4 Phrases of an "Unforgettable Father"

Nothing is more important to me than raising my 4 boys. And as a dad, I don’t want to be “just a father,” I want to be an “unforgettable father.”

So how can I become an unforgettable father? Where do I go to find an example of an unforgettable father? What can I say to my children that will affect them for a life time.

Notice what God said to His Son: “When all the people were being baptized, Jesus was baptized too. And as he was praying, heaven was opened and the Holy Spirit descended on him in bodily form like a dove. And a voice came from heaven: “You are my Son, whom I love; with you I am well pleased.” Luke 3:21-22

Here are 4 Phrases “Unforgettable Fathers” Use on a Regular Basis:

1. I Claim You.

  • God told His son, “You are MY Son…”
  • Unforgettable fathers tell their children, “I’m so glad you are mine,” and “I wouldn’t trade you for anything in the world.” Do you know that children who have fathers who bless them, tell them they are special and are actively involved in their lives are more likely to succeed in all areas of their lives? (More on that later this week.) Children need to hear from their dads how special they are. Don’t take for granted that they know, just tell them.

2. I Love You.

  • God told His son, “… whom I LOVE …”

  • Unforgettable fathers show their children an irrational love. I remember doing a funeral for a Christian man who had raised a beautiful Christian daughter. But, I remember hugging her neck, and as she wept she kept saying over and over, “I know my dad loved me, but why didn’t he ever tell me.” Children need to hear their fathers say, “I love you.”

3. I’m Proud of You.

  • God told His son, “…in Him I am well PLEASED.”

  • Unforgettable fathers tell their children, “I believe in you,” and “I’m your biggest fan.” Children need that affirmation from their dads. Just like the little boy who grabbed the football and told his dad, “I’m going to the back yard to kick the football. You come out with me and say ‘good job.'” When is the last time we told our kids “good job.” I still remember flubbing up my first ever sermon. I knew I had stunk-up-the-show. Following the service, my dad was one of the first to meet me down front to tell me, “Great job. It was the best sermon I’ve ever heard.” Unforgettable fathers tell their children, “I’m proud of you.”

4. I’m Sorry.

  • God was the perfect father so He never had to say He was sorry to Jesus.

  • I’m far from the perfect father, so “I’m sorry” has to be a regular part of my vocabulary. I fail as a parent more times than I’d like to remember. I fail to love unconditionally. I’m often selfish and controlling. Sometimes I discipline out of anger and not love. So the question is, what do I do with my failures? I ask my children to forgive me. I’m not too big or prideful to say, “I messed up.” And hopefully I model for them how to handle a mistake. I believe unforgettable fathers are able to tell their children, “I’m sorry.”

Four phrases I need to add to my regular vocabulary. Three of them I learn from the greatest Father of all. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be just a father, I want to be an unforgettable father.

Can you think of a time in your life where your father blessed you in one of these ways? How about sharing one?

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Article by Trey Morgan

I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast. Read 1182 articles by
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  1. Neva says:

    Trey,
    What a great post!!! I remember when I gave birth to my first son. My parents and my inlaws were there. When baby Chad was taken to the nursery, everyone followed including my husband. My dad stayed behind, pulled up a chair beside my bed, took my hand and with tears in his eyes, told me he was proud of me and said a prayer, thanking God for giving him me as a daughter. I will never ever forget that.
    Thank you for letting me share about my dad and what made him unforgettable.
    Peace,
    Neva
    BTW I hear your heart in your posts —I think your boys are blessed to have a father with a heart for God.
    Peace, my brother.
    N

  2. Trey Morgan says:

    Neva … thanks for sharing a thought about your dad. I loved it. We never forget times like those with our fathers.

    As I said in my post, I remember my first real sermon. It was a Sunday night sermon. I remember when it was over I knew it wasn’t very good. I remember one man saying I talk to fast and another saying no one could understand me. And then my dad came over and hugged his 17 year-old kid and whispered in my ear, “that was the best sermon I’ve ever heard.”

    Man, did I need that!

  3. Stachia says:

    My Dad is amazing! He can be tough as nails and to be real honest I have always been a little afraid of him. Mostly, of disappointing him. When I was growing up Daddy ran a full service station and he had an elderly lady that live in the country and she had been working in her garden barefooted and realized that she had just enough time to drive into town to the store before it closed. In her haste to get to town she forgot her shoes and she had mud on her feet. She pulled up at the station first and Daddy went out to fill her car up and wash her windows and she asked if she could use the water hose to watch her feet off. Daddy went in and got a clean towel and washed her feet off for and then went next door and got her milk because she was embarrsed to go in without shoes on. What a great example for a little girl to see. Daddy helps me out so much, especially with the kids, he calls every day and every once in a while out of the blue, it seems when I need it the most, he tells me he is proud of me and I’m doing a good job, what a boost he gives me. Thanks for letting me tell about my Dad.
    Stach

  4. Lisa says:

    I think I have a really great Dad too. There’s no doubt in my mind that he is proud of me, that he loves me, and that he would claim me a million times over. Of course, he was near-perfect so he never had to apologize. Just kidding! :) And, like Neva said, we can see your heart in your posts and I think I see a lot of what made my own Dad so great. As a mom, I appreciate the reminders too.

  5. Trey Morgan says:

    I love the fact that Father’s can and do make a positive impact on their children’s lives. We hear too many stories about “bad dads” and “terrible parenting,” I’m glad we can share some good things.

  6. The Preacher's Household: says:

    There is a reason why I am a “Daddy’s Girl”. Dad is not only great to me, but has taken in lots of boys that didn’t have dads.
    One day, I was bent over his knee waiting for the wack when I looked back for the usually loving hand. I caught a glimpse of the tear in his eye. Dad never spanked me because he was angry, only because he knew I needed discipline. A day before I got married, he popped me on the bottom after I said something really ugly. He said, “I won’t be able to do that anymore, so you need to learn to be nice.”
    Most people do not have fond memories of being punished, but because of the way Dad did it, I knew he loved me.
    Kathy

  7. Bobby Cohoon says:

    Good post brother. How do oyu find time to post with such a long Honey Do List? :-) Let’s see today…went to get kerosene for someone,car broke down on the way, got the car back home and borrowed my dad’s car, had to bring my dad coffee, went home to wowrk on car, had to stop and go give my dad a hand…went back hometo work on car…had to stop and go get neice from school…7 tonight got car fixed, then found about a gazillion and a half of other thigns that HAD to be done…write new blog at 9! Wrote about love so I would remember that’s what it’s all about!

  8. john dobbs says:

    Trey, these are words I seldom heard from my father. You are so right about the power of them. I try to say these things to my son … and often am ashamed I find myself acting like my dad … keeping them to myself. I needed this reminder.

  9. Monalea says:

    Trey,

    I have had the opportunity to watch you and your boys over the past 17 years and I stand amazed at how you love them and more importantly how they respect you. But as I watched I saw you teach them love and respect by the way you treated them. America could use many more dads like you!

  10. nb says:

    Trey-
    I don’t have a story, but I have to say that this is an excellent post!
    Very powerful. Wouldn’t it be great if all kids could have this type of experience?!

    I’m passing your four phrase advice on to all of my friends.

  11. Trey Morgan says:

    Bobby – You’d better slow down. People are going to start believeing that preachers work more than one day a week. ha

    Monalea … no more gushing like that. The $10 is in the mail. :)

    NB – thanks for leaving a note.

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