First, I must make a confession … I’m on Pinterest (find me here). Yes, to my men friends … you may want to take my man-card, BUT to this point … Pinterest has been pretty good to me. Let me explain… Towards the end of the year, my wife was spending a lot of time [...]

Intimacy is both physical and emotional closeness in marriage. Being physically intimate is what leads to emotional intimacy and is what God talked about in Genesis 2 when he said, “… and the two (husband & wife) shall become one flesh.” Intimacy should be one of the strengths and cornerstones of your marriage. One of [...]

Spend more time together. Make a commitment to spend more time together this year. One of the best things you can do is commit to a weekly date night with your spouse. This may take you sitting down together with your spouse and planning out your schedule. Brag on your spouse regularly. Any old lame [...]

Sometimes talking with our wives can be like navigating through a field loaded with dangerous landmines. Just one miscalculation or wrong answer and you can land in the doghouse. So on a Monday when you could use a little humor, here are 13 things you should never say or do to your wife or girlfriend. [...]

I’m not a Kim Kardashian expert. I didn’t watch her wedding, I don’t follow her life on television, and I didn’t know much about her until this week. BUT… I did become interested in her when I read that after 72 days she was bailing out on her marriage and filing for divorce. The whole sad [...]

“Dote” is not a word we use much anymore. In fact … I like the word pursue. But just so you’ll know … to “Dote” means: “to be lavish or excessive in one’s attention, fondness, or affection for.” Doting is pretty much what you did to win your spouse before you were married. I’m not [...]

Here are a few things I found written down in an old journal this week that I’d like to share with you. Let’s start with a quiz. These aren’t trick questions, and they’re not hard. But play along if you will. Who was physically the strongest man in the Bible? (Samson) Who was the wisest [...]

(I have no clue where this came from … but it sure made me laugh …) Bob’s Last Letter: It is important for men to remember that as women grow older it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as they did when they were younger. When men notice this, they [...]

There are 2 things that Lea and I repeat over and over in the Strong Marriage workshops that we do … Be proactive in growing your marriage. (Don’t put your marriage on cruise control.) Strive to meet your spouse’s needs. I think every couple will agree that we need to meet our spouses needs, but [...]

I want to be a 5 to 1 husband! Statistics on marriage scare me, but the Studer Group has released a new study on “Compliment to Criticism” ratio. They’ve told us from their studies, that people in general need 3 compliments given for every 1 criticism that is said to them. While that didn’t surprise [...]

There are probably hundreds of dumb things to do in your marriage, but here are 31 that will destroy your marriage… Believe that your marriage will be great without having to invest time or effort into it. NEVER compliment or praise your spouse. Stop pursuing your spouse like you did before marriage. Be critical all [...]

I still remember it like it was yesterday. The music went from loud to soft, the lights were dimmed and the disco ball in the middle of the room made little colored lights dance on the skating-rink floor. It was then that the DJ said, “Alright it’s couple skate time, and girls, it’s your choice.” [...]

My Mom sent the following that I found very funny … but also very realistic when it comes to the way men and women think. Here you go: A husband & wife’s journal from the same day … HER JOURNAL: Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at [...]

Every time I see an Old Spice commercial (like this one), an Axe hair-gel commercial or a TAG body-spray commercial, I just shake my head.  According to the commercials, if you just use these products, women will be uncontrollably attracted to you sexually.  Now men, I’ll be the first to admit, it is important to [...]

Thought I might tell you today about two of our  ”Strong Marriages” workshop coming up that Lea and I will be doing. Childress, Texas on September 17th from 9:00 a.m. – 2 p.m. at the Main Event in downtown Childress. Henrietta, Texas at the Church of Christ on October 1st.  For more information call them [...]

Since so many have been doing the Facebook Marriage Challenge, I thought it’d be a good time to talk about some Facebook Rules for Married Couples. Facebook has become hugely popular in the past few years. Lea and I both love being able to catch up with old friends and family on Facebook. But with [...]

About a month ago I wrote a post about how important it is that you praise your spouse … everyday. Part of my post included these words, “I mentioned while teaching a marriage class recently, if there was one thing that could make an immediate positive impact on your marriage, it would be praising your [...]

I had a young lady, who was a couple of months away from getting married, ask me, “What’s the one thing I can do that will really make a big difference in my upcoming marriage?” The answer for me was easy … “Give him LOTS of praise and admiration. You cannot heap it on too [...]

