They Curse, Cheat, Sleep Around, Get Drunk … and Then Invite Me to Church

I have a friend that’s not a Christian, but she’s very curious about my faith, my beliefs and Christianity. She didn’t grow up in any religion or church and knows very little about the bible. She often asks me questions about Christianity that are very simple, honest and sometimes down right painful. Sometimes her questions are very childlike such as, “Does it bother God when I curse?” and “Why is it wrong for me to hate someone?”

But it was her last question that she asked me that really set me back on my heels. She was totally serious when she asked … “Why is it that the Christians at my work place can be dishonest, sleep with someone in the office that’s not their spouse, ask me to get drunk with them at a party on Saturday … and then invite me to go to church with them on Sunday morning? Something about all that doesn’t seem to be right.”

Honestly, I was floored. Her simple, yet serious question was a slap in the face to the lifestyle of Christianity that Jesus taught and wants me to live. Her question was 100% serious. She wasn’t trying to bash what I believe OR rub my nose in professing Christian’s inconsistencies. She just didn’t understand it and wanted to know. None of it made sense to her … and honestly … none of it makes sense to me either.

I did my best to answer her … but it frustrated me knowing that all my words won’t have NEAR the impact on her that her co-worker’s actions will.

“…let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”

Matthew 5:16

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  1. We aren’t necessarily doing ourselves any favors are we?

  2. Darin says:

    That is the number one issue I deal with when trying to share Christ with others. Why would anyone want to follow Jesus when it seems to mean nothing and change nothing. How can you tell someone that Jesus has a better way to relationships when so many people who say they follow him have terrible relationships? How can you say Jesus offers lasting joy when so many who say they follow him use all of the same crutches to have what they call a good time?

    Praying for this young lady and you as you work with her to see Jesus. Fortunately we know Jesus dealt with religious fakes as well who wanted to look good but were disgusting inside. He didn’t think much of them either.

  3. Scott McCown says:

    This should be shouted from the roof-tops. I will retweet and link on FB. Every Christian needs this reminder. Thanks again and again.

  4. Amy O says:

    What about being criticized when you do turn away from the cursing, cheating, drinking, etc? That is what is baffling me. Especially when I have worked so hard to be the wife and mother my family deserves. I have looked at it as either Satan working to discourage me in my faith or God providing a challenge in my life to stay faithful to Him and share His grace and love with those around me. Maybe some of both?

    • Trey Morgan says:

      Matthew 5:11-12 came to mind … “Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. 12 Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you…”

  5. Burt Fuller says:

    Sad……. but oh so true. :(

  6. George Morgan says:

    What a perfect opportunity to discuss and explain the wonderful grace God offers in sending a saviour to the world of sinners in need of fogiveness

  7. Rick Morgan says:

    How come my church Facebook friends use the acronyms for cuss words? You don’t think that God knows what they mean?

  8. I would have told her, “Because the church is where you can come and get encouraged to be better. The church is a community of believers that sharpen each other and want to see God’s best come about in everyone. We all have had difficult things happen to us and we’re each in our own stage of working through that with the help of Holy Spirit. You never have to feel like you have it all together to come and hang out with Christians. Come as you are but if you open your heart to God, you can expect to leave differently.”

    Or something to that effect.

  9. Kela says:

    This sounds like 1 Corinthians 5:9-13 in reverse!

  10. Lura says:

    As a Christian we walk that fine line in the eyes of the world of being judgmental. We hear, ‘Judge not lest ye be judged’ repeated quite often. I always try to distinguish between judging and discernment. I can know the tree by it’s fruit but it is up to God to judge the worthiness of the fruit…..

  11. Mark says:

    seems better than “cursing, cheating, sleeping around, getting drunk…. and then NOT going to church!” Unfortunately, the world has the impression that followers of Christ don’t struggle to do life, make the same mistakes over and over, and somehow aren’t caught up in being human. Experience has taught me that the opposite is more the truth. Thank God for His grace.

  12. Franklin Wood says:

    Great post, Trey.
    Our teens are going through the book of Matthew and I asked them if they thought Jesus was hypocritical. We looked at His teachings and then searched to see if He practiced what he preached.
    I challenged them with a few things…
    1. If you think the church is full of hypocrites, then why don’t YOU step up and show us how to be perfect? (I then apologized for my own imperfections and made the point that nobody is perfect.)
    2. PLEASE don’t judge Jesus by His followers…judge Jesus by Jesus!
    Hi. My name is Franklin Wood and I’m a recovering hypocrite…

  13. Ed says:

    Obviously there are sheeps in wolves clothing within the church. I hate to be so negative, but we have to tell the truth. This truth may open the door to further discussion, or it may shut the door. You could also explain tha there are many called, but few are chosen.

  14. Eric Keiper says:

    Two of the best tests of character and spirituality are the following questions: “What do I do when I am alone?” And, “How do I treat those who can offer me nothing of value?”

    These two question separate us from an addiction to social affirmation rampant in our culture and from seeing other people as a utility for my personal use. These two moral deficiencies have driven our families, churches and culture in a bad direction

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