God has created us for community. It’s called “church.” Church is where we grow, encourage one another, share our spiritual gifts and become accountable to one another. It is where we praise God together, pray together and worship together.
Recently I was asked by a friend who had moved to a new community and was looking for a new church home, “How can I tell if a church is right for us?” and “What are some things we should look for and some things we should avoid in a church?” Those are very good questions, and I thought it would make a great post for discussion. So let’s start with some churches you might want to avoid.
CHURCHES TO AVOID …
- A CONTROLLING CHURCH: I’d avoid any church that feels they have “authority” over all areas of your life. If you have to ask the leadership’s permission to change jobs or permission to move … that’s probably a church you should avoid.
- A PERFECT CHURCH: Avoid any place where everyone pretends to be sinless and without problem. Look out for anyplace that you feel you must dress up and smile every Sunday for an hour of deception, pretending like everything and everyone in the church is perfect. Simply put, avoid a place where no one ever discusses their faults, struggles or problems.
- A WE’VE “GOT IT ALL RIGHT” CHURCH: I wouldn’t want to be part of any place that felt they were a perfect church. Any place that believes that they have all the answers correct and think they are the only ones that have it “all figured out” … that’s not the place for me. The “perfect church” feels like they’re right and everyone else in the world is wrong.
- A CHURCH THAT’S NOT BIBLICALLY BASED: Avoid the church that is more concerned with how they look socially and in the community than how they compare to the word of God. A church that considers the bible to be “out-of-date” and old fashion may not be a church at all. Find a church that seeks the truth from God’s word, follows it faithfully and shares it with others.
Those are a few churches that I would have on my “avoid” list. Tomorrow – Finding the Right Church part 2: “Churches to Consider.”