7 Things Your Children Desperately Need To Hear You Say

This morning as I dropped Cooper off for school, I told him, “Coop, don’t forget that you are by far my most favorite elementary school kid.” From the grin on his face, I could tell I’d said something right.

God has blessed me with four incredible boys. As their father I want to be proactive in raising them. They are one of the biggest ministries in my life right now. I’d rather fail as a minister, a missionary or a businessman, than fail at fatherhood.  Fathers play an essential roll in the lives of their children.  Want proof?  About 5 miles west of Childress is a prison that houses 1200 men.  National statistics say, “85% of those sitting in prison today grew up in a fatherless home.” That just SCREAMS the importance and power fathers play in the lives of their children.

I got to thinking this morning if I could make Cooper’s day by simply telling him, “He was my favorite elementary school kid,” then what other things do my children need to be hearing from me.  I may be wrong, but I’m guessing here are 7 phrases that children desperately need to hear from both their parents … but especially their fathers ….

  1. “I’m SO glad you’re my son/daughter.” Let them know you wouldn’t trade anything in this world for them.
  2. “I love you. Dad, let those kids hear it … regularly.
  3. “I’m proud of you.” Children crave their father’s approval, so let them know they have it. Let them know you’re their biggest fan and you believe in them.
  4. “I’m sorry.”  This is HUGE, dads!  We are FAR from being perfect fathers so “I’m sorry” has to be a regular part of our vocabulary. Don’t be too cool, big or prideful to say, “I messed up.” You model for them how to handle a mistake.
  5. “Want to do something together?” Whether it’s wrestling in the floor, catching a baseball game or jumping on a trampoline … NOTHING builds lasting memories like playing together. Nothing communicates love more than time.
  6. “God comes first.” We must communicate and model that the #1 relationship in their life is God.
  7. “Do what is right.” As a dad we must practice what we preach. If we preach integrity, character and doing what is right, we need to model it.

Can you think of other phrases that our children need to hear?

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I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast. Trey Morgan tagged this post with: , , Read 1168 articles by
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  1. Ed says:

    I think you’ve covered the best ones…

  2. Ed says:

    And Have a Happy Father’s Day Trey!

  3. Great post, Trey! These are so true.

  4. Leta Salazar says:

    I think that is so true. God loves our children & showed it & we need to show it.Thanks!

  5. Wendy says:

    I love you even when you stuff up…

  6. Lura says:

    So true…our grandson just turned 21 and is proof positive that the fact that his Dad left when he was just 3 years old has caused more trauma than can be described here.

    His Poppa (my husband) and his Uncle tried to be a father to him, doing and saying all the things you listed but it seems that nothing any of us did to try to teach him how to be the kind of man that we all want our sons to be worked. We hope and pray that he will return to the things taught when he was younger.

    Right now communicating with him is like talking to a brick wall. It breaks my heart to watch him mess up his life knowing that it is costing him more than he knows right now and being unable to do anything about it.

    Please pray for him and for us as we try to be there for him.

  7. “I forgive you.”
    The other night at our house, boys went C-R-A-Z-Y. I mean, completely out of control. They were hitting each other, yelling…basically very tired and ready for bed.
    And I was home alone (wife went to a meeting!)
    I blew up at them when they pushed their baby brother down.
    “GO TO BED RIGHT NOW…I’M TIRED OF THIS BEHAVIOR!”
    My wife returned a half-hour later. As I snuck by their rooms, I found my oldest (6 years old) still awake.
    “Dad? Are you still mad at us? You can’t stay mad at us, Daddy.”
    “No, buddy,” I reassured him,”I’m not mad any more. I still love you.”
    He was asleep in minutes.

  8. NB says:

    Excellent points, Trey! I agree with all seven! Here are a few others I’d suggest:

    *”No”. (This one is important. It might not make a child’s day, but, many kids wish their dad would say “no” and set boundaries for them. When they have no boundaries, they feel that no one cares.)

    *”You mean more to me than your grades, awards, medals, or trophies.” (So many children tie the love of their parents to their sports or academic achievements. They feel like they are only important when they win.)

    *”It’s okay to make mistakes.” (Children need to be taught that mistakes help us learn and grow. They also need reminded that they are still loved although they have made mistakes.)

    You touched on this one with #5., but how about:
    *”I ENJOYED spending time with you today!”

    :)

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