Your spouse deserves to be a priority, and every marriage needs an occasional shake-up. We all get into a rut that sometimes moves our marriage to the back burner. So let’s consider making a resolution this year to make our marriage a priority, and bring back some fun.
1. FOCUS ON THE GOOD: Early in marriage we tend to overlook our spouse’s faults and focus on their good qualities. Later in marriage we get in the bad habit of doing the opposite; overlooking good qualities and focusing on the things that get on our nerves. We need to focus on the positives and then brag on our spouse. Any old lame critic can pick out someone’s faults. Instead focus on pointing out your spouse’s strengths.
2. EMBRACE YOUR DIFFERENCES: We say this here on a regular basis: we are very different. From the way we hang up our clothes, to the way we drive, to the way we eat … everything is different. We want to quit micromanaging each other, being different is okay.
3. LET THE PAST GO: We are not perfect people, therefore we will never have a perfect marriage. It’s easy to get “historical” when you argue, bringing up old hurts from the past. If you do this, you must let it go. Dragging the past into your present will only poison it. There comes a time to forgive and move on.
4. COMMIT TO A WEEKLY DATE NIGHT: We’re talking about finding time to be alone as a husband and wife, whether this is meeting for lunch when the kids are in school, or finding a babysitter and going out. Date nights are one of the healthiest things you can do for your marriage, yet according to last month’s poll we took, 2/3’s of you haven’t been on a date in over a month. If you make any goal for 2018, maybe it should be a commitment to a weekly date night.
5. FIND TIME TO BE INTIMATE: If most of your interaction with your spouse revolves around grocery lists, talking about schedules and your kids activities … you’re doing it wrong. Those things are important, but they’re not why you got married. Don’t get so busy that you miss out on physical intimacy. You connect with your spouse through touch, cuddling, sex, etc. If you don’t feel “connected” consider looking at your lack of intimacy.
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