Not long ago I told you that I’m doing lessons in both class and in worship on the family. Two of the bible class lessons I just finished were: “7 Things Wives Need from their Husbands,” and “7 Things Husbands Need from their Wives.” My favorite part of the class has been watching the reactions of couples while I’m teaching. Elbows have been swinging everywhere
Someone asked if I could include some notes from these two classes. So here’s a brief outline for the husbands. I’ll include the wives outline tomorrow.
7 THINGS WIVES NEED FROM THEIR HUSBANDS…
- Court your wife creatively. Guys, you spent months and even years courting your wife before you married her. You brought her flowers, cards, notes and gifts as tokens of your love. Why stop after you’re married? Go for a walk, go on a date, but don’t stop courting. Try to plan a date night every week to “reconnect” each week. It’s not important where you go or what you do as long as you are able to get away by yourselves and talk to each other.
- Communicate with her cheerfully. Men, like it or not, understand it or not, women need communication. They need to talk. Communication is one of the glues of marriage that make it stick and last. There is no telling how many marriages have been killed by ineffective communication. The bible teaches and life verifies that good communication is not automatic. It must be learned and developed. Want more on how to communicate in marriage: click here?
- Be the spiritual leader in the home. Your wife wants you to be the spiritual leader in the home. It’s actually the way God designed it. Real men aren’t satisfied with just providing for their families, but want to do everything God designed them to do.
- Give your family plenty of time. Husbands, did you know that 87% of all wives said they’d be willing to have their husbands bring home less money if it meant their husbands would be home more? Wives want their husbands to give their children and families plenty of time. Don’t believe the old lie that a little quality time is all that’s needed. You can’t get quality time without quantity time.
- Serve her cheerfully. Don’t be one of those, “That’s not my job,” kind of husbands. There’s no such thing as a job you can’t do to help out. You can load the dishwasher, clear the table, vacuum the floors or whatever else she needs help doing. Don’t come home from work, plop your rear in a chair and say, “What’s for supper and why is the house in such a mess?”
- Give her some money to call her own. She ought to have some money budgeted into the budget each month that she can use for anything she wants. With her money she can get a manicure, pedicure, new shoes or anything else without being made to feel guilty.
- Be open and honest. One of the worst things you can do in marriage is hide things from your wife. Even little things you think are insignificant should never be kept a secret. There should be no secrets in marriage. No hidden friendships, text messages, email, passwords or plans. Be open and honest.
So, there are seven things that are sure to make your wife a happy girl. Tomorrow we’ll do the other list.
Also, I’ve posted part 3 from the sermon series “Extreme Home Makeover” if you’ve been following along. This past week’s lesson was, “An Extreme Marriage Makeover.” Give it a listen if you want.