I once read somewhere that it may be far easier to have an emotional affair than you may realize. When you find yourself connecting with another person of the opposite sex as a substitute, you’ve started traveling a road that too often ends in adultery and divorce.
When these things are taking place, with someone of the opposite sex, it should be a huge warning …
- You begin to talk about problems you are having with your spouse.
- You find it easier to unwind and relax with someone other than your spouse.
- You’re dishonest with your spouse about things dealing with a person of the opposite sex.
- You’ve got a need you feel your mate isn’t meeting and someone else begins to fill that need.
- You rationalize that this new relationship okay, because they are a Christian or “just a friend” and they are helping you through a difficult time.
- You look forward to being with this person more than with your own mate.
- You hide your friendship from your mate.
So, how do you keep this from happening?
- Guard Your Heart. Put a fence around your heart that protects that sacred ground that’s reserved only for your spouse. Share only your deepest feelings, needs and difficulties with each other, not with friends of the opposite sex.
- Know the power of your eyes. The eyes are the window to your heart. Pull the shades down if you sense someone is pausing a little too long in front of your window.
- Don’t hide things from your spouse. One strategy of the enemy is to isolate you from your spouse, by keeping secrets from your mate.
- Get rid of any emotional attractions that have already begun. A friendship with the opposite sex that meets the needs your mate should be meeting must be ended quickly. It may be painful, but it won’t be as painful as dealing with the wreckage caused by a sinful relationship.
- Never be ashamed to ask for counseling or outside help. One of the best thing that can happen in a your marriage is when you come to an impasse, you seek outside help from a reliable source.