GRIPING AND COMPLAINING

I think it all started when my mom asked (really told) me to take out the trash.  I was way too busy playing to stop and take out the trash, but because she asked (really told) me so nicely (and I feared her wrath), I did what she asked.  As I left the house I griped, whined and belly-ached all the way to the trash dumpster and back.  When I got back in the house my mom told me that the bible says that I should not be complaining and griping about taking out the trash.  

“What?” I said, “There is NO verse in the bible like that.” I didn’t believe her for one minute. She was always throwing these imaginary bible verses around (that 10 times out of 10 I found out were true) trying to force us to behave. 
She told me to go look up Philippians 2:14, and knowing she wasn’t that smart, I did. Confound-it that woman was right again! Grrrr!  “Some day when I have children, I am never going to quote Bible verses to them to force them to do things they don’t want to do,” I said (actually, fearing mom would end my life where I stood, I only thought it to myself instead of saying it). 
Last week I asked (really told) Connor to go take out the trash.  He was really busy playing and wasn’t at all happy that I had asked (told) him.  I thought I could hear him (or maybe he was just thinking it) griping a little when he went to the alley and back.  I was ready for him as soon as he came back in.  

“Connor,” I said, “You know why you shouldn’t gripe and complain about taking out the trash?”
He said, “Yes Dad, I already know that it says in the Bible not to complain or gripe.” And then he added, “You’ve told me a million times.” 

I love my mom, she was SO smart!
(I curious, did your parents ever say things to you that you vowed you’d NEVER say to your own kids?)

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  1. Scott says:

    Only all the time! My son is vowing not to say the things I do that I learned from my folks for example, child says, “I can’t” My mom’s replay, “Can’t never could do anything but roll down the hill backwards.” I wish I had a dollar for every time I heard that and said that.

  2. Patrick Mead says:

    Only everything.

  3. The Vannoy Family says:

    Of course my parents said things that I vowed NEVER say to my own kids – now I’m realize how WISE my parents were and following their example saying the SAME THING… (Just don’t tell my mom that I said that!)

  4. fraizerbaz says:

    My mom used to say “Because I said so.” I hate that I catch myself repeating those four words.

  5. Evan says:

    I understand that I have no kids myself, but I catch myself snapping my fingers and giving my dad’s “death look” to all of our teens in the youth group when they do something they know they shouldn’t!

    And, yes, I have my list of things I would never do to my kids. However, I have thrown that list away because I now feel my parents may have been a little TOO lenient… something I never would have imagined as a kid!

  6. Anonymous says:

    As an older parent I think I preach to much and have gotten a little bit grouchy and complaining.
    But I’m trying really hard to improve that ugly trait in myself.
    Thanks for reminding everybody. gmj

  7. Janice says:

    My mom always said “clean up your messes as you go along and you won’t have so much to do later” How correct she was, except it may have encouraged that “making things perfect” gene that I struggle with.

    I must admit too, I did get tired of hearing how far she had to walk to school in the snow etc. Now that she is 86 I appreciate hearing all of her memories.

  8. preacherman says:

    As a father it is interesting to watch my 3 boys interact and see what they complain about. I am starting to see the more they have the more they complain. For example my middle son is into transformers and when his birthday rolled around he opened a gift it was a gift card to wal-mart and he shouted out as loud as he could I wanted a TRANSFORMER!!!!!

    I think the Israelites where the same way the more they had the more they wanted and the more they complained about what they didn’t get.

    Anyway brother, excellent post as always. You help us as fathers see the picture to things. I appreciate all of your advice and parenting wisdom. Keep up the great work! Always praying for you, your family and ministry. God bless every aspect of your life! :-)

  9. Dr. Roger D. Butner says:

    Man, I needed that story and verse today! My otherwise delightful 5 year old son sure can grumble with the best of them when asked/told to do something that doesn’t quite fit into his plans. I’m feeling a new memory verse coming on…

  10. Deb ;) says:

    So true! My sons are now grown and not home much, but I find myself repeating “parentisms” to my “kids” in my classroom! When they moan/groan/gripe I say, “Oh really?” just like God says to me sometimes!! They know then that they are really fixing to get a lecture!

  11. Paden Family says:

    “Because I said so.” Is the big one that comes to mind. The verse is one that I had our daughter memorize, haven’t had to use it for the boys yet. I am sure I will though because we have 5.

  12. Robin Brannon says:

    Not yet, but I’m working on it. Just give me time!

  13. Stephanie Harbin says:

    Are you kidding?? I am my mom!

  14. cwinwc says:

    Oh baby, too many to list but I’ll give you this one that I was constantly pounded with and then I became older and realize my “pounding” was teaching instead.

    “He or she’s parents may let them do ________(blank) but we have different standards in this family.”

  15. DearRed says:

    I now find myself thinking, “I hope he has two children just like him”. I don’t say it outloud but I think it loudly. Just like my mom used to do, I am told.

  16. Goreapollosa says:

    Only every other sentence. I also swore I would never spit on my finger and rub something off my children’s faces. Oops!

  17. NB says:

    “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”

  18. Idaho Dad says:

    I’m sure I repeat my mom all the time to my kids, but I can’t say exactly what. You see, all those years ago I vowed never to remember all the things my mom would lecture me about. Only, it sunk deep into my subconscious, and now I don’t know what is my own original thought and what is some lesson from long ago. Probably a little bit of both.

  19. Jenschke Family says:

    You don’t have time to read all the things I said that I swore I would never say (or do!).

  20. chriscrossing says:

    When my kids were younger (the youngest is now in college) I had the freakiest moment where not only my mother’s words but also her voice (we sound alike) came out of my mouth. I actually turned around to see if she was standing behind me, even though I knew she was miles away in another state. I can’t even remember the words I said but that moment was the point where I realized my mother’s influence on me!

  21. Cecelia says:

    I find myself talking to my son the same way my father talked to us growing up.I NEVER thought I’d speak or think like him.WRONG.

  22. Anonymous says:

    I wasn’t brought up in a Christian home and I vowed I would never say to my kids “Where are you going and where have you been.” As far as I can remember, I never did. We always acted as a taxi for our kids because we live in a rural area and there is no public transport available. So we would take them and instead of setting a time to pick them up (because we recognised how time flies when you’re having a good time) we always said “Give us a call when you’re ready to come back and we’ll come get you.” Our kids always treated us well and never took us for granted. They knew we wanted them to be responsible and that we trusted them. We got back the respect we deserved for being thoughtful to their needs without being over-bearing.They also wanted to share what they had done when they were on the way back or when we reached home. They knew we were interested in them as people not just as our kids and above all we loved them uncoditionally.
    Jerusha xx

  23. Donna G says:

    My Dad still says…”You are not going to learn any younger” when I say I don’t know how to do something. I find myself using that one a lot. I try to not do the “because I said so”…. but occasionally it just has to be said.

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