Guilty of Being Too Gracious

When he asked me the question, I knew I’d heard that type of question before. It was one of those, “What if a person is doing…,” questions that ended with, “Will that person get to go to heaven or hell?” He was calling someone’s morality into question, and I could tell by how he asked, he wasn’t really asking the question because he wanted to know, but because he wanted to trap me with the question. It was the same thing the Pharisees did to Jesus on many occasions.

My answer was simple, “That’s totally up to God. He’s the one who makes the decisions on who goes to heaven and who doesn’t.”

I could tell my answer frustrated him. Redness was building from his neck up to his face. “I knew that’s what you’d say,” he said with a frustrated tone. “I don’t even know why I asked you. You’re too soft on people.”

I smiled and told him, “I’m sorry, but I got out of judging business long ago. Who gets in and who doesn’t is not not my place to decide. But”, I told him, “If I’m going to err on one side or the other, I’d rather err on the side of mercy.” He didn’t like that much either.

I left feeling good about my answer. I still feel the same way today.  I think Jesus was a perfect example when it came to being gracious to others. Remember how Jesus acted around those whose lives weren’t exactly to what God wanted? A prostitute, a wealthy exploiter, a Samaritan woman with several husbands, a woman caught in adultery – all people that Jesus would have had a problem with their lifestyle. Yet all found grace and mercy from Jesus instead of condemnation. No wonder Jesus gained the reputation as being a “friend of sinners.” Maybe we can learn a lot about how to treat people by watching Jesus in action.

When I stand before God someday, if I’m found guilty of anything, I want to be found guilty of being too gracious, too forgiving and too merciful. I feel I have a better chance with God that way than I do if I’m found too harsh, too judgmental and too unsympathetic.

“You’re too soft on people,” that guy said to me that day. Well if too soft means too merciful … then I pray I’m guilty as charged!

“So you must show mercy to others, or God will not show mercy to you when he judges you. But the person who shows mercy can stand without fear at the judgment.”   ~ James 2:13


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I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast. Read 1182 articles by
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  1. nick gill says:

    I love you, Trey Morgan. You challenge me every day, whether I like it or not. Keep doing what you do, man.

  2. Amen brother, I wholeheartedly agree.

  3. Jess says:

    I decided to go through my new bible and underline verses that deal with compassion, mercy, and helping the needy. The first verse I opened to was Proverbs 14:31:

    31 Whoever oppresses the poor shows contempt for their Maker,
    but whoever is kind to the needy honors God.

  4. Jo Baird says:

    I have a small rock by my computer that has # 1 on it. We handed several of them out one time at a Ladie’s Niight Out. When I see it, I remember “let him without sin throw the first stone.” Thank you for your reminders.

  5. Greg England says:

    Excellent answer. As I understand Jesus, we will receive mercy in judgment based on the mercy we extended here on earth. Makes me want to always err on the side of mercy.

  6. Jae says:

    From God’s heart, to your writing….

    I can’t tell you how timely this post is. I’m in the midst of losing a friendship after 11 years b/c of her need to judge others. Painful….

    • Trey Morgan says:

      Jae … recently un-friended a guy on FB because everything he wrote was judgmental and harsh. As hard as that was, I can’t imagine ending an 11 year friendship. I’m sorry about that.

  7. may we all be found guilty of being “too gracious” …

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