But sometimes even the best planned compliments come out wrong. Like early this past Sunday morning, when I meant to say something nice, but it came out all wrong. Five of us, 2 guys and 3 girls, had just finished up a 4-mile run and were walking back to our cars in the dark. What I totally wanted to say was, “Girls, this running is making y’all look great. Y’all are getting so skinny.” I figured a compliment like that would make that hard 4-mile run seem worth it every step, but my words didn’t come out exactly like I had planned. Instead of being a compliment … it sounded more like criticism when I told them, “You girls sure look skinny when it’s dark.” To make a long story short … I was verbally abused the rest of the day by three girls who didn’t see how I was trying to build them up.
God has given you and I an amazing gift …. the gift of speech. With this gift you have the power to use your words to hurt someone or heal someone. Today you have a choice to use your words to either build someone up or tear someone down. I suggest you use them to build up … just make sure you do it correctly.
“Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing” (Proverbs 12:18).