Just like it takes good ingredients to make good food, it also takes good ingredients to make good children.
There are so many negative things battling for our children’s lives these days. Television, friends and negative things of this world are just a few things that are constantly influencing our children. I know not all television and not all friends are bad, but as parents we should be the number 1 influences in our children’s lives.
I don’t have all the answers to raising children, but here are 5 ingredients you can add to your children’s lives to impact them in a positive way:
1. Model your values and integrity. Don’t be the parent that says one thing and then does another. Be the parent that’s brave enough to get up and turn off a television show that doesn’t need to be on. Don’t lie for your kids to get them out of trouble. Let your children see you consistently living what you preach. Be consistent.
2. Pray with and for your kids. Nothing is more intimate than prayer with your kids. When you pray with your children, they get to see your real heart and you get to see theirs. Once while praying with one of my children, they prayed about something that was really bothering them. I would have never known it was a struggle for them had we not been praying together. When you pray, make sure you ask them if there is anything you can be praying about in their life.
3. Love your children. There are different ways to spell love. T-I-M-E spells love. You can’t have quality time with out quantity time. Love is spelled L-I-S-T-E-N. Your kids know when you’re listening and when you’re not. Love is spelled T-O-U-C-H. It’s important to touch your children. Nothing is better than one of my children’s arms around my neck, whether they are 17 or 5 years old. Love is spelled R-U-L-E-S. Believe it or not, it really is.
4. Serve with and to your children. Let your children see you serve others and have them serve others with you. It’s so important for our children to learn to serve others without expecting something in return.
5. Commit to the Bible. Teach them the truth of God’s word. Teach them about God’s loves and about having a relationship with Him. Teach them that God will never leave them and will always forgive them. Today our children don’t need a small dose of God but a large dose.
Do you remember Noah? There are many who think Noah was a lousy preacher. For over 100 years, while he built the ark, he preached to the lost. And when he was done preaching and the invitation was given, no one but his family got on the ark with him. When I see that story, I see Noah as a great success, and I pray I will be as successful a preacher as him. For when that great day comes and God calls us all home, if the only people I’ve brought with me to heaven is my family … then I’ve been tremendously successful.
So those are 5 ingredients that I think are essential to making good kids. What other ingredients can you think of that should be added to this list? Post a comment and let me know.