One of the healthiest things Lea and I have done in our marriage is read together. After we both agree on a book, I’ll read a chapter or two, and then when she gets time, she’ll do the same. Then we talk about and discuss what we read before moving on in the book. It’s been great for our marriage to read together books like The Shack, Red Hot Monogamy, His Needs Her Needs, Financial Peace and many others.

This time we’d like to give away two books and have two winners. First chosen gets to pick which book they want and second place gets the other book. Both books are fantastic, so second place is still a winner too.

The first book is His Needs Her Needs by Willard Harley. I have to admit that the His Needs Her Needs book (and seminar) has probably been the most influential in mine and Lea’s marriage. Lea agreed and said, “It is the best thing we have done for our marriage.” We’ve probably read, used and recommended this book more than any other book other than the Bible. It has been a marriage changer for us and has helped each of us understand the other better. This may be the most used book in my library and in the marriage counseling I do.

The second book is a book that Lea has raved about. “Love and Respect” by Emerson Eggerich is based on Ephesians 5:33. Simply put, a wife has one driving need–to feel loved. A husband has one driving need–to feel respected. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. This book reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily, and biblically.

Nothing would make Lea and I happier than giving away something that would promote and help build strong marriages. If you don’t win a book, I’d still suggest ordering either one of them. I’m going to use a website called “” to pick the winners. All you have to do is leave me a comment and it automatically puts your name into the hat. We’ll pick the winner at the end of the week.

Good luck and thanks for reading.

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I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast. Read 1182 articles by
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  1. mudpuppy says:

    We've read His Needs Her Needs, but I'd love to get my hands on Love & Respect.

    Crossing my fingers…

  2. Amanda KP says:

    you are so right about ‘his needs her needs’ it is amazing how it opened our eyes to each others’ needs!! even though it has been several years since we read that book, we both still refer to it from time to time!! in fact, we should probably get it out and read it again!!
    i like the idea of reading a book ‘together.’ i read the shack and then erik read it…it would have been great to read it at the same time because there were so many times i wanted to discuss things while i was reading but didn’t want to spoil it for him!!! thanks for the idea!!

  3. Terry says:

    I’ve intended to read “Love and Respect” ever since I heard the author interviewed on FamilyLife Today.

    By the way, you must have been saying your prayers since your Fantasy Football team has already beaten me (and we still have to wait until tonight to see how bad the beating will get). Maybe next time…

  4. Matt says:

    shared experience definitely encourages growth and intimacy thank for the recommendation on Love and Respect I may have to check out Red Hot Monogamy sounds like my kinda book. have a great day

  5. That Girl says:

    It only seems fair for a newlywed to get as much information as possible… I’m sure will see the importance of naming me as a winner!!!

    I ran over two miles this morning – a personal record for me. I think it was the cool air that kept me going.

  6. orlund says:

    Both those books sound great. If I don’t win I think I might have to find a copy.

  7. Brian says:

    It has been a long time since my wife and I have read together. We have both read The Shack so I am going to make some time starting this week to begin talking about it. I love the idea and will take a look at these books as well. Thanks for the suggestion.


  8. Hot Cup says:

    Crossing my fingers!

  9. Jackie says:

    I would take a chance on either since we haven’t read them!

  10. Brie says:

    I’m a book reading nerd. I was trying to convince Kyle to read Twilight, but we’d probably get more out of a book that wasn’t about vampires. :)

  11. MamaBaker says:

    I ♥ book reviews. I have His Needs Her Needs. Now I’ll have to read love and respect. Women tend to ask me for marriage advice so these are great books to have under my belt and recommend. Another one I like is A Wife After God’s Own Heart and A Husband After God’s Own Heart by Elizabeth George.

  12. Timbra says:

    alright I'm in. read his/hers before we got married, have it in our own personal library, perhaps we could pick it up again as a refresher. . . here's to hoping on the love & respect (it sounds funny when people use this book title in their comments, like they aren't getting love and respect at home, so they're hoping for it. . . . perhaps a freudian slip on the part of some?)

  13. Stoogelover says:

    Gary Smalley’s books, “For Better or Best” and “If Only He Knew” were great reads as well. He actually combined them into one book (the first is for her to read, the second for him) but I gave it away when I resigned from ministry and I can’t remember the title of the combined work.

  14. Joshua Tucker says:

    Comment. lol.

