31 Stupid Ways to Kill your Marriage

There are probably hundreds of dumb things to do in your marriage, but here are 31 that will destroy your marriage…

  1. Believe that your marriage will be great without having to invest time or effort into it.
  2. NEVER compliment or praise your spouse.
  3. Stop pursuing your spouse like you did before marriage.
  4. Be critical all the time.
  5. Demand that your spouse meets your needs.
  6. Pout when you don’t get your way.
  7. Consider sex a chore and only do it because you feel obligated.
  8. Use the silent treatment when you are mad.
  9. Get angry … often.
  10. Flirt with people other than your spouse.
  11. Tell your spouse they need to make changes, but you make no effort to change.
  12. Never be willing to meet your spouse’s needs.
  13. Make no effort to improve yourself or your marriage.
  14. Speak negatively about your spouse around other people.
  15. Make no effort to keep yourself “looking good” for your spouse.
  16. Use derogatory words like stupid, dumb, ignorant and idiot.
  17. Always blame your spouse for the problems. It’s never your fault.
  18. Take your mate for granted.
  19. Quit trying to impress your spouse (you’re married, it’s not needed anymore).
  20. Withhold sex.
  21. Never take any time to get away without the kids.
  22. Don’t tell your spouse how much you love or appreciate them. Just expect them to know it.
  23. Be dishonest.
  24. When arguing … bring up old stuff from the past.
  25. Have a short fuse.
  26. Feel that God is an option in your marriage, not an essential.
  27. When angry be verbally abusive.
  28. Never seek outside help when you have problems.
  29. Have an “it’s my way or the highway” attitude.
  30. Spend more time with your friends than your spouse.
  31. Never say “I love you.”

Can you think of any others?

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I am a Christian husband and father, who moonlights as the minister for the church of Christ in Childress, Texas. My wife Lea and I have been married for 25 years. We are doing our best to raise our 4 boys, who are all growing up way too fast. Trey Morgan tagged this post with: Read 1182 articles by
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  1. Rick Morgan says:

    So many ways, no wonder it happens so often.

  2. Chris Casillas says:

    Brutal list. Why’d you have to put this out today? I think I’m guilty of like 1/4th of these in the last 24 hrs.

  3. jel says:

    ok Trey,
    about # 10 , what do you consider as fliting?

    • jel says:

      did I ask this in the wrong way?

      I asked my DH, what was consider Fliting,
      and he didn’t know , and said we don’t , and that’s true, so can anyone tell me, what is condider fliting?

      this has been bugging me!! 😕

      • Trey Morgan says:

        Jel …

        I apologize, somehow I missed this comment. I promise I wasn’t ignoring you. :)

        Flirting is when you’re purposely trying to get impress someone of the opposite sex. When it goes to far, it can cause problems in marriage. I often ask Lea if she’s okay with certain things I do or say, and she helps me to see if something could be construed as flirting.

  4. Amy O'Connor says:

    Thanks for this post Trey! #10 has definitely plagued my marriage here lately as well as a few others and caused big issues. Being honest with him about my feelings regarding it has helped. Geez! Marriage is so hard!

  5. Wendy says:

    32. Blogging/tweeting/fb-ing about your partner’s shortcomings or your marital difficulties.

  6. shauna says:

    Trey – thanks for posting these – I fallen in quiet a few of these and hopefully will fall out of them too!

  7. Ed says:

    I think you’ve covered them all very well…but then again I’m not married :)

  8. Jason says:


    I thought this was a great list so I cross posted it on my blog. Thanks for having great content!


  9. Colton says:

    33. Value your children over your spouse
    34. Vent to your parents about your spouse
    35. Lean on your parents instead of your spouse

    Great list man! I am reposting :)

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