At least once a day I look at the referrals on my stat-tracker to see where the traffic to my blog is coming from. Over 100 of my referrals every day are from Google where someone has searched, “How to keep my wife happy,” or “How to have a happy marriage.” I’m not sure why they find my blog, but I’m sure it has something to do with loving to write about happy marriages (See here, here, here and here). We hear and read about so many unhappy marriages I think it’s good to hear about some happy ones too.
Their life story is an amazing one. In March of 1946, Mildred found herself on a train headed to Texas to marry a man (Ted) she’d only had one date with. They fell in love and married.
For years, Ted & Mildred raised a family and ran Henderson Lumber Yard in Childress, Texas. In 1971, Ted had a heart attack, so his kids took over running the family business. That gave Ted and Mildred more time to spend with one another and more time to fall in love. They spent years enjoying one another and life.
My favorite Ted and Mildred story is how Ted always told Mildred how much he loved her. He made sure she knew. Even in his later days when Ted’s mind began to slip and as his dementia grew, he constantly told his Mildred just how much he loved her. He just didn’t realize how many times he’d tell her each day. He would say, “Momma, do you know how much I love you?” There were even times when he’d wake her up at night just to tell her that he loved her. She’d always say, “I’m the most blessed woman in the world to have a man who loves me this much.”
Her son, Mike, suggested that she might put beans in her pocket for just one day, and every time he told her that he loved her, she could move a bean from one pocket to the other pocket. Then she’d know just how loved she was. She did it, she took his advise, and at the end of the day, she counted 87 beans.
Ted and Mildred have been gone for years. But their legacy of love lives on in their children, grandchildren and those that knew them. A life-long fulfilling marriage of love, family and faith. What an amazing gift from God. It’s what I want…a “bean counting” marriage.