Intimacy is both physical and emotional closeness in marriage. Being physically intimate is what leads to emotional intimacy and is what God talked about in Genesis 2 when he said, “… and the two (husband & wife) shall become one flesh.” Intimacy should be one of the strengths and cornerstones of your marriage. One of [...]

Here are a few things I found written down in an old journal this week that I’d like to share with you. Let’s start with a quiz. These aren’t trick questions, and they’re not hard. But play along if you will. Who was physically the strongest man in the Bible? (Samson) Who was the wisest [...]

Every time I see an Old Spice commercial (like this one), an Axe hair-gel commercial or a TAG body-spray commercial, I just shake my head.  According to the commercials, if you just use these products, women will be uncontrollably attracted to you sexually.  Now men, I’ll be the first to admit, it is important to [...]

I’ve been preaching on marriage this month (here are the sermons if you’d like to follow along).This past Sunday I talked about, “10 Ways to Bless Your Marriage,” and in there I talked a little about sex. Here are a few things I mentioned … “A wise wife puts her husband’s sexual needs at the [...]

My friend Peter Pollock asked if I’d do an interview for him a few weeks ago. I’d like to simply say, Peter asks some tough questions.:) Peter had me cover everything from ministry, to cancer, to having a great sex life. I invited you to come read …. PART 1 IS HERE and PART 2 is [...]

I laughed when I heard a woman mention recently, “It’s pretty simple to get a husband to think romantically. A wife just needs to bring some food and show up naked.” Personally, I’d just like to add to that statement that anything fancier than pizza is unnecessary. While some that may work for getting husbands [...]

Despite all of Batman’s strength, he still struggled to do what was right sexually when it came to Vicki Vale and other women in his life. Superman & Spiderman, despite all their power, couldn’t resist the sexual temptations of Lois Lane and Mary Jane. Many biblical superheroes have had their share of struggles with sexual [...]

I absolutely LOVE to hear my wife pray. About a year ago I wrote this about how husbands and wives should be praying together. I still believe that prayer with your spouse can be as special and intimate as your sexual relationship with them. I heard someone quote a statistic recently that said, “Only 8% [...]

“You sure talk about sex a lot on your blog,” my mom said to me recently. I smiled and thought, “That sounds like something a mom would say.” I really don’t think I’ve blogged too much about sex, but neither do I shy away from it. I personally feel that Hollywood and the media have [...]

I’m a huge fan of a “good” cup of coffee. When Lea and I recently had supper with friends, I was impressed with their huge selection of coffee in their pantry. As I looked through their different coffee blends, I noticed 5 big boxes of “pumpkin spice” flavor. “Wow, you guys must really be huge [...]

CNN had a great article on marriage last month. They said, “When it comes to marriage, each decade will have its own drama, be it child-rearing, layoffs, second careers, and middle-aged angst, along with a big helping of the in-sickness-and-in-health stuff.” Then they finish the article with 9 really good points to making your marriage [...]

It was a long, tiring weekend and I just can’t concentrate on blogging this morning. So I’m defaulting today   Thankfully, my friend Amanda Sanders (aka Red Hot Momma) has written an excellent post called, “Why Husbands Cheat.”  It’s definitely worth you reading this morning.  See you tomorrow.  And as always … thanks for reading.

Two weeks ago I preached on the subject of sex. A few days before that, my songleader called asking the sermon topic so he could plan his songs. When I told him my topic was sex, he was caught a little off guard. “I’ll do my best,” he said. That Sunday morning before his first [...]

I have never been a “sky is falling” type guy, but the new phenomenon called “sexting” really concerns me, and why wouldn’t it … I have three teenage boys. If you have a kid with a cell phone you need to watch this video on sexting that is sweeping through middle schools and high schools [...]

Long before Teri Hatcher, Eva Longoria and the girls of Wisteria Lane was this lady. She was the first desperate housewife. The bible doesn’t tell us her name, just that she was Potiphar’s wife. When she laid eyes on Joseph (not the pool boy, but a servant in Potiphar’s house) she saw a young man [...]