CAUTION: I’m on my soapbox today. If you don’t want to hear me get preachy … click another link and move right on. I probably don’t need to blog when I’m frustrated. I heard it again the other day. The phrase I hear too often, and when I hear it, it makes me a little [...]

Married couples, especially those with children at home, need to regularly reconnect by … Going on a date every week. Going on an overnight trip once every 3 months. Going on a long trip (more than one night) once a year. I’ve always preached this … but have struggled with following the third one. Lea [...]

I’ve been preaching on marriage this month (here are the sermons if you’d like to follow along).This past Sunday I talked about, “10 Ways to Bless Your Marriage,” and in there I talked a little about sex. Here are a few things I mentioned … “A wise wife puts her husband’s sexual needs at the [...]

Today my heart was saddened when I learned that Arnold Schwarzenegger had an affair with a member of his staff and his marriage with his wife, Maria Shriver, is ending. Affairs. Some call it sleeping around. Some call it cheating or being unfaithful. God calls it adultery … which is SIN. No matter what you [...]

Keeping things or hiding things from your spouse is a sign of problems in a marriage. A healthy marriage is one that is built on total openness and honesty. When it comes to secrets in marriage, there should be none. Here’s a test with some tough questions: Do you hide purchases of things you bought [...]

I’m at the Tulsa Workshop this week talking about building strong marriages and families. Yesterday I talked to a packed house about how to fix a self-centered marriage. The reason it was a packed house, was not because I was teaching … but because marriages and families are struggling, and we’re seeing the value in [...]

I want to give you a book. One of the best things Lea and I have done in our marriage is read together. Our marriage is healthier today due to the “marriage” books we’ve picked out read. After we both agree on a book, I’ll read a chapter or two, and then when she gets [...]

Lea and I are headed to the Dallas/Ft. Worth area to do a Strong Marriages = Strong Families seminar. We’re looking forward to meeting some great couples, who like us, are wanting to strengthen their marriage.  Some of the things that we’ll be covering are … 7 things Husbands wished their Wives knew 7 things [...]

Lea and I did our Meals on Wheels route in a blizzard this week. The ground was covered in snow, the wind was blowing 40 mph and I told her to drive while I braved the elements taking the food to the door. As I zipped up to the door of the second house, I [...]

No way around it, I think that Adam and Eve probably had the perfect marriage. Here are a few reasons why … Eve never had to hear Adam talk about how good his mom cooked. Eve never questioned Adam’s faithfulness by asking, “Are you sure there’s no one else?” Eve wasn’t lying when she told Adam [...]

Today I’m letting Jeff Foxworthy blog for me. Husbands, pay attention … this stuff could SAVE YOUR LIFE… 10. Do I look like my mother? 9. How old do you think I look? 8. What are you thinking right now? 7. Do you think she’s pretty? 6. Do you think I’m worth it? 5. How [...]

According to most women, affection is their #1 need. Affection has nothing to do with sex and is more that just holding hands at the mall. Affection actually comes in many different forms. The key is finding the one your wife likes best. Here are a few different ways a man can show affection… Words [...]

A few days ago we did a post for the wives (“10 Things Your Wife Would Love”), so here’s one for the husbands too. Marriage isn’t about having a trophy mate, but having a trophy marriage. If you get any of these things for your husband this Christmas, you’re sure to get a thumbs up. [...]

  Here are a few things I bet your wife would like for Christmas, Valentines Day or any other special occasion. These are not things you would find in the Black Friday ads or 20% off at the department store, but I can promise you that your wife will love any of them this Christmas. [...]

I love hearing about marriages that have lasted through the years. Long marriages always remind me how much more I still have left to experience in my own marriage and they anchor me in my own marriage. I see them and it helps me to say, “They’ve made it, we can too.” I want a [...]

A couple days ago Lea mentioned seeing a “cute outfit” in one of the local clothing stores while having coffee with her friend, Glenna. Yesterday, without telling Lea, I sent Glenna a text message and asked her if she had any clue which outfit Lea was talking about. She did and agreed to meet me [...]

I laughed when I read, “The only perfect thing in marriage is the airbrushed wedding photo.” Boy is that true. There will never be a perfect marriage because it’s made up of two imperfect people,but that doesn’t mean you can’t have a great marriage. Great marriages take work and knowing the facts. Don’t get sucked [...]