proud to be associated with me, either as a family member, a brother in Christ, a colleague, or as a friend. I am afraid that a more fitting epitaph will probably be, “Hey, he meant well.”

  5. Louie Mercer, Frank Mercer and Mike Ellis: The Church for Men Dudes says:

    I want to be “dangerous” to a dull and boring religion. I want a faith that is considered “dangerous” by our predictable and monotonous culture.
    – Mike Yaconelli

    I want a lifetime of holy moments. Every day I want to be in dangerous proximity to Jesus. I long for a life that explodes with meaning and is filled with adventure, wonder, risk, and danger. I long for a faith that is gloriously treacherous. I want to be with Jesus, not knowing whether to cry or laugh.
    – Mike Yaconelli

  6. blogprophet says:

    trey, maybe your fam will prop you up in the pulpit with a smile and a Bible in your hand, instead of in the coffin for your memorial.

    that would be cool (yeah, creepy,too)

  7. TREY MORGAN says:

    Brian –

    How about prop me up next to Lea in a movie theater seat (for dating my wife), with a baseball glove on my hand (for being a dad) and in the other hand a songbook with it opened to 728b? Now that WOULD be cool.

  8. RAN says:

    There was funeral in our congregation last week, where there wasn’t one tear shed. The man was a giver, of himself, and his money. He and his wife raised 5 children and 5 foster children. He alone supported a minister in Nigeria. He loved to sing and had many singings in his home. So his funeral was full of singing and laughter. Best funeral I’ve ever attended. A great man that left a great example!

  9. TREY MORGAN says:

    RAN – Perfect!

  10. TREY MORGAN says:

    Brie – I agree with you last sentence 100% … IF it’s GOOD singing. :) I have no doubt it was there.

    Odgie – Love it.

    Powerful quote: “I want to be “dangerous” to a dull and boring religion. I want a faith that is considered “dangerous” by our predictable and monotonous culture.”

  11. Stachia says:

    I want the entire congregation to sing Sing and Be Happy. It is impossible to be sad and sing that song.

  12. AncientWanderer says:

    I want to be cremated.

  13. Greg says:

    I would want to be remembered as the guy who sat up and wasn’t dead after all!!

  14. Alan Gable says:

    Good stuff, Trey.

  15. Matt says:

    I want to be remembered as a simple servant like you said: to my God, my family, my church family, and my world.

  16. Danny says:

    I caught this story too- good use of it- makes us all think for sure.

    I just want to be remembered as someone who loved.

  17. HisPrincess says:

    I’d like to be remembered. Period. To be remembered means you have done something worthwhile and you have touched people. Of course when I have gone on to be with my Lord and Saviour I won’t really care!
    Sharon.

  18. Emma says:

    Trey,
    You ARE such an inspiration to so many people…..You ARE the MAN….
    Awesome outlook, great faith, true believer, family man….pretty much the most awesomest ever!!!!!!!

  19. TREY MORGAN says:

    emma … the check is in the mail. How much did I tell you I’d give you?

    :)

  20. Adam Gonnerman says:

    In all honesty, at the bottom of everything in me I really only want to be remembered by God.

  21. NB says:

    I want to be remembered as:
    *a kind and caring person who treated others fairly.
    *a friend who helped others in need.
    *a loving mom who followed Christ and introduced Christ’s love to her family.
    *an imperfect person in a screwed up world who attempted to make the best of it and made a difference to someone.

  22. Frank Bellizzi says:

    Just have me stuffed, place me behind a lecturn, and play recordings of my class lectures. Maybe they won’t notice when I’m supposed to be writing on the board.

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