“Marriage should be honored by everyone, and husband and wife should keep their marriage pure…” Hebrews 13:4 Most of the time I write a post, I get some comments and a few days later the post is forgotten. But, there are times when you touch a nerve on a topic and the post seems to [...]

Last week I did a post on “Sex and Men,” (read it here) and the difficulties of staying pure in your marriage. While the post dealt more about men staying pure, a nerve was touched when I mentioned pornography in marriage. I received countless emails from people shouting the dangers of pornography in marriage from [...]

I’ve heard the quote that on average men think about sex every 7 seconds, I personally think that those numbers might be a little on the conservative side God is the creator of sex, and He made it to be GOOD (can I get an “Amen” here guys?!) in the confines of marriage. Yet, due [...]

“NOT TONIGHT DEAR, I HAVE TO BLOG” I found this interesting… Did you know that according to Reuters latest surveys, surfing the net has become an obsession for many Americans with the majority of U.S. adults feeling they cannot go for a week without going online? Amazingly one in three are willing to give up [...]

As she sat in my office she was clearly angry and she had a right to be. Her husband had crossed the line. She’d caught him “sneaking a lustful peek” at another woman and she didn’t like it one bit. “What do I do?” she asked, “He’s supposed to be a Christian husband.” She put [...]

Yesterday someone sent me this article. It’s all about how a church in Tampa, the Relevant Church, has a minister who is doing a series on sex. While I applaud his bravery to tackle this taboo church subject, I was shocked to read that he is challenging his congregation to a 30 day “Sex Challenge.” [...]

Last week I gave you part one of my bible class notes on husbands and wives. It was about “What Wives need from their Husbands.” Here’s part two: “What husbands need from their wives…” HUSBANDS NEED LOTS OF ADMIRATION. Husbands love it when their wives are their biggest fan. Admiration is one of the easiest [...]

I love it when Lea and I read books together. Currently we’re reading the book, “Red Hot Monogamy – Making Your Marriage Sizzle”, by Bill & Pam Farrel. I’ll read a couple of chapters, she’ll read a couple of chapters, and then we’ll talk about the things we’ve read. One of the things we talked [...]

Here are a few things I jotted down in my journal this week that I’d like to share with you. Let’s start with a quiz. These aren’t trick questions, and they’re not hard. But play along if you will. Who was physically the strongest man in the Bible? (Samson) Who was the wisest man in [...]

Growing up I remember shows like The Walton’s, Father Knows Best, Leave it to Beaver, Happy Days, Bewitched, I Love Lucy and others. Most of these shows showed us a traditional family of mom, dad, and kids. They didn’t seem to have any real problems because there are no story lines about prior marriages, step-children, [...]

Our worlds of Christianity and sexuality are commonly viewed as being miles apart. Someone once said, “Christian sex” is an oxymoron. We don’t talk about sex or preach about sex unless it’s a sermon that deals with “the sinfulness of sex” outside of marriage. When was the last time you heard a sermon preached on [...]

What’s Wrong with this Picture? You’ve probably read the story behind the billboard (pictured above) in Chicago that says, “Life is Short. Get a divorce.” It wasn’t so much about the partially clothed man and woman on the law firm’s ad. It was the phrase “Life is short. Get a divorce,” that drew scores of [...]

1. Know how to make your spouse laugh 2. Communicate to your spouse what romantic is to you 3. Look into your spouse’s eyes while listening 4. Give at least one compliment a day 5. Make every anniversary a special celebration 6. Be willing and able to say “I’m sorry” 7. Never get too old [...]

Lea and I have always tried to attend marriage seminars, His Needs/Her Needs training and other things that build our relationship. I think every couple will agree, “We want the best marriages possible.” If my marriage is bad, I want to make it good. If my marriage is good, I want to make it great. [...]