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Comment on Can Facebook Cause Marriage Problems? by Marcie

Marcie — Thu, 24 May 2012 11:59:07 +0000

Timely blog. Last week, my husband asked if he should get an iPhone suit. Was a wake up call for me.

Comment on Can Facebook Cause Marriage Problems? by Janalyn

Janalyn — Thu, 24 May 2012 03:27:04 +0000

Totally agree! Facebook makes it too easy to “escape” online and causes many people to reconnect who should not. I’ve personally seen marriages broken as a direct result of FB, not to say there weren’t already issues there, but things would have been very different without that platform of communication. As a result of watching them go through that, my husband and I joined our accounts, which was entirely too difficult. I wish FB would create a setting to allow a couple or family FB page; most of our FB friends think we’re a little weird since that’s not the norm! (But so long as divorce and heartbreak ARE the norm, I’m happy not to be a part of it.)

Comment on Can Facebook Cause Marriage Problems? by Corey Charette

Corey Charette — Wed, 23 May 2012 19:10:23 +0000

Facebook isn’t the only culprit. Technology in general. Spouses don’t need to be constantly connected to the Internet all the time. Put the phone down. Shut down the computer and spend time with each other.

Comment on Can Facebook Cause Marriage Problems? by David Millican

David Millican — Wed, 23 May 2012 18:54:41 +0000

Great article, I have counseled a few people through these type of issues already. I also heard a speaker talk about how to repair a relationship after an affair. One of the things he said was that the offended spouse has complete access to every thing. My wife and I looked at each other and said that should have been done earlier.

One of my biggest frustrations though is when a spouse finds a facebook account left open and use that opportunity to make an embarrassing post. If fosters a sense of distrust and makes people want keep their passwords from you. Don’t abuse the trust your spouse has given you. (This also applies to children who you should have the same openness with).

Thanks for the article.

Comment on Can Facebook Cause Marriage Problems? by Trey Morgan

Trey Morgan — Wed, 23 May 2012 18:25:35 +0000

I agree, Matt. I’m not against Facebook. I’m simply saying that Facebook can cause problems in your marriage if you’re not careful. All I’m saying is that we need to be careful that we don’t allow FB to cause problems in our marriage. Do you think it would be good for your marriage if …

* If you or your wife spent tons of time on FB instead of with your spouse?
* Hide things from your spouse on FB?
* Complain about your spouse on FB?
* And so on?

Just don’t allow FB, the computer, hobbies, kids, or anything to become more important than your marriage.

Comment on Can Facebook Cause Marriage Problems? by Matt Howell

Matt Howell — Wed, 23 May 2012 18:19:45 +0000

Saying that Facebook is the problem is much like saying guns kill people. It’s the person using it that must act responsible. Most likely if I am hiding something on Facebook from my wife than I am hiding other stuff from her outside if Facebook as well. I don’t go into my wife’s Facebook don’t even know her password I trust her! If it was not Facebook it would be something else.

Comment on Can Facebook Cause Marriage Problems? by Trey Morgan

Trey Morgan — Wed, 23 May 2012 18:17:17 +0000

True Jewel … Facebook isn’t the issue, it’s just another means that we have to stay on top of.

Comment on Can Facebook Cause Marriage Problems? by Trey Morgan

Trey Morgan — Wed, 23 May 2012 18:16:26 +0000

Very well put. I totally agree.

Comment on Can Facebook Cause Marriage Problems? by Trey Morgan

Trey Morgan — Wed, 23 May 2012 18:15:38 +0000

Lea and I try and talk about this regularly. I try and always stay signed in to FB on my laptop so when Lea uses it, she’ll know she’s welcome to look at anything she wants. There’s some accountability there.

Comment on Can Facebook Cause Marriage Problems? by Jewel Melton

Jewel Melton — Wed, 23 May 2012 17:52:21 +0000

Thanks, Trey! As usual, those are some wise insights to go by. One of my frustrations with that article that you quoted was the statement made “I see Facebook issues breaking up marriages all the time”.

Um…. Facebook isn’t the issue. The heart is the problem. Facebook is just another means by which people use to engage in sin or not.

For what comes out of the heart is what makes the person unclean… or headed towards temptation and sin.

Comment on Can Facebook Cause Marriage Problems? by Adam Gonnerman

Adam Gonnerman — Wed, 23 May 2012 17:33:52 +0000

This reminds me of all the complaints I heard from evangelicals in Brazil about Orkut. They insisted that the social network was responsible for divorces. In my opinion, the platform isn’t the primary problem. It’s the users who need to use common sense. If someone is cheating on his or her spouse online, or using Facebook or any other social network to facilitate adultery, that’s a sure sign there are problems in the marriage. Temptation and the opportunity to sin may originate via Facebook for some, but I really think that for the majority it’s an indication of other, pre-existing issues.

Comment on Can Facebook Cause Marriage Problems? by Amy O'Connor

Amy O'Connor — Wed, 23 May 2012 16:51:28 +0000

I need to print this and hang it over the computer screen! I have improved greatly but still not perfect. Plus, I think it would be good to discuss with my husband and talk about how some of his FB practices have bothered me.

Comment on My Friend Darrell by Trey Morgan

Trey Morgan — Sat, 19 May 2012 16:54:05 +0000

I don’t do near the blogging I use to years ago. Blogging has changed a lot. Facebook has changed the way blogging is done … with more comments and discussion done there than here. Blessings to you, my friend.

Comment on Soulmate or Roommate? by Trey Morgan

Trey Morgan — Sat, 19 May 2012 16:52:47 +0000

I will try to do this series sometime at a place where they can record. I’m not going to be doing these where there is an recording equipment.

Comment on Soulmate or Roommate? by Trey Morgan

Trey Morgan — Sat, 19 May 2012 16:52:03 +0000

I wish I could make these available. I will be teaching that class in our fellowship hall where there is no recording equipment.

Comment on Sometimes Nice Guys Finish First by Trey Morgan

Trey Morgan — Sat, 19 May 2012 16:49:34 +0000

Comment on My Friend Darrell by Trey Morgan

Trey Morgan — Sat, 19 May 2012 16:49:13 +0000

Honored

Comment on My Friend Darrell by Trey Morgan

Trey Morgan — Sat, 19 May 2012 16:49:00 +0000

Ty … thanks for the sweet note. I know anniversaries, birthdays, etc are always hard.

Comment on Soulmate or Roommate? by Trey Morgan

Trey Morgan — Sat, 19 May 2012 16:48:25 +0000

Travis … every marriage regularly needs a booster shot … including mine.

Comment on My Friend Darrell by Trey Morgan

Trey Morgan — Sat, 19 May 2012 16:46:26 +0000

Ed … toys have changed, haven’t they. I grew up with slingshots and bb guns. My kids grew up with video games and gameboys.