  15. My Sharona says:

    My husband and I recently went through the Family Dynamics program which used His Needs Her Needs from cover to cover. No matter the stage in a relationship, it proves to be quite a handy text. The latter book, I haven’t read yet. I have added it to my reading list for this year. (By the way…we finished reading The Shack about a month ago. We’re still talking about it.)

  16. Angie says:

    His Needs Her Needs….beware Chapter 3. It tends to expand your family size. 😉

  17. mmlace says:

    Is it okay for me to enter this contest if I’m single? 😉

  18. mattdabbs says:

    So this is your new way to get us to leave comments huh? Does this count as an entry? If not I can leave another one :)

  19. Donna says:

    I enjoy your blog and check it almost daily. We’ve been married 41years and learn something every day to help make our marriage stronger. We’ve done the “His Needs, Her Needs” and would love to win either book!!!

  20. doug young says:

    Love and Respect rocked! Have never read His Needs, Her Needs!

  21. Fillmycup says:

    Please, please, please… I would take either one.

  22. mqmaynard says:

    Sign me up Trey, pretty please!!!!BTW Doug & I are gonna do the book reading together idea. We chose The Travelers Gift by Andy Andrews. He is a history buff & I am trying to be.

  23. wjcsydney says:

    I’m curious if Trey will mail to Australia… I would love either book. After 29 years, there is SO much still to learn/apply.

  24. Dpcbb says:

    Man, I am really going to have to learn to read and write so I can get in on these things.

  25. Mike and Lucy says:

    Thanks for your blog. I always read, but never post comments. But I couldn’t pass up the opportunity to possibly get one of these books.

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us all.


  26. Anonymous says:

    I know i will win this one too!!!. I want love and respect. i think ron almost spit out his drink when i said hey i need this book, “Love and Respect” i dont know if he was laughing at me or with me. dina

  27. Lightening says:

    Trey – any advice on how to get a bloke to actually READ????

  28. Anonymous says:

    Lisa Foreman leaving a comment here…

  29. Laura says:

    love the blog

  30. Johnny says:

    Thanks for the thoughts and humor on your blog. I want my blog to be like this when it grows up.

  31. Steve V. says:

    His Needs/Her Needs was a great book and we even went through the class – funny thing is, I had moved to San Angelo while my wife was still in Abilene finishing up doctor visits while we took the class. It was hard to meet needs when you saw each other for just a couple hours a week.

    Love&Respact sounds like a great book. Is it a sin if you pray to win the book lottory?

    Have a great week!

  32. green horn says:


    I found your blog on the internet about a month ago, and I’m so grateful for it! I appreciate your insight and thought provoking questions. But what I appreciate the most is the way you are constantly lifting up your wife in a public manner. It is such a great example for so many, including myself. Thanks for your contributions to the internet and using the amazing technology to share your faith with people around the world.

    Portland, OR

  33. Toni Burns says:

    So, if I win will you mail the book to Mexico or do I have to come to Childress to pick it up? Thanks for all the time you put into your blog. I read it all the time but especially when I am having a bad day and need a pick me up. Thanks –

  34. newheights says:


    Great recommendations. Great giveaway. We typically use His Needs Her Needs when we work with couples.

  35. A Frugal Friend says:

    I’d love to read Love and Respect. My husband and I read His Needs Her Needs when we were first married – it was challenging to rate your spouse on issues so early in our marriage but ultimately it brought to light issues we needed to focus on.

  36. Dawn Jenkins says:

    I haven’t read His Needs Her Needs…but would love to. I also can’t wait to read Wednesday’s answer to Tuesday’s post!!!

  37. Robert Lukenbill says:

    I have His Needs/Her Needs in my library but have never read it (shame on me)…now I will make a point of it. I haven’t even heard of the other book…any ideas of an easy place to pick it up?

  38. Mark Littleton says:

    My wife and I have read His Needs/Her Needs, and we both loved it. Love and Respect I wouldn’t mind winning and reading.

    By the way, I love your blog, Trey, even though I don’t post much.

    God bless!

  39. Paden Family says:

    David and I took the His Needs Her Needs class with Bruce and we both really benifited from it. What a blessing to be able to have these books to help build your marriage with Christ as the head. It was so worth the time and even the hard discussions that we have given our book to someone else. God Bless you today and your family.

  40. Ginger says:

    Jeff and I need to give that a try! He doesn’t like to read much, but I think this would be a great one to start.

    The things you say about Lea are so sweet, kind and sincere. Your marriage is a great example for the young people in your church to look after. The roller skating story was great! You really need to write a book! : )

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